Prayer for friendship "to be true friends with one's neighbor"

We have been commanded to love ourselves each other in the same way that he loved us, so I can't help but think that there is a measure of Jesus in making new friends. As you open your life to new people, let these simple ideas help you turn a simple acquaintance into a true friend.

This is my commandment: love one another in the same way that I have loved you. There is no greater love than giving one's life for one's friends. You are my friends if you do what I command ... Now you are my friends, for I have told you everything the Father has told me. -John 15: 12-15

There is always room for one more

Whether your life is overflowing with people or your daily existence is rather lonely, there is room for another true friend. Most of us have more obligations than time, but the truth is, most of us haven't learned to manage our priorities. It's not easy, but if you want to spend time in a relationship, chances are there is something you can edit or remove to make room for it, whether it's a month-long night during which you don't watch Netflix. without interruption to dine with a friend. Or spend your coffee break catching up on the phone. Or texting just because you know it will make her laugh. Or occasionally wake up an hour earlier to walk together before the rest of the house wakes up. It's worth the potential sacrifices.

It's not just about you. Share your stories and be real, but remember that friendship is a two-way street. A one-sided friendship doesn't go anywhere fast. As interesting as your stories may be, they are better if I can share mine too. We all want to be seen, heard and understood, so ask questions. See what you can learn. Gaining new perspectives will enrich your understanding, even if this friendship doesn't last. Instead of asking yourself what you will get in return, ask yourself what you can offer. It changes the dynamics of the relationship and often results in mutual kindness.

Practice altruism and generosity

Many friendships die because a person resents all efforts, so decide now to be the person who does most of the work. People are busy, and their lack of communication may not be rejection but a normal response to a busy life. Don't take it personally; try again. When you invest time in your friends, they will know they are valuable to you and even if they don't respond, you will know that you have tried. Whenever we open up, we risk getting hurt, but when our efforts are met with the same kind of generous spirit, the relationship expands exponentially and becomes more than you could have imagined.

Above all, first of all and in spite of everything, love one another. It sounds obvious and it sounds trite, but it's true: love is the answer to almost any question. In all things, he is wrong on the side of love. This way you will brighten the life of everyone involved, and as you practice living the way Jesus taught, you will see more of him in your friends and they will see more of him in you.

A prayer for friendship: Dear Lord, teach me to love others the way you loved me first. As I build relationships with others, let them see you in the extent of my generosity, in the authenticity of my kindness, and in the depth of my love. All these things are possible only through you, the God who abides with me and calls me friend. Amen.