Discussion of the day "sex before marriage"

Discussion of the day "sex before marriage" Question. I have friends who are sexually active. I care about them and think they are good people, so I don't want to insult them. But how do I tactfully encourage them to reconsider their behavior?

Answer. Thank you for your question and most importantly for your concern for your friends! Let me offer some thoughts.

I'd say it's a good thing that you don't want to "insult" your friends as you say. Usually, how we say something is just as important as what we say. If your friends feel that you don't understand them, judge them, or are angry with them, they may not listen to you. But what you have to share with them is very important for them to hear! Having a sexual relationship, outside the context of marriage, is not part of God's plan for anyone. So let's take a look at both the message you need to share and the best way to communicate it to them.

God made sex a very good thing. By making us sexual beings, God has allowed husband and wife to unite in a profound, permanent and exclusive way. It also made it possible for husband and wife to share his power of creation when this sexual exchange had children. But sex should only be shared between two when there has been this permanent and exclusive commitment that is also open to children.

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Sex without marriage

Discussion of the day "sex before marriage" It is important to know that sex is also, in a sense, a "language". As a language, sex is a way for a couple to communicate certain truths. These truths cannot be separated from sex because God is the one who designed it. One thing that sex says is, "I am committed to you for life!" Also, he says: "I commit myself to you and you only for life!" The main problem with sex outside of marriage is that it's a lie. Two people who are not permanently and exclusively committed to each other in marriage should not try to say, with their bodies, that they are.

When this happens, I think the sexual act confuses things a lot! And basically, I think everyone knows. The problem is that, sometimes, these good wishes, meant to be shared with your spouse, will do great harm if used in any other way. In fact, I'm pretty confident that your friends, or anyone in a sexual relationship outside of marriage, knows what they're doing is wrong. And, of course, we cannot forget the fact that sex is also done for the possibility of children. So basically, when two have sex they also say I'm ready to have a child if God so chooses to bless us with one.

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But communicating it to your friends is, perhaps, the hardest part. What I would say is that you start by telling them that you care about them and that is why you are concerned about the choice they are making. They may not accept what you say at first and may even get a little angry with you. But, as long as you try to talk to them humbly, sweetly, with a smile, and even clearly, you may have a chance to make a difference.

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In the end, even if they don't listen to you right away I wouldn't feel too bad. Offering them your loving thoughts can plant a seed that will take some time to make sense to them. So keep doing it, be consistent, be loving, and most importantly, pray for them. And remember that they really need, and probably want, to hear what you have to say.