If my son doesn't excel, my wife makes a tragedy of it. Is it right to project your dreams onto your child?

Today we want to talk to you about the behavior of some parents towards their children, through the words of a man's outburst. His wife and mother of Davide, an 18 year old boy, despite having a son studious, tidy and who always respects his parents, even when he goes to have fun with friends, it is never enough. If the boy gets home a grade lower than 9, the woman scolds him, punishes him and makes it a tragedy. The man talks about it because he is tired of this life and his wife's behavior.

As parents it is natural that we expect the best from our children. We feel the responsibility to ensure that they are educated, responsible and making their dreams come true. But it is important to understand when these expectations become one excessive demand and how to respond to moments when they are content with who they are.

The growth and development of a child does not follow a precise plan. Everyone has their own personality, talents, weaknesses and preferences. Be a good parent it means appreciating these differences and helping our children discover themselves, without forcing them to align themselves with an idea or preconception of ours.

Is it right to project your dreams onto your child?

Too often unfortunately it happens that the dreams and expectations that a parent projects on children are nothing more than wishes and missed opportunities in their lives. If these wishes have not been fulfilled, parents may try to realize them through their children.

For example, if a parent has always wanted a career in field of music but never had the opportunity to do so, he could push his own son to study music and become a famous musician. This can lead to a load of expectations and pressures excessive pressure on the child, who may not be interested or talented in the music industry.

It is important to remember that i children they are unique individuals with their own talents, desires and dreams. It is essential that parents respect and support their passions, rather than imposing their desires. Always remember to love your children for who they are, with their limits, their mistakes, their failures and their fears. Only in this way will you help them grow and become safe people.