ʻĀina: ʻAʻawale nā mākua, ka ʻea ʻo ka mea maʻi?
Hoʻokaʻawale nā Mākua… .a pehea hoʻi ka pediatric?
ʻO kekahi ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo e hōʻemi i nā hewa? Maliʻa paha ma mua o hoʻokahi ʻāpana aʻoaʻo e kōkua ai e noʻonoʻo pū i nā hopena a nā keiki a pehea e pale aku ai iā lākou. Eia kekahi mau ʻōlelo paipai.
1. ʻAʻohe lula o ka hana
He moʻolelo kā kēlā me kēia kāne, kā lākou ala kaʻana like ʻana i ka manawa a me nā hana me kā lākou keiki, kā lākou ala e kamaʻilio ai me kā lākou keiki. A he ʻokoʻa nā keiki a kēlā me kēia kāne mai nā keiki a haʻi.
No kēia kumu, pono i kēlā me kēia wahine i ka wā ma mua a ma hope o ka hoʻokaʻawale ʻana e ʻike i kā lāua ala ponoʻī e kūlike me nā ʻano o ke ola a me ka lawena a lākou i hiki ai i kēlā manawa. ʻAʻole pono ka ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo. Pono ke kōkua e nānā i nā kuhiakau like ʻole a me nā hiki, e noʻonoʻo pū i ka hopena o nā keiki, e neʻe i mua ka maikaʻi.
2. Pono nā keiki i ka makuakāne a me ka makuahine
Ma ka ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe, ʻaʻohe mea e pono ai ka makua maikaʻi a me ka makua maikaʻi ʻole, ʻaʻole hoʻi no ka makuakāne a makuahine paha i aloha nui iā lākou a mākaukau lākou e hana i kekahi mea e haehae iā lākou mai ka makua ʻē aʻe.
Ke kāpae nei i nā hihia kakaikahi loa o ka weliweli o kekahi o nā mākua, ʻo ka ʻimi ʻana i kahi ʻaelike kūpono e hiki ai i nā keiki ke mālama i nā pilina me nā mea ʻelua ka mea maikaʻi loa e hiki ke hana ʻia no lākou. Ke kiʻi nei i ke kuikahi a nā keiki e kūʻē i ka makua ʻē aʻe, ma hope o ka hōʻoiaʻiʻo ʻana iā ia ʻo ia ka lawehala, ʻo ka lawehala, ke kumu o nā mea āpau, ʻaʻole ia he lanakila. He eo ʻana.
3. ʻAʻole nui loa nā huaʻōlelo
ʻO ka wehewehe ʻana i nā mea e hana nei me ka ʻole o nā wahaheʻe e pono ai ke ana. Ua hoʻākoakoa ʻia nā ʻaha kūkā kūkā i nā leo kūhelu ("pono e kamaʻilio nā mākuahine a me nā makuakāne iā ʻoe e pili ana i kahi mea nui") hoʻohilahila a kūpikipiki hoʻi i nā keiki, a me nā mea waiwai ʻole hoʻi, keu hoʻi ke lana ka manaʻo i nā mākua i kēia ala e hoʻonā i nā mea āpau i ka manawa hoʻokahi. : wehewehe, hōʻoia, wehewehe wehewehe ʻana i ka mea e hiki mai ana "ma hope". He mau pahuhopu hiki ʻole lākou. ʻAʻole hiki i kekahi ke haʻi maoli i ka mea e hiki mai ana i nā mahina a me nā makahiki ma hope o ka haki. Pono nā keiki i kekahi mau hōʻailona kūpono e pili ana i nā mea e hana nei a me nā mea e loli ai i ka wā e hiki mai ana. ʻO ke kamaʻilio e pili ana i kahi wā e hiki mai ana kahi mamao loa, me ka ʻole o ka mea ʻole, ʻaʻole ia he hōʻoluʻolu a hiki i ka huikau.
4. Ka hōʻoiaʻiʻo ʻana, helu mua
Pono e haʻi ʻia nā keiki e nā mākua ʻelua i ka mea e hana nei ma waena o ka makuakāne a me ka makuahine (a ke manaʻo mua nei nā keiki, no ka mea ua lohe lākou i nā hoʻopaʻapaʻa ʻana, ka uē ʻana, a i ʻole ke anuanu ʻokoʻa) ʻaʻole ia na lākou ka hewa: pono e hoʻomanaʻo ʻia nā keiki. no lākou iho, a he mea maʻalahi loa iā lākou e hilinaʻi i kā lākou lawena i hana i ka hoʻoholo koʻikoʻi ma waena o ko lākou mau mākua, no ka mea ua lohe lākou i ke kūkā kamaʻilio ʻana i kā lākou ʻano kula, a i ʻole kekahi mea e pili ana iā lākou.
He mea nui ia e akāka, a haʻi hou i hoʻokahi manawa ʻo ka hoʻokaʻawale ʻana o ka makua me ka makua e pili wale ana i ka poʻe mākua.
5. Ka hōʻoiaʻiʻo ʻana, helu ʻelua
Eia kekahi, pono e hōʻoia i nā keiki e mālama mau ka makuakāne a me ka makuahine iā lākou, ʻoiai ke kaʻawale. ʻO ke kamaʻilio e pili ana i ke aloha, e wehewehe ana e hoʻomau ka aloha ʻana o ka makuakāne a me kā lāua keiki i kā lāua mau keiki ʻaʻole lawa.
ʻO ka pono o ka mālama a me ka makaʻu o ka lilo ʻana o ka mālama makua he ikaika loa ia, a ʻaʻole kūlike me ka pono o ke aloha.
Ma kēia wahi hoʻi, he mea nui e wehewehe a hāʻawi i (mau a moakaka) i nā hōʻailona pehea e hoʻolālā ai i ke ola e hōʻoia i nā keiki e like me ka mālama ma mua.
6. ʻAʻole hoʻololi i ke kuleana
E mālama pono ʻaʻole e hoʻolilo i kāu keiki i mau mea hōʻoluʻolu, pani no ka makuakāne (a i ʻole makuahine), nā mea uwao, nā mea hoʻomaluhia a me nā kiu. I kahi manawa o ka loli e like me ka hoʻokaʻawale ʻana, pono e nānā pono i nā noi i nā keiki a me ke kuleana i hāʻawi ʻia iā lākou.
ʻO ke ala ʻoi loa e pale aku ai i ka huikau o ka hana e hoʻāʻo mau e hoʻomanaʻo he keiki nā keiki: nā kuleana ʻē aʻe a pau a mākou i helu ai ma luna (mea hōʻoluʻolu, mea uwao, kiu, a pēlā wale aku) he kuleana makua. Pono e mālama ʻia nā keiki, ʻoiai ke manaʻo nei lākou e noi ana iā lākou iho.
7. E ʻae i ka ʻeha
E wehewehe akāka, e hōʻoiaʻiʻo, e hōʻoiaʻiʻo i ka mālama ʻana o kekahi ʻaʻole ia he kumu ʻaʻole ʻeha nā keiki i kahi ʻano loli: ʻo ka nalo ʻana o nā mākua ma ke ʻano he kāne, akā ʻo ka haʻalele ʻana i nā ʻano ma mua a me kekahi mau hōʻoluʻolu, pono e hoʻopili i kahi kaila. o ke ola hou a ʻoluʻolu pinepine ʻole e hoʻohua i nā ʻano ʻokoʻa, huhū, hopohopo, hopohopo, kānalua, huhū. ʻAʻole kūpono ke noi aku i nā keiki - implicitly a explicitly - e kūpono, e hoʻomaopopo, "ʻaʻole e hana i ka haunaele". ʻOi aku ka maikaʻi, ke kaupaona ʻana i ka ʻeha a lākou e hana ai i ko lākou mau mākua me ko lākou ʻeha. ʻO ka manaʻo maoli ʻana ʻaʻole hōʻike nā keiki i ko lākou ʻehaʻeha i ʻole e hewa nā mākua. ʻO ka mea maikaʻi loa e haʻi aku i ke keiki ua maopopo ke ʻano o kona manaʻo i kēia ala, he hana paʻakikī maoli nō ia, ʻaʻole hiki i ka makuakāne a me ka makuahine ke hoʻopakele iā ia akā maopopo iā lākou ua ʻeha ʻo ia, huhū ʻo ia a pēlā aku, a e hoʻāʻo lākou. e kōkua iā ia ma nā ʻano āpau e maikaʻi iki ai
8. ʻAʻohe Uku uku
ʻO ke ala e hōʻoluʻolu iki ai nā keiki i nā pae o ka kaʻawale ʻana o nā mākua ʻaʻole ia e ʻimi i ka uku. ʻO ka maʻamau e lilo i mea ʻae hou, e hōʻemi i nā noi i kahi liʻiliʻi hiki ke hoʻomaopopo, ʻoiai ʻo kēia āpau kahi ʻāpana o ka ʻimi ʻana i nā lula hou, kahi nohona i kūpono i ke kūlana hou. Inā, ma ka ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe, he ʻāpana nā ʻae ʻia o ka hoʻokūkū lōʻihi ma waena o nā mākua ʻelua e lanakila i ke poʻo o ka "makua ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi" (ʻo ia hoʻi, ʻoi aku ka lokomaikaʻi, ʻoi aku ka wehe i nā lawehala, ʻoi aku ka makemake e kau inoa i nā hōʻoia no ke kula a hōʻoluʻolu paha i nā makemake), a i ʻole inā loaʻa kahi manaʻo o ke ʻano "mea ʻilihune, me nā mea āpau e hele nei", ʻaʻole kūpono ke hoʻopiʻi ʻana inā ʻike nā keiki e "hoʻohana i ke kūlana", e lilo ana i mea koi a hoʻomanawanui ʻole i nā palena, a inā lākou e maʻa i ka pāʻani ʻana i ka ʻāpana. o ka mea i hōʻeha ʻia i ʻeha nui, kahi ʻoluʻolu a ma luna o nā mea āpau ʻaʻole kūpono loa no ka paipai ʻana i ka ʻimi ʻana i nā kumuwaiwai e kū i nā hanana paʻakikī.
9. ʻAʻole nā mea āpau i nā keiki ka hopena o ka hoʻokaʻawale
Loaʻa nā hopena o ka hoʻokaʻawale ʻana i ka naʻau o nā keiki, ka nohona a me ko lākou olakino. Akā mai aneʻi e hōʻoia iā ʻoe iho i kēlā me kēia ʻeha ʻana o ka ʻōpū, kēlā me kēia hōʻailona, kēlā me kēia māka maikaʻi ʻole ma ke kula ka hopena pololei o ka hoʻokaʻawale ʻana, he ʻokoʻa nui. Ma waena o nā mea ʻē aʻe, he manaʻo weliweli kēia, no ka mea, pale ia iā mākou mai ka hana ʻana i kekahi kuhiakau ʻē aʻe, a no laila mai ka loaʻa ʻana o nā hāʻina kūpono aʻe. Hiki ke kumu kula ʻole ʻia ma muli o kekahi mea e hana nei ma ke kula (nā loli o nā kumu, nā pilikia me nā hoa), a i ʻole kahi hoʻonohonoho maikaʻi ʻole o ka manawa. ʻO ka ʻeha o ka ʻōpū ma muli o nā loli o ke kaila a me ka ʻai ʻana i nā mele, pili pili ʻole ʻia i ka hoʻokaʻawale ʻana, akā kahi e hiki ai ke hana. Ke kāpae nei i nā mea āpau e pili ana i ka hoʻokaʻawale hoʻokaumaha maʻalahi ʻia ʻaʻole maʻalahi.
10. Hoʻonui i kāu pūnaewele
Ke mahalo mau nei i ke ala e hoʻomaʻamaʻa ai kēlā me kēia keiki i ke kūlana hou i hana ʻia ma hope o ka hoʻokaʻawale ʻana, pono e hoʻāʻo e hoʻonui i ka pūnaewele o nā pilina (a kōkua), e pale ana i nā ʻano heroic e "hana wale". Hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻāʻo e noi aku (ʻaʻole hoʻokau) i nā hana manawa manuahi hou i nā keiki, hoʻāʻo e kau pū me nā loli me nā mākua ʻē aʻe, e paipai i nā hana haʻuki kahi e komo ai nā mākua koʻikoʻi (ke kumu, ka luna haʻuki).
I kēlā me kēia hihia, maikaʻi e hōʻole i ka pale ʻana i ka ʻimi ʻana i nā kiʻina makua hou a nā keiki he nui i kau i nā wā o ke kaʻawale ʻana o nā mākua, ma o ka nakinaki ʻana iā lākou iho i kahi kumu a i ʻole ka makua o ka hoa: pili i ka mea i manaʻo ʻia, kahi pūnaewele ākea o nā mākua e ʻae i ka palupalu i ka hoʻohālikelike ʻana o ka makuahine / makua.
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