Izeluleko ze-7 Zokukhulisa Abangane Beqiniso

"Ubungane buvela ebudlelwaneni obulula lapho abangane ababili noma ngaphezulu bethola ukuthi banombono ofanayo noma intshisekelo noma ukunambitheka abanye abangabelani ngakho nokuthi, kuze kube yileso sikhathi, wonke umuntu wayekholelwa ukuthi ingcebo yakhe eyingqayizivele (noma umthwalo ). Isisho esivamile sokuvulwa kobungane kungaba into efana nokuthi, 'Ini? Nawe? Bengicabanga ukuthi ngedwa. '”- CS Lewis, The Four Loves

Kuyamangalisa ukuthola umlingani ohlanganyela nathi into efana nathi bese iba ubungani beqiniso. Kodwa-ke, kunezikhathi lapho ukwenza nokugcina ubungane obuhlala njalo kungelula.

Kubantu abadala, impilo ingaba matasa ngokulinganisa imithwalo yemfanelo ehlukahlukene emsebenzini, ekhaya, empilweni yomndeni, nakweminye imisebenzi. Ukuthola isikhathi sokwakhela ubungane kungaba nzima, futhi kuyohlale kukhona labo esikuthola kunzima ukuxhumana nabo. Ukwakha ubungani beqiniso kudinga isikhathi nomzamo. Ngabe sikubeka phambili? Ingabe zikhona izinto esingazenza ukuqala nokuqhubeka nobungane?

Iqiniso likaNkulunkulu eliseBhayibhelini lingasisiza ngezikhathi lapho kungaba nzima ukuthola ubungane, ukubulondoloza nokulondoloza ubungane bethu.

Buyini ubungani?
"Noma ngubani onabangane abangathembekile usheshe aphele incithakalo, kepha kukhona umngane oqhubeka esondela kakhulu kunomfowenu" (Izaga 18:24).

Ubumbano phakathi kukaNkulunkulu uBaba, iNdodana noMoya oNgcwele lwembula ukusondelana nobudlelwano sonke esikufisayo, futhi uNkulunkulu usimema ukuthi sibe yingxenye yabo. Abantu benzelwe ubungani njengabaphathi bomfanekiso kaZiqu-zintathu futhi kwamenyezelwa ukuthi akukuhle ukuthi umuntu abe yedwa (uGenesise 2:18).

UNkulunkulu wadala u-Eva ukusiza u-Adamu futhi wahamba nabo ensimini yase-Edene ngaphambi kokuwa. Wayenobudlelwano nabo futhi babezwana naye. Nangemuva kokuba u-Adamu no-Eva bonile, kwaba yiNkosi eyaqala ukubamukela futhi yavula uhlelo lwaKhe lokuhlenga omubi (uGenesise 3:15)

Ubungani bubonakaliswa ngokusobala empilweni nasekufeni kukaJesu. Wathi, “Akekho onothando olukhulu kunalolu, owanikela ngokuphila kwakhe ngenxa yabangane bakhe. Ningabangane bami uma nenza lokho enginiyala ngakho. Angisanibizi ngokuthi niyizinceku, ngoba inceku ayiyazi imisebenzi yenkosi yayo. Esikhundleni salokho nginibize ngabangane, ngoba konke engikufunde kuBaba nginazisile khona ”(Johane 15: 13-15).

UJesu waziveza kithi futhi akazange agodle lutho, ngisho nokuphila kwakhe. Uma simlandela futhi simlalela, sibizwa ngabangane bakhe. Ngubukhazikhazi benkazimulo kaNkulunkulu kanye nokubonakaliswa okuqondile kwemvelo yakhe (KumaHeberu 1: 3). Singamazi uNkulunkulu ngoba waba yinyama futhi wazenza saziwa kithina. Wanikela ngokuphila kwakhe ngenxa yethu. Ukwaziwa nokuthandwa nguNkulunkulu nokubizwa ngokuthi singabangani baKhe kufanele kusishukumisele ukuba sibe abangane nabanye ngenxa yothando nokulalela uJesu.Singabathanda abanye ngoba wasithanda kuqala (1 Johane 4:19).

Izindlela ezi-7 zokwakha ubungani
1. Thandazela umngane oyedwa noma ababili abasondelene naye
Simcelile uNkulunkulu ukuthi akhe abangane? Uyasinakekela futhi wazi konke esikudingayo. Kungenzeka kungakaze kube yinto ebesingacabanga ukuyithandazela.

Ku-1 Johane 5: 14-15 kuthi: “Yilokhu ukwethemba esinakho kuye, ukuthi uma sicela utho ngokwentando yakhe, uyasizwa. Futhi uma sazi ukuthi uyasizwa kunoma yini esiyicelayo kuye, siyazi ukuthi sinazo izicelo esizicelile kuye “.

Ngokholo, singamcela ukuthi alethe umuntu othile empilweni yethu azosikhuthaza, asiphonsele inselelo, futhi aqhubeke nokusikhomba kuJesu. Uma sicele uNkulunkulu ukuthi asisize sakhe ubungane obuseduze obungasikhuthaza okholweni nasempilweni yethu, kumele sikholwe ukuthi uzosiphendula. Silindele ukuthi uNkulunkulu enze ngokungenakulinganiswa ngaphezu kwalokho esingakucela noma esikucabangayo ngamandla Akhe asebenza kithi (kwabase-Efesu 3:20).

2. Cinga ukuhlakanipha eBhayibhelini mayelana nobungane
IBhayibheli ligcwele ukuhlakanipha, futhi incwadi yezAga inokuningi okushiwo ngobungane, kufaka phakathi ukukhetha abangane ngokuhlakanipha nokuba ngumngane. Yabelana ngeseluleko esihle esivela kumngani: "Amafutha nempepho kuletha injabulo enhliziyweni, nobumnandi bomngane buvela ezelulekweni zabo eziqotho" (Izaga 27: 9).

Iphinde ixwayise ngalabo abangaqeda ubungane: "Umuntu omubi ubhebhezela ingxabano nenhlebo ehlukanisa abangane" (Izaga 16:28) futhi "Noma ngubani okhuthaza uthando ufihla isiphambeko, kepha noma ngubani ophindayo. uhlukanisa abangane "(Izaga 17: 9).

KwiTestamente Elisha, uJesu uyisibonelo sethu esikhulu sokuthi kusho ukuthini ukuba ngumngani. Uthi, "Akekho onothando olukhulu kunalolu: ukudela impilo yakhe ngenxa yabangane bakhe" (Johane 15:13). Kusukela kuGenesise kuya kusambulo sibona indaba yothando lukaNkulunkulu nobungane bakhe nabantu. Usijahe njalo. Ngabe sizolandela abanye ngothando olufanayo nalolo uKristu analo ngathi?

3. Yiba umngane
Akukona nje ukwakhiwa kwethu nokuthi yini esingayifinyelela ngobungani. AbaseFiliphi 2: 4 bathi, "Yilowo nalowo makangabheki nje kuphela izintshisekelo zakhe kepha nezabanye" futhi u-1 Thesalonika 5:11 uthi, "Ngalokho-ke khuthazanani, nakhane, njengoba nje nenza."

Baningi abodwa futhi abasenkingeni, abalangazelela umngane nothile ongamlalela. Ngubani esingambusisa futhi simkhuthaze? Ngabe ukhona okufanele simazi? Akubona bonke abantu esibaziyo noma abantu esibasizayo abazoba abangane abakhulu. Kodwa-ke, sibizelwe ukuthanda umakhelwane wethu kanye nezitha zethu, futhi sikhonze labo esihlangana nabo futhi sibathande njengoba kwenza uJesu.

Njengoba amaRoma 12:10 esho: “Thandanani ngothando lobuzalwane. Phumani omunye komunye ekuboniseni udumo. "

4. Thatha isinyathelo kuqala
Ukuthatha isinyathelo okholweni kungaba nzima impela. Ukucela othile ukuthi ahlangane aphuze ikhofi, umeme othile endlini yethu noma enze okuthile esethemba ukuthi kuzosiza othile ukuthi abe nesibindi. Kungaba khona zonke izinhlobo zezithiyo. Mhlawumbe unqoba amahloni noma ukwesaba. Mhlawumbe kunodonga lwamasiko noma lomphakathi oludinga ukuphulwa, ubandlululo oludinga ukuphonselwa inselelo noma sidinga nje ukwethemba ukuthi uJesu uzoba nathi kukho konke ukuxhumana kwethu.

Kungaba nzima futhi ukulandela uJesu akulula, kepha ayikho enye indlela engcono yokuphila. Kufanele sizimisele futhi sivule izinhliziyo zethu namakhaya kulabo abasizungezile, sikhombise ukungenisa izihambi nomusa futhi sibathande njengoba noKristu esithanda. KwakunguJesu owaqala ukuhlengwa ngokuthulula umusa wakhe kithi ngenkathi siseyizitha nezoni kuNkulunkulu (KwabaseRoma 5: 6-10). Uma uNkulunkulu esipha umusa ongaka ongaka kithina, nathi singanikeza abanye lowo musa.

5. Phila ngokuzidela
UJesu wayehlala esuka kwenye indawo eya kwenye indawo, ahlangane nabantu ngaphandle kwesixuku futhi ahlangabezane nezidingo zabo ezingokwenyama nezingokomoya. Kodwa-ke, wayelokhu ethola isikhathi sokuchitha noYise emthandazweni kanye nabafundi Bakhe. Ekugcineni, uJesu waphila impilo yokuzidela ngenkathi elalela uYise futhi ebeka impilo yakhe esiphambanweni ngenxa yethu.

Manje sesingaba ngabangane bakaNkulunkulu ngoba wasifela isono sethu, sazibuyisana ebudlelwaneni obufanele Naye.Nathi kufanele senze okufanayo futhi siphile impilo engaphansi ngathi, eyengeziwe ngoJesu futhi engenabugovu kwabanye. Ngokuguqulwa ngothando lomhlatshelo woMsindisi, sikwazi ukuthanda abanye ngokweqile futhi sitshale imali kubantu njengoba kwenza uJesu.

6. Yima Abangane ehla enyuka
Umngani weqiniso ugxilile futhi uzohlala ngezikhathi zenkinga nobuhlungu, kanye nangezikhathi zenjabulo nezenjabulo. Abangani babelana bobabili ubufakazi nemiphumela futhi basobala futhi baqotho. Ubungani obuseduze phakathi kukaDavide noJonathan ku-1 Samuweli 18: 1 kufakazela lokhu: "Ngokushesha nje lapho eseqedile ukukhuluma noSawule, umphefumulo kaJonathan wahlangana nomphefumulo kaDavide, uJonathan wamthanda njengomphefumulo wakhe." UJonathan wabonisa umusa kuDavide lapho uyise, iNkosi uSawule, efuna ukuphila kukaDavide. UDavide wamethemba uJonathan ukuthi amsize ancenge uyise ukuba anikezele, kodwa futhi amxwayise uma uSawule esesemva kwempilo yakhe (1 Samuweli 20). Ngemuva kokubulawa kukaJonathan empini, uDavida waba lusizi, okwakhombisa ukujula kobudlelwano babo (2 Samuweli 1: 25-27).

7. Khumbula ukuthi uJesu ungumngane wokugcina
Kungaba nzima ukwenza ubungani beqiniso futhi obuhlala njalo, kepha ngoba siyethemba iNkosi ukuthi izosisiza kulokhu, sidinga ukukhumbula ukuthi uJesu ungumngane wethu wokugcina. Ubiza amakholwa ngokuthi ngabangane bakhe ngoba uvulelekile kubo futhi akafihli lutho kubo (Johane 15:15). Wasifela, wasithanda kuqala (1 Johane 4:19), wasikhetha (Johane 15:16), kwathi sisekude noNkulunkulu wasisondeza ngegazi lakhe, elasichitha esiphambanweni (Kwabase-Efesu 2:13).

Ungumngane wezoni futhi uthembisa ukuthi akasoze abashiya noma abalahle labo abathembela kuye.Isisekelo sobungani beqiniso futhi obuhlala njalo yikhona okusishukumisela ukuba silandele uJesu impilo yethu yonke, sifisa ukuqeda umjaho obheke phakade.