Yadda za a taimaki wasu ta hanyar rikicin bangaskiya

Wani lokaci hanya mafi kyau don ba da shawara ga masu shakatawa shine yin magana daga wurin gwaninta.

Lokacin da Lisa Marie, yanzu tana da shekara arba'in, tana yarinya, sai ta fara shakkar Allah. Tayi cikin dangin Katolika masu aminci a coci kuma tana halartar makarantar sakandare ta Katolika, Lisa Marie ta sami shakkuwar wadannan shakku. Ya ce: "Ban tabbata ba duk abin da na ke koya game da Allah gaskiya ne." “Don haka na roƙi Allah ya ba ni ƙarfin yawan ƙwayar mustard. Nayi addu'a Allah ya bani ikon bangaskiyar da bani dashi. "

Sakamakon, in ji Lisa Marie, babbar gogewa ce ga juyi. Ya fara jin kasancewar Allah kamar bai taɓa yin irinsa ba. Rayuwarta na addu'arta ya dauki sabuwar ma'ana da kuma mai da hankali. Yanzu sunyi aure da mahaifiyar Josh, 13, da Eliana, 7, Lisa Marie tana ba da izini game da abin da ya faru da kanta kuma tana jin shakka lokacin da ta yi magana da wasu game da batutuwan bangaskiya. "Ina jin kishin abin da kawai dole ne in yi idan kana son imani shine roko a gare shi - ka buda shi. Allah zai yi sauran, ”in ji shi.

Yawancinmu na iya jin rashin cancanta su ba da shawara ga mutum game da imaninsu. Abu ne mai sauki don nisantar: waɗanda ke da shakku na iya ƙin yarda da tambayoyinsu. Mutanen da ke da bangaskiya mai ƙarfi za su iya jin tsoron yin girman kai a ruhaniya sa’ad da suke magana da wani wanda yake kokawa.

Maureen, mahaifiyar yara biyar, ta gano cewa hanya mafi kyau don ba da shawara ga masu shakatawa ita ce yin magana daga wurin gwaninta. Lokacin da babban aboki Maureen wanda yake da karamin riba a baya ya kasance yana fuskantar fatarar kudi, abokantakarsa ta ji ƙyamar tsarin tattara bayanai da kuma karɓar harajin da take karɓar saboda bikinta.

“Abokina ya kira ni cikin hawaye kuma ta ce tana jin cewa Allah ya rabu da ita, cewa ba za ta iya jin gabanta kwata-kwata. Duk da cewa fatarar ba laifin abokina bane, amma ta ji kunya kwarai da gaske, ”in ji Maureen. Maureen ya dauki numfashi mai zurfi ya fara magana da abokinsa. "Na yi kokarin sake tabbatar mata cewa ba daidai bane a samu" bushewar yanayin "a rayuwarmu ta imani inda muka rasa gaban Allah da dogaro da na'urorinmu maimakon dogaro da shi a cikin komai," in ji shi. "Na yi imani da cewa Allah ya ba mu damar wadannan lokutan domin, yayin da muke aiki da su, muna yin addu'a ta wurinsu, an karfafa bangaskiyarmu a daya bangaren".

Wani lokaci ba da shawara ga abokai da shakku na iya zama da sauki fiye da tattaunawa da 'ya'yanmu game da tambayoyinsu na bangaskiya. Yara na iya jin tsoron faranta wa iyaye da ɓoye shakkunsu, ko da sun halarci coci tare da dangi ko kuma suna cikin darussan ilimin addini.

Hadarin anan shine yara zasu iya amfani da hanyar haɗa addini da ƙwarewar bayyanar da imani. Maimakon su yi haɗari don nutsewa zurfi kuma su tambayi iyaye game da bangaskiyar, waɗannan yara sun zaɓi yin tsalle akan saman addini kuma yawancin lokaci suna ƙaura daga cocin da zarar sun manyanta.

“Lokacin da babban dana ya kasance dan shekara 14, ban yi tsammanin zai bayyana shakku ba. Ina tsammani yana da shakka, don me a cikin mu bai aikata shi ba? "In ji Francis, mahaifin yara hudu. "Na ɗauki tsarin tattaunawa wanda na tambaye shi abin da ya yi imani da shi, abin da bai yi imani da shi ba da kuma abin da yake so ya gaskanta amma abin da ba shi da tabbas. Na saurare shi da gaske kuma na yi ƙoƙarin sa shi lafiya don in bayyana shakkunsa. Na bayyana kwarewar ta a dukkan lokutan shakku da tabbataccen imani. "

Francis ya ce dansa ya yaba da jin kokarin gwagwarmayar da Francis. Francis ya ce bai yi kokarin gaya wa dansa abin da ya sa ya kamata ya yi imani da wani abu ba, a maimakon haka ya gode masa saboda kasancewarsa a bude game da tambayoyinsa.

Ya ce ya kuma mayar da hankali kan imani da kanta maimakon abin da dansa ya yi ko bai so game da kwarewar zuwa taro. bangaskiyar ta bunkasa, ya zama mafi buɗewa ga sauraro, saboda na kuma yi magana da shi game da lokutan da na ji kamar na rikice da kuma nesa da imani.