Namiji, Namiji, gayungiyoyin luwadi da aure: da "a'a" na Ikilisiya

"A" na cocin Katolika koyaushe yana kare zurfafa "Ee"

Written by GASKIYA

Rayuwa cikin kadaici a cikin watanni biyu da suka gabata ya sanya yawancinmu kusanci da kusanci ga waɗanda aka danƙa mana amana a farkon aikinmu: mata da miji da yaranmu. A yawancin lokuta wannan yana nufin cewa waɗannan mutanen, waɗanda muke gani sau da yawa musamman yayin da muke tafiya da barazanar da ba ta ƙarewa game da darussan motsa jiki, kwanakin kisa da darussan sakandare, ba zato ba tsammani sun zama bayyane sosai. Kodayake ba zan so wannan yanayin Covid game da kare ba ni so, kyauta ce kuma dama ce ba kawai don ganin matata da 'ya'yana ba, amma don ganin su na gaske, wanda, gaskiya ne, ba koyaushe nake yi ba.

Aiki daga gida, soke ayyukan kowa da kowa, na sami kaina cikin tunani kan irin godiya da aka nuna min game da kirana zuwa aure da dangi, musamman yadda nake godiya da kyautar matata. Abin alfahari ne ganin yadda ƙwararrun matayenta suka kusanto da kuma sirikinta yayin da take aikin sihirin mahaifiyarta ta dukkan fannoni, ta sanya rayuwar danginmu da dangin wurin da duk waɗanda aka danƙa mata na iya bunƙasa. Tuna menene babbar bikin aure.

A matsayin mu na Katolika, muna da zurfin fahimta game da asirin aure. Mun sani cewa aure sadaukarwa ne, abin alheri ne da ake gani a zahiri wanda yake ma'ana ya kuma gabatar da wani yanayi mai zurfi, mara ganuwa. A cikin batun aure, gaskiyar da aka wakilta ita ce madawwamin yalwar amfanin juna na kyauta ta kyauta, wanda yake shine Mafi Girma Uku Cikin .aya. Bugu da ƙari, bukukuwan sadaukarwa - aure da umarni tsarkaka - suna ba da muhimmin alherin ba kawai don yin wani abu da aka kira mu mu yi ba, amma don zama abin da aka halitta mu. Sanin wannan ya kamata ya tunatar da mu, a matsayin mu na Katolika, cewa aure na Allah ne kuma an ɗora mana a matsayin tushen alheri da jinƙai waɗanda masu gwagwarmaya biyu zasu buƙaci ƙaunace shi da ɗayan mai kyau.

A cikin tauhidin Jiki, St. John Paul II ya gaya mana cewa Allah yana so ya sanya shirinsa na aure don haka a bayyane yake ya sa kiran a cikin tarayya a cikinmu. Wannan yana nufin cewa jikin mu ba kawai ilimin halittu bane, haqiqai ne na tiyoloji - sun bayyana a takaice kuma sun kirkira hanya madawwamiyar Triniti da kanta. Halittar mu ta mace da namiji tana magana ne ga shirin Allah na mai ma'aurata su zama nama ɗaya kuma ya sanya ƙungiyar miji da mata ta hanyar da zai kasance zai ƙirƙira sabbin mutane.

Allah baya bukatar haɗin gwiwarmu don ƙirƙirar sabon rayuwar ɗan adam. Kamar yadda Yesu ya ce a cikin Matta 3: 9, Allah na iya ɗaga yara daga duwatsun da ke gefen hanya idan yana so. Maimakon haka, Allah ya halicci namiji da mace don haduwa ta rai da haɓaka ta hanyar saduwarmu ta jima'i, domin daga dukkan zamanai ne mai haɗaka mai rai da bayar da rai na kyautar kansa, ya kuma halicce mu cikin surarsa da kama.

Hatta ilimin halittar mu na asali ya shaida wannan gaskiyar. An albarkace ni da ingantaccen tsarin haihuwa. An haife ni da Becky tare da yara shida. Amma ga abin hauka: rabin tsarin haihuwa na yana tafiya ne a jikin matata kuma rabin tsarin haihuwarta yana tafiya ne a cikina! Yi tunani game da abin da ake nufi: lokacin da Allah ya halicce mu, ya yi niyya ya tsara tsarin haihuwarmu don ya zama cikakke kuma ya cim ma maƙasudin sa, da haɗin kai tare da tsarin haihuwa na maza da mata.

Wannan ba gaskiya bane ga kowane tsarin nazarin halittu. Misali, ina da ingantaccen tsarin aikin ciki (sai dai in ya huce da miya mai zafi da wuya) kuma yana dauke da jikina gaba daya; karamin hanjinina baya tafiya a jikin matata. Haka yake ga tsarin cututtukan zuciya da jijiyoyin zuciya, da juyayi da sauransu. Amma tsarin haihuwa na bai cika ba kuma ba shi da inganci, sai dai kuma har sai in kasance tare da shi ga lafiyar matata amma ba ta cika tsarin haihuwa a cikin aure ba. An ƙirƙiri tsarin haifuwarmu na musamman ta hanyar da ke nuna gaskiyar zurfi fiye da ƙirar halitta mai sauƙi.

Wannan ba batun juyin halitta bane. Wannan ita ce dabi'ar mutumtaka kamar yadda Allah ya halitta kuma ya fahimce shi, wanda ya bayyana cewa halittarmu ta mace da mace - haɗin gwiwarmu na jima'i, ƙungiyar haɗin aure da ikonmu na zama tare tare da Allah - a cewar zanen sa, na asali ne ga abin da ake nufi a halittarsa ​​cikin surarsa da surarsa. Ya mai da aure alama ce ta Tirniti ya kuma haifar da madawwamin gamsuwa ta zama mafi girma da kuma cikakkiyar bayyanuwar mutum a wannan gefen na har abada.

Saboda haka ba abin mamaki ba ne cewa cocin Katolika na kare gaskiya game da maza da mata, game da jima'i da aure, da kuma game da tsarkakan duk rayuwar ɗan adam da aikin da ya kayyade ta.

Zai dace a ambaci nan cewa duk lokacin da Ikilisiya ta ce "A'a" ga wani abu - kuma, mai ɓarna da hankali, Ikilisiyar wani lokaci tana cewa "A'a" ga wasu abubuwa - koyaushe saboda ta riga ta ce "Ee" ga gaskiya mai zurfi, kuma mafi alheri. A "A'a" koyaushe yana kare zurfafa "Ee".

Don haka lokacin da Ikilisiya ta ce "A'a" ga duk hanyoyin da ɗan adam ya gano cewa jima'i, aure da kuma duk abin da ya shafi mace da namiji ba daidai ba ne, ba saboda Ikilisiyar ba ce ta duniya baki ɗaya ( "Oh a'a, wani yana jin daɗi! Aika shugaban cocin yanzu kuma sanya shi daina!"). Kuma ba cocin Katolika na da datti da lalata mara kunya. A akasin wannan, lokacin da Ikilisiya ta ce "A'a" don zunubi na jima'i, kawai tana kare babban gaskiya ne, nagarta da kyawun ma'anar auren da aka danƙa mata kuma ba sa daina yin tunani, fayyacewa da sadarwa.

A matsayin mu na Katolika da muka sani, ko ya kamata mu sani, aure ba shine abin da muke so ba. Haka abin yake dangane da jima'i da bayyanannen ɗabi'a da yanayin ilimin tauhidi na masifa da mace. Dukkanin kyaututtuka ne da yanayi da kuma nufin da Allah ya bashi: kyaututtukan da suke bayyanar da gunkin alloli kuma suna kiranmu zuwa rayayyun mutane waɗanda ke aure. Ikilisiya har yanzu tana riƙe da gaskiyar da duniya ta zaɓa don mantawa, ga lalata rayuwar iyali da al'umma, kuma tare da ɓarna da tsada don mutuncin mutum.

Kamar yadda koyaushe, Cocin yana da abin da duniya ke buƙata. Tare da wannan a hankali, yayin da muke komawa a hankali a cikin abin da muke addu'ar zai zama al'umma mai buɗewa da aiki, muna roƙon Yesu ya sanya aurenmu lafiya da tsarkaka, saboda amincinmu na wannan sana'ar zai iya yin shaidar gaskiya cewa akwai Abin farin ciki ne matuka wurin rungumar nufin Allah Gaskiya ita ce, a cikin waɗannan lokutan mawuyacin hali, an ba mu kyakkyawar dama don mayar da babbar kyautar aure. Da fatan Allah ya bamu alherin yasa mu dace dashi.