3 reasons to avoid bitterness

3 reasons to avoid bitterness
When you are not married but want to be married, it is very easy to become bitter.

Christians hear preaching about how obedience brings blessings and you wonder why God doesn't bless you with a spouse. Obey God to the best of your ability, pray to meet the right person, yet it does not happen.

It is even more difficult when friends or relatives have happy marriages and children. You ask, "Why not me, God? Why can't I have what they have? "

Long-term frustration can lead to anger and anger can degenerate into bitterness. Often you don't even realize that you have slipped into a resentful attitude. If it happened to you, here are three good reasons to get out of that trap.

Bitterness damages your relationship with God

Bitterness can put you in a contradictory relationship with God. You blame him for not being married and you think he is punishing you for some reason. It is absolutely wrong because Scripture says that God is not only enormously in love with you, but that his love is constant and unconditional.

God wants to help you, do not harm you: “So do not be afraid, because I am with you; do not be discouraged, because I am your God. I will strengthen and help you; I will support you with my right right hand “. (Isaiah 41:10 NIV)

Your intimate and personal relationship with Jesus Christ is the source of your strength when things go wrong. Bitterness forgets hope. Bitterness erroneously directs your attention to your problem, rather than to God.

Bitterness takes you away from other people

If you want to get married, a bitter attitude can scare a potential spouse. Think about it. Who wants to get involved with a bad and cynical person? You wouldn't want a spouse with those qualities, would you?

Your bitterness inadvertently punishes your family and friends. Eventually, they will tire of walking on tiptoe around your delicacy and leave you alone. Then you will be more alone than ever.

Like God, they love you and want to help. They want the best for you, but bitterness pushes them away. They are not to blame. They are not your enemies. Your real enemy, the one who is telling you that you have every right to be bitter, is Satan. Discouragement and bitterness are two of his favorite ways to get away from God.

Bitterness distracts you from your best self

You are not a negative person, tough. You don't attack people, you get down and refuse to see anything good in life. It is not you, but you have taken a detour from your best self. You took the wrong path.

In addition to being on the wrong track, you have a sharp pebble in your shoe, but you are too stubborn to stop and remove it. Shaking that pebble and getting back on the right path makes a conscious decision on your part. You are the only one who can end your bitterness, but you must choose to do so.

3 steps to freedom from bitterness
Take the first step by going to God and asking him to be responsible for your justice. You have been hurt and you want justice, but that's his job, not yours. It is He who makes things right. When you return that responsibility to him, you will feel a heavy load come off your back.

Take the second step by thanking God for all the good things you have. By focusing on the positive instead of the negative, you will gradually find the joy that returns to your life. When you understand that bitterness is a choice, you will learn to reject it and instead choose peace and contentment.

Take the last step while having fun and loving other people again. There is nothing more attractive than a loving and joyful person. When you make that emphasis of your life, who knows what good things could happen?