Is it a shame to take a crush and fall in love?

One of the biggest questions for Christian teenagers is whether or not having a crush on someone is actually a sin. We have been told many times that lust is a sin but a crush is equal to lust or is it something different?

Crushing against lust
Depending on your perspective, lust cannot be different from having a crush. On the other hand, they can be very different. It's all in what your crush involves.

The Bible is very clear that lust is a sin. We know the warnings against sexual sin. We know the commandment on adultery. In Matthew 5: 27-28, "You heard that it was said: 'Do not commit adultery'; but I tell you that all those who look at a woman lustful for her have already committed adultery in her heart. " we learn that looking at a person with lust is a form of adultery. So how are you looking at your crush? Is it something you crave for him or her?

However, not all crushes involve lust. Some crushes actually lead to relationships. When we desire, we focus on the pleasure of ourselves. He's controlling sexual thoughts. However, when we think of relationships in a biblical way, we are guided towards healthy relationships. Wanting to know someone better, to date, is not a sin if we do not allow lust to intertwine in the crush.

Crush like distractions
Lust isn't the only sinful danger with crushes. We can often get very involved in our crushes to the point where they become obsessions. Think how far you would go to impress a crush. Are you changing to please a crush? Are you denying your faith to go well with your crush or his friends? Are you using people to reach it? When crushes become distractions or other harmful ones become sinful.

God wants us to fall in love. He designed us this way. However, changing everything about you is not the way to be in love, and changing everything is not a guarantee to make you like your crush. We must find others who love us as we are. We have to go out with people who understand our faith and accept it, even help us grow in our love for God. When the dunks make us move away from the important principles of God, this leads us to sin.

When we put our crush on God, we are surely sinning. The commandments are clear that we avoid idol worship and idols come in all sorts of forms, even people. Often our crushes begin to take our thoughts and desires. We do more to please our crush on our God. It is easy to get caught up in these desires, but when God is cut or reduced, we are violating His commandments. He is first God.

Crushes that turn into relationships
There are times when crushes can lead to dating relationships. Obviously we go out with people we are attracted to and we like. While something good can start with a crush, we must be sure to avoid all the pitfalls that lead us to sin. Even when our crushes end in relationships, we should make sure that those relationships remain healthy.

When a crush turns into a relationship, there is often an underlying fear that the person will leave behind. Sometimes it seems that we are more in the relationship than in the crush, or we feel so lucky that the crush even worries us, so we lose sight of ourselves and God. Fear is not the foundation of any relationship. We must remember that God is always with us and God will always love us. That love is getting bigger. Want positive relationships for us.