Nzira yekubatsira vana kuda shamwari dzavo
Vhiki rapfuura, pandakanga ndiri kubasa, email yakauya kubva kushamwari yangu Machelle. Ndichiona kuti yaive yakangodaidzwa kuti "Recess," ndakavhunduka ndichivhura kuti ndivhure. Machelle ane vana vadiki vana uye haasi wekutumira ini manotsi pane akanaka antics; kana zita racho raive "zororo," chaive chinhu chakange chakakanganisika nezororo, zvese nevana vake neangu.
Ini ndakakurumidza kuverenga iyo email. Ndaitaura chokwadi. Mwanakomana wake wegiredhi rechishanu aive auya kwaari, achichema, panguva yekuzorora kwemasikati apo aibva kukireshi kwemasikati. Vamwe vakomana mukirasi yake havana kumutendera kutamba basketball.
Pataichinjana maemail, ndakaziva mazita evakomana vakomana senge vandakanga ndambonzwa kakawanda, zvese kubva kuvana vangu nevamwe vabereki. Ndakavatora se "alpha-mukomana vakomana"; vamwe vabereki vaivadana kuti vanoshusha. Chikoro chakabvumirana netsika yechipiri, uye mushure mekunge Machelle ataura nemudzidzisi wemwanakomana wake, mumwe nemumwe wevakomana akagamuchira danho rekutanga reyambiro muchirongwa chekudzivirira kushungurudzwa kwechikoro.
Chikoro ndiyo imwe yenzvimbo dzakaomera vana vedu kurarama murairo waJesu wekuda muvakidzani wavo. Iyo yakaoma webhu yekudyidzana kusangana zvinoreva kuti vana vanowanzo kuseka chinzvimbo mukati mekirasi yavo yekirasi. Kubatsira vana kuti vasvike pakubatana kwevezera ravo kubva pakuona kwechiKristu kunogona kunetsa kana vezera ravo vangave nehurongwa hwakasiyana zvachose husina chekuita ne "vanoda vavakidzani" nezvose zvine chekuita nekumisikidza simba.
Vabereki vanobata zvinotarisirwa nemwana wavo maererano nemabatiro aungaita vamwe, zvisinei, vanoona kuti vana vavo vanozowedzera kuvimba nekufamba kwenguva. Nechivimbo kunouya ruremekedzo rwevanodzidza navo, uye kana paine vana vakakwana "vanoita zvakanaka", vana ivavo - kwete ivo vanoshusha - vanozopedzisira vagadzika toni yekirasi.
Ipa mwana wako mamwe mazwi akakosha
Michele Borba, munyori wevabereki anoita mutsauko: maitiro ekurera vana vane hunhu hwakasimba, pfungwa dzakasimba uye nemoyo inoitira hanya (Jossey-Bass), akati vabereki nevadzidzisi vanogona kubatsira vana kuwana mazwi nemitsara kuti vafadze vanhu. Mienzaniso yake inosanganisira: Ndakaifarira. Ndiri kufara kuti makadzoka. Zvese zvakanaka? Ndingabatsira sei? Unoita senge uri kutya.
Vabatsire kukanganwira uye kukanganwirwa
Kereke yedu inotipa zviwanikwa zvine simba kuti tibatsire vanhu vakuru pamwe nevana kubudikidza nehukama hwakaomesesa. Vabereki vanoziva izvi vanopa vana vavo chipo chekutora kuenda navo mukukura. Vhiki rega rega, apo taidzokorora Baba Vedu pamberi peEucharist, tinoti: "Tikanganwirei kudarika kwedu isu tichiregerera vanotitadzira".
Kana iwe uchiziva kuti mwana wako ave nevhiki rakaoma kuchikoro nenyaya dzehukama, taura nezve ruregerero pamberi peMisa uye umubvunze kuti ataridze zvakanyanya dzimwe nguva kukumbira ruregerero. Kana iwe ukabata maoko ako panguva yaBaba Vedu, ipa mwana wako chidimbu chipfupi panguva yekuregererwa chikamu. Funga kuenda kusakaramende rekuyananisa panguva dzakaoma. Pane imwe nguva, mushure mekunge mhuri yedu yaenda kunoyanana, mwanakomana wedu Liam, ane makore masere, akaita nekumhanyira kukereke yekupaka mushure. "Ndiri kunzwa kureruka!" Akatitaurira tsananguro.
Vabatsire kuti vasanganiswe
Jesu akaraira vateveri vake kuti mukupa kudya havafaniri kukoka shamwari, vavakidzani vakapfuma, kana hama, asi panzvimbo pezvo kukoka avo vasingakwanise kuvaripa (Ruka 14: 12–24). Tinogona kudzidzisa vana vedu kutevedzera muenzaniso waJesu nekuvakurudzira kuronga mazuva ekubhadhara nevana vangazosiyiwa: mwana akanyarara hapana anoonekwa; mwana asingagare padyo nevamwe vese; mwana akanzi "not cool". Nepo vana vachifanira kuve nesarudzo yekuti ndiani wekukoka kumba, vabereki vanogona kupa nhungamiro yekubatsira vana kukunda izvo zviri pachena sarudzo: avo vana vane mukurumbira vanofungwa nemunhu wese kutanga.