Kune Remendi, dzora kutsamwa kunotsvaga kanganwiro

Shannon, mumwe wekudyidzana mukambani yemagweta yeChicago, aive nemutengi akapiwa mukana wekugadzirisa nyaya neanokwikwidza yekutengesa ye $ 70.000 uye kuvhara kwemabhizimusi emukwikwidzi.

"Ndakagara ndanyevera mutengi wangu kuti kuendesa mukwikwidzi kudare kwaizounza mubairo mudiki," anodaro Shannon. “Asi pese pandinoitsanangura, aindiudza kuti haana basa nazvo. Ainge akuvara uye aida kuswera mudare. Akange akatsunga kukuvadza mukwikwidzi wake kumberi, kunyangwe kana izvo zvaizouya nemubhadharo kwaari. Nyaya yacho payakatongwa, Shannon akakunda, asi sezvanga zvichitarisirwa, vatongi vakapa mutengi wake chete $ 50.000 XNUMX uye vakatendera mukwikwidzi wake kugara mubhizinesi. "Mutengi wangu akasiya dare aine hasha uye akatsamwa, kunyangwe akahwina," anodaro.

Shannon anoti nyaya iyi haina kujairika. "Vanhu musimboti. Ivo vanoita kukanganisa kwekutenda kuti kana vakagona kukuvadza munhu akavatadzira, kana ivo vachigona chete kuvaita kuti vabhadhare, ivo vanonzwa zviri nani. Asi zvandinoona ndezvekuti havanzwe zvirinani, kunyangwe vakahwina vanogara vachiunza hasha dzakafanana, uye ikozvino vatambisawo nguva nemari. "

Shannon anoti haasi kureva kuti vatadzi havagone kuverengerwa mhosva. "Handisi kutaura nezvemamiriro ezvinhu anotyisa anoita kuti zviitwe zvine musoro," anodaro. "Ndiri kutaura nezvazvo kana mumwe munhu achibvumira mumvuri wechisarudzo chemumwe munhu chakaipa kudzikisira hupenyu hwavo." Shannon anoti kana izvi zvikaitika, kunyanya kana iri nyaya yemhuri, iye anoona kuregererwa uye kufambira mberi sekukosha kukuru kumutengi pane kukunda musimboti.

“Mumwe mukadzi nguva pfupi yadarika akauya kwandiri nekuti akatenda kuti munin’ina wake akamubiridzira mugove wake wenhaka kubva kuna baba vavo. Mukadzi anga achitaura chokwadi, asi mari yanga yaenda uye iye nehanzvadzi yake vari pamudyandigere, ”anodaro Shannon. “Mukadzi uyu akange atoshandisa makumi ezviuru zvemadhora kumhan’arira hanzvadzi yake. Akandiudza kuti aisatendera hanzvadzi yake kutiza nemuenzaniso waaizopa mwanakomana wake akura. Ndakakurudzira kuti sezvo pangave pasina nzira yekudzorera mari, pamwe zvaizonyanya kukosha kumwanakomana kuona amai vake vachiregerera tete vake, kumuona achiedza kutangazve hukama mushure mekutyora kuvimba. "

Nyanzvi dzine basa rekushanda nevanhu pavanenge vachifamba mumamiriro ezvinhu akaomesesa ehupenyu vane zvakawanda zvekutidzidzisa nezvedu zvinokanganisa kudzora marwadzo nehasha zvinouya nazvo. Ivo zvakare vanopa maonero ekuti ungafambira mberi sei pakati pematambudziko emamiriro akakanganisika.

Hasha dzinonamira
Andrea, mushandi wezvemagariro evanhu anoshanda mukuchengetedza vana, anoti vanhu vanobatwa vakashatirwa havawanzo kuziva kuti vabatwa. "Unhu hunonamira hweasara emanzwiro hunogona kutikanganisa," anodaro. "Nhanho yekutanga ndeyekuziva kuti iwe urikubatanidzwa mune ino yemanzwiro quagmire iyo inogona kukanganisa zvese zvehupenyu hwako kubva pakuzadza yako pantry kuita basa."

Andrea anoona tambo yakajairika pakati pevanhu vakapfuura nekutsamwa uye kukuvadza kupora uye kubudirira. "Vanhu vanokwanisa kukurira matambudziko vakagadzira kugona kutarisa zvakadzama mumamiriro ehupenyu hwavo uye nekuziva zvakaitika kwavari munguva yakapfuura haisi yavo mhaka. Ipapo, vachinzwisisa izvi, ivo vanotora nhanho inotevera yekuziva kuti kana vakatsamwa, havazokwanise kuwana runyararo. Ivo vakadzidza kuti hapana nzira yerunyararo kuburikidza nehasha. "

Andrea akataura kuti humwe hunhu hwevanhu vakashinga kugona kwavo kusabvumira kurwira kwavo kwekare, kunyangwe kana kuchikosha, kuvatsanangudza. "Mutengi anga achinetseka nehurwere hwepfungwa uye kupindwa muropa akati budiriro yakauya apo chipangamazano akamubatsira kuti anzwisise kuti munzvimbo yehupenyu hwake, kupindwa muropa nekurwara kwepfungwa zvakangofanana nekamwe munwe," anodaro. "Hongu, ivo vaivepo uye chikamu chake, asi paive nezvakawanda kwaari kupfuura izvo zviviri zvinhu. Paakagamuchira iyi pfungwa, akakwanisa kuchinja hupenyu hwake. "

Andrea anoti zvakafanana zvinoenda kune vanhu vanozviwana vari mumamiriro asinganyanye kupfuura vatengi vake. “Kana zvasvika pakutsamwa, hazvina basa kuti munhu ari kusangana nezvinorema zvandinoona kana chimwewo chinhu munzvimbo yehupenyu hwezuva nezuva. Zvinogona kuve noutano kutsamwa pamamiriro ezvinhu, kutora matanho, uye kuenderera mberi. Izvo zvisina hutano ndezvekuti mamiriro ekukudya, ”anodaro.

Andrea anoona kuti munamato nekufungisisa zvinogona kuita kuti zvive nyore kuva netsitsi kune vamwe vanodiwa kukunda kutsamwa. "Munamato nekufungisisa zvinogona kutibatsira kuti titarise zviri nani hupenyu hwedu uye zvinogona kutibatsira kuti tisave vanozvifunga uye kubatwa nemanzwiro kana chimwe chinhu chikatadza."

Usamirira kusvika pamubhedha wako wekufa
Lisa Marie, anoshanda mushandi wezvemagariro, anorarama vanhu vakawanda gore rega rega nemhuri dzaanoshandira. Tsvaga chokwadi muchirevo chebhuku raIra Byock parufu, Izvo Zvinhu zvina Zvinonyanya Kukosha (Mabhuku eAtria). "Kana vanhu vafa, vanofanirwa kunzwa kudiwa, kunzwa kuti hupenyu hwavo hwave nechinangwa, kupa uye kugashira ruregerero uye kuti vakwanise kutaura zvakanaka," anodaro.

Lisa Marie anotaurira nyaya yemurwere ave akaparadzaniswa nemukoma wake kweanopfuura makore makumi maviri: "Hanzvadzi yakauya kuzomuona; yakanga yave nguva yakareba kubva paakamuona zvekuti akatarisa bracelet yechipatara kuti asimbise kuti aive hama yake zvechokwadi. Asi akaonekana naye ndokumuudza kuti aimuda. Lisa Marie anoti murume uyu akafa murunyararo kwapera maawa maviri.

Iye anotenda kuti kudiwa kwakafanana kwerudo, zvinoreva, kukanganwira uye kuonekana zvakanaka zvakare kunodiwa kuti ushande muhupenyu hwezuva nezuva. “Semubereki, semuenzaniso, kana uri kuswera mushe nemwana uye uchinetseka nekuregerera, unogona kushushikana mudumbu. Unogona kusakwanisa kurara, ”anodaro Lisa Marie. "Muhospital, tinonzwisisa pfungwa, muviri, kubatana kwemweya uye tinozviona nguva dzose."

Kunzwisisa kwaLisa Marie kutsamwa kwakasimba uye chigumbu kunogona kunge kwakamuudza maitiro ake kunze kwemubhedha wevarwere vake.

"Kana iwe ukapinda mukamuri ukaona mumwe munhu akasungwa - mumwe munhu aive akasungwa panyama - waizoita zvaunogona kuvasunungura," anodaro. “Pandinomhanyira kune mumwe munhu akasungirirwa pakutsamwa kwavo uye nehasha, ndinoona kuti ivo vakasungwa pairi semunhu akasunganidzwa panyama. Kazhinji pandinoona izvi pane mukana wekutaura chinhu zvinyoro nyoro, kubatsira munhu kuti anyungudike. "

Kuna Lisa Marie, idzi nguva ndedze nezve kubatanidzwa zvakakwana kuMweya Mutsvene kuti uzive kuti inguvai yekutaura. “Pamwe ndakamira panzvimbo yekutamba nevamwe vabereki; pamwe ndiri mushop. Kana tiri kuedza kurarama hupenyu uhu Mwari hwaakatipa, tinonyanya kuziva mukana wekushandiswa semaoko netsoka dzaMwari ”.