ʻO ke kumu pilikino o ke kaʻawale

He aha kā mākou e aʻo ai mai ka Baibala e pili ana i ka noho hoʻokahi?

Noho kaʻawale. Inā he hoʻololi nui ia, kahi haki o kahi pilina, kahi haʻalele ʻole, kahi pūnana pūnana manu ʻole a i ʻole no ka mea, i kekahi manawa, manaʻo mākou āpau. I ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, e like me kahi noiʻi i mālama ʻia e ka ʻoihana inikua ʻo Cigna, ma kahi o 46% o ko ʻAmelika e hōʻike nei i ka manaʻo i kekahi manawa a i ʻole mau wale nō, ʻoiai ʻo 53% wale nō e ʻōlelo nei he nui ko lākou pilina pilikino i kēlā me kēia lā.

ʻO kēia ʻano o ka "mehameha" a nā kānaka noiʻi a me nā loea e kāhea nei i kahi maʻi ahulau nui 21st a me kahi hopohopo olakino olakino. He mea ʻino ia i ke olakino, ua hoʻokumu nā mea noiʻi ma ke Kulanui ʻo Brigham Young, e like me ka puhipaka ʻana i 15 mau paka i ka lā. A ke koho nei ka Health Resources & Services Administration (HRSA) he 45% ka nui o ka maka o ka make i nā mākua mehameha.

No ke aha he kūpilikiʻi kū hoʻokahi ka loneliness? Nui nā kumu, mai ka hilinaʻi nui i ka ʻenehana ma luna o ka pilina o ke kanaka, a i ka awelika o ka nui o ka home e emi ana i nā makahiki, e hoʻonui ana i ka nui o ka poʻe e noho mehameha.

Akā ʻo ka loneliness iho he mea paʻakikī ʻole ia i kahi manaʻo hou, keu hoʻi i ka wā o ka ʻuhane.

Ma hope o nā mea āpau, ua ʻike kekahi o ka poʻe piha piha i ka manaʻoʻiʻo i ka mōʻaukala a me nā koa nui o ka Baibala i kahi mehameha hohonu a pili ponoʻī. No laila aia kahi ʻuhane i ka mehameha? Pehea ke Akua e manaʻo ai e hoʻokele i kahi kaiāulu e neoneo ana?

Hoʻomaka nā kuhi mai ka hoʻomaka, pololei i loko o ka puke o Genesis, wahi a Lydia Brownback, mea haʻi ʻōlelo a me ka mea kākau o In Search of God in My Solitude. Kūlike ʻole i ka mea e like ai, ʻo ka mehameha ʻaʻole ia he hoʻopaʻi mai ke Akua a i ʻole nā ​​hewa pilikino, i ʻōlelo ʻo ia. E lawe i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo ma hope o ka hana ʻana i ke kanaka, ua ʻōlelo ke Akua, "ʻAʻole maikaʻi ka noho kaʻawale o ke kanaka."

"Ua ʻōlelo ke Akua ma mua o ka hāʻule ʻana i loko o ka lawehala, ma ke ʻano ua hana ʻo ia iā mākou me ka hiki ke ʻike mehameha ʻoiai ma kahi manawa maikaʻi loa ka honua ma nā ʻano āpau," wahi a Brownback. "ʻO kaʻoiaʻiʻo o ka noho mehameha ma mua o ka hiki ʻana mai o ka hewa i ka honua, pono ia he mea maikaʻi ua ʻike mākou iā ia a ʻaʻole ia ka hopena o kahi mea maikaʻi ʻole."

ʻOiai, ke hohonu nei mākou i ka mehameha, ʻaʻole hiki i kekahi ke noʻonoʻo akā: no ke aha e hāʻawi mai ai ke Akua iā mākou i ka hiki ke manaʻo hoʻokahi i ka mea mua? No ka pane ʻana i kēlā, nānā hou ʻo Brownback iā Genesis. Mai kinohi mai, ua hana ke Akua iā mākou me kahi hakahaka e hiki wale iā ia ke hoʻopiha. A no ke kumu kūpono.

"Inā ʻaʻole mākou i hana ʻia me ka ʻole, ʻaʻole mākou e manaʻo ua nalowale kekahi mea," i ʻōlelo ʻo ia. "He makana ia e hiki ai ke manaʻo hoʻokahi, no ka mea e hoʻomaopopo iā mākou pono mākou i ke Akua a hoʻolōʻihi iā mākou i kekahi i kekahi".

He mea nui ka pilina kanaka e hōʻoluʻolu i ka loneliness

E nānā i ka hihia o ʻAdamu, no ka laʻana. Ua hoʻoponopono ke Akua i kona mehameha me kahi hoa, ʻEva. ʻAʻole ia he manaʻo he lapaʻau ka male no ka mehameha. ʻO ka hihia, ʻo ka poʻe i male ʻia e ʻike mehameha. Ma kahi, wahi a Brownback, ʻo ka hoaaloha ka mea nui. Kuhi i ka Halelu 68: 6: "Hoʻonoho ke Akua i ka mea mehameha i loko o nā ʻohana".

"ʻAʻole ia he kāne a he 2.3 mau keiki," i ʻōlelo ʻo ia. "Akā, ua hana ke Akua i nā kānaka e launa pū kekahi me kekahi, e aloha a aloha ʻia. ʻO ka male male hoʻokahi wale nō ala e hana ai. "

No laila, he aha ka mea e hiki ai iā mākou ke hana ke kūpale i ka mehameha? Hoʻomaopopo hou ʻo Brownback i ke kaiāulu. Kāhea aku a kamaʻilio pū me kekahi, he hoa aloha paha, lālā ʻohana, aʻoaʻo, a aʻoaʻo aʻoaʻo ʻuhane paha. E hui pū i kahi hale pule a kōkua i ka poʻe i lonelier ma mua ou.

Mai makaʻu e hōʻoia ʻo ʻoe wale nō, iā ʻoe iho a i kekahi poʻe ʻē aʻe, aʻoaʻo iā Brownback. E hoʻopono, ʻoi loa me ke Akua. Hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻomaka me ka pule ʻana i kahi mea e like me, "E ke Akua, he aha kaʻu e hana ai e hoʻololi i koʻu ola?"

"Nui nā mea hana hiki ke hana e loaʻa koke ai ke kōkua," wahi a Brownback. "E komo i loko o ka hale pule, e kamaʻilio me kahi mea āu e hilinaʻi ai, e hoʻonā i kahi mehameha o haʻi, a noi aku i ke Akua e pili ana i nā loli i hiki ke hana i ka hala ʻana o ka manawa. A wehe i kekahi mau manawa kūpono ua makaʻu loa ʻoe e hoʻāʻo, he aha ia. "

E hoʻomanaʻo, ʻaʻole ʻoe wale nō

Ua ʻike ʻo Iesū i ka mehameha ma mua o nā mea ʻē aʻe, mai ka hoʻokēʻai ʻana i ka wao nahele a hiki i ka māla o Gesemani a i ke Keʻa.

"ʻO Iesū ke kāne mehameha i noho ma mua," wahi a Brownback. “Ua aloha ʻo ia i ka poʻe nāna ia i kumakaia. Ua ʻeha ʻo ia a hoʻomau i ke aloha. No laila ʻoiai i ka hihia ʻoi loa, hiki iā mākou ke ʻōlelo "maopopo iā Iesū". I ka hopena, ʻaʻole wale mākou no ka mea ʻo ia pū me mākou. "

A e hōʻoluʻolu i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo hiki i ke Akua ke hana i nā mea kupaianaha me kou wā mehameha.

"E lawe i kou mehameha a ʻōlelo, 'ʻAʻole wau makemake i kona ʻano, akā e ʻike wau ia e like me kā ke Akua ʻōlelo e hoʻohuli ai," wahi a Brownback. "Inā he hoʻokaʻawale ia i kāu hana a i ʻole kahi hanana i waiho ai ke Akua iā ʻoe i loko, hiki iā ia ke hoʻohana."