He aha ka hewa o ka hoʻolaʻa? No ke aha i aloha ai?

ʻAʻole he hoʻokaʻawale ka ʻōlelo hoʻoliʻiliʻi i kēia lā, akā he aha nā mea āpau loa? ʻO ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, i ʻike ʻia e kekahi inoa ʻē aʻe - ʻōhumu - ʻo ia paha kekahi o nā hewa maʻamau i ka mōʻaukala kanaka āpau.

E like me p. Ua kākau ʻo John A. Hardon, SJ, i loko o kāna puke wehewehe ʻōlelo Katolika hou, ka unuhi ʻana "E hōʻike i kekahi mea e pili ana i kahi mea ʻē aʻe he ʻoiaʻiʻo akā hōʻino ia i ka inoa o kēlā kanaka."

Hoʻomaha: kahi hewa i kū i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo
ʻO ka hoʻoliʻiliʻi kekahi o nā hewa e pili ana i ka Catechism o ka hale pule Katolika i hoʻokaʻawale ʻia ma ke ʻano he "hewa i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo". I ka wā e pili ana i nā hewa ʻē aʻe, e like me ka hōʻike wahaheʻe, hōʻike wahaheʻe, ʻōlelo hōʻino, kaena ʻana, a me ka wahaheʻe, maʻalahi ke ʻike pehea lākou e lawehala ai i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo - pili nā ʻōlelo āpau i kahi mea āu e ʻike ai he wahaheʻe a manaʻoʻiʻo paha. e wahaheʻe.

ʻO ka unuhi ʻana, he hihia kūikawā ia. E like me ka wehewehe ʻana e hōʻike ai, no ka hewa o ka hoʻoliʻiliʻi, pono ʻoe e ʻōlelo i kahi mea āu e ʻike ai he ʻoiaʻiʻo a i ʻole manaʻoʻiʻo ʻoe he ʻoiaʻiʻo. Pehea lā e lilo ai ka hoʻoliʻiliʻi i hewa i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo?

Nā hopena o ka hoʻoliʻiliʻi
Aia ka pane i ka hopena o ka hoʻoliʻiliʻi. E like me ka Catechism of the Catholic Church e nānā nei (paukū 2477), "ʻO ka mahalo i ka hanohano o ka poʻe e pāpā ana i kēlā me kēia ʻano a me nā ʻōlelo āpau e hōʻeha ai iā lākou. Hewa ke kanaka i ka hoʻoliʻiliʻi inā, "me ke kumu ʻole kūpono ʻole, hōʻike ʻo ia i nā hemahema a me nā hemahema o kekahi i ka poʻe ʻike ʻole iā lākou".

Hoʻopili pinepine ka hewa o ke kanaka i kekahi poʻe, akā ʻaʻole mau. ʻOiai ke pili lākou i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe, kaupalena ʻia ka helu o ka poʻe i hoʻopili ʻia. Ma ka hōʻike ʻana i nā hewa o haʻi i ka poʻe ʻike ʻole i kēlā mau lawehala, hōʻino mākou i ke kūlana o kēlā kanaka. ʻOiai e mihi mau ʻo ia i kāna mau hewa (a ua hana paha ia ma mua o ka hōʻike ʻana iā lākou), ʻaʻole hiki iā ia ke kiʻi hou i kona inoa maikaʻi ma hope o ka hōʻino ʻana iā ia. ʻOiaʻiʻo, inā ua hana mākou i ka hoʻoliʻiliʻi, koi ʻia mākou e hoʻāʻo i kekahi ʻano e hoʻomaikaʻi - "morale a i kekahi manawa mea", e like me ka Catechism.

Akā ʻaʻole hiki ke hoʻopau hou ʻia nā mea i hōʻino ʻia, no laila ke manaʻo nei ka hale pule i ka hoʻoliʻiliʻi ma ke ʻano he lawehala koʻikoʻi.

ʻAʻole pale ka ʻoiaʻiʻo
ʻO ke koho maikaʻi loa, ʻoiaʻiʻo, ʻaʻole e hoʻokomo i ka hoʻoliʻiliʻi ma mua. ʻOiai e nīnau mai kekahi iā mākou inā hewa kekahi i kekahi lawehala, hiki iā mākou ke pale aku i ka inoa maikaʻi o kēlā kanaka ke ʻole, e like me kā Father Hardon i kākau ai, "aia kahi maikaʻi kūpono." ʻAʻole hiki iā mākou ke hoʻohana i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo o kahi mea a mākou i ʻōlelo ai he ʻoiaʻiʻo ko mākou pale. Inā ʻaʻole pono kahi kanaka e ʻike i ka hewa o haʻi, ʻaʻole manuahi mākou e haʻi i kēlā ʻike. E like me ka ʻōlelo a ka Catechism of the Church Church (paukū 2488-89):

ʻAʻole kuleana ke kamaʻilio ʻana i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo. Pono kēlā me kēia e hoʻohālikelike i kona ola i ke kānāwai ʻeuanelio o ke aloha fraternal. Koi kēia iā mākou i nā hanana paʻa e hoʻokolokolo inā kūpono a hōʻike ʻole paha i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo i ka mea e noi ana iā ia.
ʻO ke aloha a me ka mahalo i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo e kuhikuhi i ka pane i nā noi no ka ʻikepili a kamaʻilio paha. ʻO ka maikaʻi a me ka palekana o nā poʻe ʻē aʻe, ka mahalo i ka pilikino a me ka maikaʻi maʻamau ke kumu o ka noho mālie e pili ana i ka mea e ʻike ʻole a hoʻohana ai i ka ʻōlelo naʻaupō. ʻO ke kuleana e hōʻalo ai i ka hōʻino ke koi pinepine ʻia i ka noʻonoʻo koʻikoʻi. ʻAʻole koi ʻia kekahi e hōʻike i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo i kekahi kanaka ʻaʻohe ona kuleana e ʻike ia mea.
Hōʻalo i ka hewa o ka hoʻoliʻiliʻi
Huhū mākou i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo ke haʻi mākou i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo i ka poʻe kuleana ʻole i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, a i kēia manawa, hōʻino i ka inoa maikaʻi a haʻi a me ka maikaʻi. ʻO ka hapa nui o ka poʻe e kapa mau nei he "ʻōhumu" he hōʻemi maoli ia, ʻoiai ka ʻōlelo hōʻino (e haʻi wahaheʻe ana i nā ʻōlelo wahaheʻe e pili ana i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe) ʻo ka hapa nui ke koena. ʻO ke ala maikaʻi loa e hōʻalo ai i ka hāʻule ʻana i kēia mau lawehala e hana e like me ka ʻōlelo a ko mākou mau mākua, "Inā ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻōlelo i kahi mea maikaʻi e pili ana i ke kanaka, mai ʻōlelo i kekahi mea."

Hoʻonohonoho: diˈtrakSHən

ʻIke ʻia e like me: Gossip, Backbiting (ʻoiai ʻo ka backbiting pinepine pinepine ʻia me ka ʻōlelo hōʻino)

Nā laʻana: "Ua haʻiʻo ia i kāna hoaaloha e pili ana i nā hana a kona kaikuahine ʻona, ʻoiai ua ʻike ʻo ia i ka hana ʻana i ia mea no ka hoʻoliʻiliʻi."