Should we or God choose our partner?

God made Adam so he didn't have this problem. Not many men in the Bible, either, since their spouse was generally chosen by their fathers. But we live in the 21st century and things have changed. Children meet at drunken parties all night long, wake up, fight, have children, fight, let well-being make their way and live in dark walk-ups on the third floor.

But almost certainly you want better, so to start I suggest attending events where you are likely to find the most eligible companions, hopefully those who believe in God. These could be camps, school or school dances, big picnics, school clubs, church services (especially in churches other than yours if you have one) and so on.

Another good way to find a person to date and perhaps to mate would be to voluntarily offer your time to worthy causes that people of your age already have to help others. Somewhere, in the midst of all this, there is a young woman who wants to spend her future with Mister Right and someone whom God can approve.

Take some time to chat and listen to the girls. Ask questions that will induce them to talk about themselves, their hopes, their dreams. And don't volunteer to talk about yourself until they ask you. You have to make them the most important person in the conversation.

When you pray to God, talk to him about the young women you got to know, then humbly ask for his help in deciding which of them (if any) could be a possible companion.

Whatever you do, don't sit on the porch waiting for God to send you a partner. You will wait a long time and the only thing it will send is rain and snow.

An important dating principle can be found in 1Samuel 16: 7 in which God warns the prophet Samuel not to judge someone by their outward appearance or appearance, but rather by their character. The most beautiful girl in the gathering will probably not be as good as a companion like the simple Jane who is rarely asked for an appointment.

In the end, when you and God decide who will be your life's companion, treat her as Johnny Lingo treated his bride. In an island country where wives were bought, the normal asking price was four cows; five or six if the woman was particularly beautiful. But Johnny Lingo paid eight cows for a thin, hesitant, shy woman who walked with her shoulders curved and her head low. Everyone in the village was amazed.

Several months after the wedding, Johnny's partner had turned into a beautiful, ready and self-confident woman. Johnny explained: “What matters most is what a woman thinks of herself. I wanted a wife of eight cows, and when I paid for her, and treated her that way, she found out that she was worth more than any other woman in the islands. "