E lilo iā St. Francis ke alakaʻi ʻana i kou maluhia

Ke ho'āʻo nei mākou e lilo i mea hana o ka maluhia a ʻoiai he mau mākua.

Ua hoʻomaka kaʻu kaikamahine wahine 15 makahiki e noʻonoʻo nei he aha ka lā o kaʻu hana. ʻO ka lā mua āna i nīnau ai, ua pālahalaha wau i kahi pane, “Um. Uʻi. Ua loaʻa iaʻu nā hālāwai. "Ke hoʻomau nei ʻo ia e nīnau ma kēlā me kēia pule, hoʻomaka wau e pane me ka noʻonoʻo nui, me ka haʻi ʻana iā ia e pili ana i kahi papahana hoihoi, nā pilikia a i ʻole kekahi hoa puke ʻoluʻolu. ʻO wau e kamaʻilio ana, ʻike wau iaʻu e nānā iā ia e ʻike inā makemakeʻo ia i kaʻu moʻolelo. ʻO ia, a i ʻole hoʻi i kekahi poʻokela.

ʻOi aku ka lōʻihi o ka ulu ʻana i ka laikini ke kaʻa, he hiki i ke keiki ke nānā aku i ka makua me ke ʻano kanaka me ko lākou mau manaʻo ponoʻī, nā moeʻuhane a me nā hakakā he hōʻailona ia o ka wā e hele a nui aʻe. ʻAʻole hiki i ka hiki ke hoʻomaopopo i ka makua ma ke ʻano he makua a ʻoi ka makuakāne. Hele maoli nō ia, a maopopo ʻole kekahi poʻe i kā lākou mau mākua a hiki i ka wā ʻelemakule.

ʻO ka ʻāpana o ke kumu hiki i ka ʻōmole hiki ke hoʻopau loa no ka pili o kēia pilina lopsided. Hāʻawi mākou i nā mea a pau no kā mākou keiki, a i ko mākou mau lā maikaʻi, hoʻokipa lākou i ka makana o ko mākou aloha. I ko mākou mau lā paʻakikī, hakakā lākou me ke aloha a me ke kākoʻo a mākou e hāʻawi nei ma o ka hōʻole ʻana i kā mākou alakaʻi. Eia naʻe, ʻo nā makua hānai olakino e pili ana i ke komo piha ʻana i kēia pilina lopsided. I mea e ʻike ai nā keiki i ka lepo, aloha a mākaukau e hele i loko o ke ao nei i ka wā ʻōpio, ʻo nā mākua e hāʻawi i kahi kālā keu aku ka nui ma mua o ko lākou wā kamaliʻi, ka wā kamaliʻi a me nā ʻōpiopio. ʻO ke ʻano o ka makua.

ʻAʻole he makua ʻo St. Francis o Assisi, akā ua ʻōlelo pololei kāna pule i nā mākua.

E ka Haku, e hana mai ʻoe i mea hana e ʻoluʻolu ai iaʻu.
kahi e inaina ai, e lūlū wau i ke aloha;
inā he hihia, ʻeha;
ina i kanalua, manaoio;
aia kahi wahi i manaʻoʻole ai, manaʻolana;
kahi e pouli ai, malamalama;
a me he wahi kaumaha, hauʻoli.
E ka Haku mana, e ae mai paha aole au e imi nui
e hōʻoluʻolu ʻia e like me ka mea e hōʻoluʻolu ʻia,
e maopopo ai me ka maopopo,
e aloha e like me ke aloha.
No ka mea, ʻo ke hāʻawi ʻana i nā mea e loaʻa iā mākou,
ma ka kala i kala ʻia mākou,
a aia no ka make e hanau ai kakou i ke ola mau loa.

ʻO Luciana, ʻo kāna kaikamahine ʻōpio ua loaʻa ke ola e pili ana i ka anorexia, e pili ana i kēia mau huaʻōlelo: ʻae like ʻole wau e hoʻāʻo paha e hoʻomaopopo maoli e hoʻomaopopo. "Ua aʻo wau i ka mana o ka hoʻāʻo ʻana e hoʻomaopopo a hāʻawi i ka manaolana i kaʻu kaikamahine me kāna maʻi ʻai. Ua ʻōlelo ʻo ia i nā manawa nui inā ʻaʻole wau e manaʻo e lanakila ma luna o ia mea, ua nalowale ia i ka manaolana. Ke noi wale nei ʻo ia iaʻu e haʻi iā ia hiki iā ia ke hana ma kēlā ʻaoʻao. Ke nānā nei wau ʻaʻole wau i manaʻoʻiʻo ʻole, ʻaʻole hiki iā ia ke manaʻoʻiʻo iā ia ”i ʻōlelo ai ʻo Luciana. “ʻO ia ka mea mālamalama mālamalama maʻaneʻi. Ma muli o ka hakakā ʻo kaʻu kaikamahine, ua aʻo ʻia au e ao leo nui i ko mākou manaʻo ma kā mākou mau keiki i ko lākou manawa i loko o kā lākou manawa. "

ʻOiai ʻaʻole i haʻi aku ʻo St. Francis ka ʻōlelo "hoʻoponopono" i kāna pule, inā makemake nā mākua e hōʻike i ka hoʻomaopopo a i ka hōʻoluʻolu paha i ka mea a mākou e koho e haʻi aku ai, ʻoi aku ka nui o ka mea nui. "ʻAʻole au i pale i ka hakakā ʻole a me ka ʻike hohonu i ka hāʻawi ʻana i kaʻu mau keiki i wahi e lilo ai lākou i ʻike i kēia manawa," wahi a Bridget, ka makuahine o ʻehā mau ʻōpio a me nā ʻōpio ʻōpio. “Pono nā keiki i nā wahi e makaʻala ai i kēia mau mea a ho'āʻo i ko lākou mau manaʻo. ʻIke wau he mea nui ia e nīnau i nā nīnau ma mua o ka hoʻokomo ʻana i ka hoʻohewa a ʻōlelo ʻana. He mea nui ia e hana me ke ʻano o ka pānaʻi, ʻaʻole hoʻoholo.

ʻ sayslelo aku ʻo Brigid inā ʻo ia e nīnau mālie i nā nīnau, hiki i kona puʻuwai ke kī wikiwiki me ka makaʻu i nā mea a kāna pēpē e noʻonoʻo ai: hele wāwae, hele ana i ka ʻā, ua haʻalele ka hale pule. Akā ʻoiai hopohopo ia e pili ana i kēia mau mea, ʻaʻole naʻe e hōʻike i kāna hopohopo - a ua uku ʻole ʻia. "Inā ʻaʻole wau e hana i kēia mau mea iaʻu, akā ma luna o lākou, hiki i ka manawa hiki i kēia wā ke hauʻoli i ka hauʻoli o ke aʻo ʻana e pili ana i kēia kanaka e ulu nei," wahi āna.

No Jeannie, kahi hapa o ka lawe ʻana i ke kala, kaʻiʻo, ka manaʻolana, ka māmā a me ka hauʻoli i kamaʻilio ʻia ʻo St.Francis i kāna keiki, he makahiki hou ma ke kula kiʻekiʻe, e pili ana i ka hoʻi hou ʻana mai ke ʻano o ka noi ʻana iā ia e hoʻoponopono iā ia. keikikāne. Loaʻa ʻo ia iā ia i kēlā me kēia lā e pule ana e hoʻomanaʻo mai ke Akua iā ia e nānā i kāna keiki me ka hoʻomaopopo maoli. "ʻO kā mākou mau keiki ua ʻoi aku ma mua o nā pae hōʻike hōʻike, nā māka a me ka helu hope o ka pāʻani pīkī," i ʻōlelo ai ʻo ia. “He mea maʻalahi ka hāʻule ʻana i ka mea pio i kā mākou keiki ma kēia mau ʻōlelo maʻamau. Ua nui nā keiki a kā mākou “.

ʻO ka pule a St. Francis, i noi ʻia i ka makua, pono iā mākou e hele i kā mākou mau keiki i ke ala hiki ke paʻakikī i ka wā e hoʻokaʻawale ʻia nā leka uila a me nā linens a i ʻole ke loli kahi kaʻa. Akā ke lawe mai i ka manaolana i kahi keiki makemake ʻole ma muli o kahi hakakā me kahi hoaaloha, pono mākou e noho pū me kēlā keiki me ka lawa e ʻike i nā mea hewa ʻole. Ua kono mai ʻo St. Francis iā mākou e nānā mai kā mākou kelepona, e kāpae i ka hana a ʻike i kā mākou mau keiki me ka maopopo e hiki ana i ka pane pololei.

ʻO Jenny, ka makuahine o ka ʻekolu, i ʻōlelo ʻia he maʻi nui ia o kahi makuahine ʻōpio āna i ʻike ai ua hoʻololi i kāna hiʻona. "ʻO nā hakakā a pau, nā luʻi a me ka make hope o Molly, ua hōʻike mai iaʻu i ka hauʻoli o ka loaʻa ʻana o kahi lā i kaʻu mau keiki, ʻo ia hoʻi ka lā paʻakikī. Kuhi nui ʻo ia i kāna huakaʻi a hāʻawi i ke ʻike i nā ʻohana a me nā hoaaloha i kāna mau hakakā i kēlā me kēia lā. Ma ia mahalo nui wau, ”wahi a Jenny. "Ma kāna mau ʻōlelo i manaʻo nui ʻia e pili ana i ka hoʻoili ʻana i nā manawa liʻiliʻi a me ka mahalo i ka manawa aʻu e hana ai i kaʻu mau keiki, a ua nui aʻe koʻu ahonui a me ka hoʻomaopopo ʻana i koʻu makua. Hiki iaʻu keʻike i kahi hoʻololi a hoʻololi i kaʻu mau pilina me lākou. He moʻolelo ʻē aʻe ma mua o kahi moe, ke kāhea hou aku no ke kōkua, ʻo kekahi mea e hōʻike mai ai iaʻu. . ^ E Ha yM. . ^ E Ha yM. . ^ E Ha yM. ʻĀnō wau e hiki iā ia ke hopu hanu, e ola i kēia manawa,

Ua hoʻonui hou ʻia ka pilina a Jenny me ka pule Saint Francis me ka make ʻana o kona makuakāne ola hou, nāna i hoʻokumu me ka pule Saint Francis me kahi ʻano makua e pili ana i ka hoʻomaopopo a me ke kākoʻo ʻana i kāna wahine a me kāna mau keiki. "ʻO ka pahu pule a koʻu makuakāne ma kā lākou hale kupapaʻu ua komo i ka pule a St. Francis," wahi āna. "Ma hope o ke kanu ʻana, kau wau i ka pahu pule ma luna o ke kākahu pale lole me he mea hoʻomanaʻo o kona aloha a me kona ʻano makua a pehea koʻu makemake e hoʻokomo i kēlā mau ʻano. Ua waiho hoʻi au i kahi kāleka pule i loko o kēlā me kēia mau keiki o kaʻu mau keiki a he mau hoʻomanaʻo āua i kēlā lā i kēia lā no ko lākou aloha no lākou. "