"UNkulunkulu ukhethe ukusibiza": Indaba yabafowethu ababili abamisa abapristi bama Katolika ngosuku olufanayo

UPeyton noConnor Plessala bangabazalwane abavela eSelfonia, e-Alabama. Nginezinyanga eziyi-18 ngikhona, unyaka wesikole.

Ngaphandle kokuncintisana ngezikhathi ezithile kanye nokuxabana abafowethu abaningi ababona bekhula, bebelokhu bengabangane abakhulu.

"Siseduze kakhulu kunabangani abakhulu," uColor, 25, utshele i-CNA.

Njengosemusha, esikoleni samabanga aphansi, esikoleni esiphakeme, ekolishi, iningi lempilo yabo laligxile ezintweni umuntu angazilindela: izifundiswa, ama-eccentrics, abangane, izintombi kanye nezemidlalo.

Kunezindlela eziningi lezinsizwa ezimbili ezazingazikhethela impilo yazo, kodwa ekugcineni, ngenyanga edlule, zafika endaweni efanayo: zilele ngobuso phansi phambi kwe-altare, zinikela ngokuphila kwazo ekukhonzeni uNkulunkulu futhi weSonto LamaKatolika.

Lezi zelamani zombili zagcotshwa ubuphristi ngoMeyi 30 eCathedral Basilica ye-Immaculate Concourse e-Mobile, esixukwini sangasese, ngenxa yalesi sifo.

“Kungasiphi isizathu, uNkulunkulu wakhetha ukusifonela futhi wakwenza. Futhi saba nenhlanhla eyenele yokuba nesisekelo sabo bobabili abazali bethu nendlela esikhuliswe ngayo ukuze balalele bese sithi yebo, ”kusho uPeyton etshela uCNA.

UPeyton, 27, uthi ujabule kakhulu ngokuqala ukusiza ngezikole zamaKhatholika nezemfundo, nokuthi aqale nokuzwa izikhalazo.

“Uchitha isikhathi esiningi esifundweni sezenkolo uzilungiselela ukusebenza ngosuku olulodwa. Uchitha isikhathi esiningi esifundweni sokufunda ngamasu, amaphupho, amathemba nezinto ozozenza ngolunye usuku ikusasa eliqondakalayo… manje sekufikile. Futhi ngakho angikwazi ukulinda ukuze ngiqale. "

"Amandla emvelo"

ENyakatho yeLouisiana, lapho abazali babafowethu bakaPlessala bakhulela khona, ungumKatolika ngaphandle kokuthi usho ngenye indlela, kusho uPeyton.

Bobabili abazali bakaPlessala bangodokotela. Umndeni wathuthela e-Alabama lapho uConnor noPeyton besemncane kakhulu.

Yize lo mndeni ubuhlala ungama Katolika - futhi ukhulisa uPyton, uContor kanye nodadewabo omncane kanye nomfowethu okholweni - abafowethu bathi abakaze babe uhlobo “lokuthandazelana etafuleni lasekhishini” lomndeni.

Ngaphezu kokuthatha umndeni ngenqwaba njalo ngamaSonto, abakwaPlessalas bafundise izingane zabo lokho okwenziwa yiPyton ngokuthi "ubuhle bemvelo" - ukuthi bangaba kanjani abantu abalungile nabahle; ukubaluleka kokukhetha abangane babo ngobuhlakani; nokubaluleka kwemfundo.

Ukuzibandakanya njalo kwabafowethu emidlalweni yamaqembu, kukhuthazwe ngabazali babo, nakho kusizile ukubafundisa ngalezo zimfanelo zemvelo.

Ukudlala ibhola, i-basketball, ibhola lezinyawo kanye ne-baseball eminyakeni edlule kubafundise amanani wokuzikhandla, i-camaraderie, nokubekela abanye isibonelo.

"Basifundise ukuthi kumele sikhumbule ukuthi uma usuzodlala ezemidlalo futhi unegama elithi Plessala ngemuva kwehembe lakho, elimele umndeni wonke," kusho uPeyton.

'Ngingakwenza'

U-Peyton utshele i-CNA ukuthi yize eya ezikoleni zama Katolika futhi ethola "inkulumo yomsebenzi" minyaka yonke, akekho noyedwa kubo owake wabheka ubupristi njengendlela yokuphila kwabo.

Lokho kusho ukuthi, kuze kube ekuqaleni konyaka ka-2011, lapho izingane zakubo zithathe uhambo nezingane ezifunda nazo eWashington, DC zangoMashi ngokuphila, umhlangano omkhulu kunayo yonke wezempilo e-United States.

Umphathi weqembu labo eMcGill-Toolen Catholic High School wayengumpristi omusha, owayesanda kuthola umfundazwe, ontshiseko nentokozo yakhe yababaza kakhulu abafowethu.

Ufakazi womsizi wabo nabanye abapristi abahlangane nabo kulolo hambo washukumisela uContor ukuthi aqale ukucabanga ukujoyina isemina nje esikoleni esiphakeme.

Ekwindla ka-2012, uContor waqala izifundo zakhe eSt Joseph Seminary College eCovington, eLouisiana.

UPuyton uphinde wazwakala ebizelwa kubaphristi kulolo hambo, ngenxa yesibonelo somsizi wabo - kepha indlela yakhe eya esifundweni semfundo ephakeme yayiqondile njengoba nomfowabo omncane.

"Ngabona okokuqala," Dude, ngingakwenza lokhu. [Lo mpristi] unokuthula kakhulu naye, ujabule futhi ujabule kakhulu. Ngingakwenza. Lokhu impilo engingayiphila impela, ”kusho yena.

Ngaphandle kokuphikisana nokuhambela umhlangano, uPeyton wanquma ukuthi uzolandela uhlelo lakhe lokuqala lokufunda ngaphambi kokufunda eLouisiana State University. Ngemuva kwesikhathi uzohlala iminyaka emithathu isiyonke, ethandana nentombazane ayehlangane nayo eLSU iminyaka emibili yaleyo minyaka.

Unyaka wakhe omkhulu wekolishi, uPeyton ubuyela esikoleni sakhe semfundo ephakeme ukuze ahambisane nalolo hambo lwangoMashi lokuphila, lona loluhambo olwaqala ukudonswa kobupristi eminyakeni eminingana edlule.

Esikhathini esithile ohambweni, ngesikhathi sokudumiswa kwe-Blessed Sacrament, uPeyton wezwa izwi likaNkulunkulu: "Ngabe uyafuna ngempela ukuba udokotela?"

Impendulo, kwaba ukuthi, cha.

“Futhi lapho ngizwa lokhu, inhliziyo yami yazizwa inokuthula kunokuba yayikade ikhona… Mhlawumbe ayikaze ibe khona empilweni yami. Ngazi nje ukuthi ngaleso sikhathi, benginjengokuthi, "Ngizoya esikoleni sobufundisi," kusho uPyton.

“Okomzuzwana nje, benginenjongo yokuphila. Benginenkomba nomgomo. Ngivele ngazi ukuthi ngingubani. "

Lokhu kucaciswa okusha kwenzeka ngentengo, noma kunjalo… uPeyton wayazi ukuthi kuzodingeka ashiye intombi yakhe. Wenzeni.

UContor ukhumbula ucingo lukaPyton, emtshela ukuthi unqume ukuza esifundweni sezenkolo.

“Ngashaqeka. Ngangijabule. Bengijabule kakhulu ngoba besiqala ukuhlangana futhi, ”kusho uContor.

Ekwindla ka-2014, uPeyton wajoyina umfowabo omncane eSt Joseph Seminary.

"Singathembela komunye nomunye"

Yize uContor noPeyton bebelokhu bengabangani, ubudlelwano babo bashintsha - kwaba ngcono - lapho uPeyton ejoyina uContor esifundweni sokufunda.

Esikhathini esiningi sezimpilo zabo, uPeyton wayedonsele umkhondo kuConnor, emkhuthaza futhi emnika izeluleko lapho efika esikoleni esiphakeme, ngemuva kokuba uPeyton efunde izintambo lapho unyaka.

Manje, ngokokuqala ngqa, uContor wazizwa efana "nomfowethu omkhulu", onolwazi kakhulu empilweni yesemina.

Ngasikhathi sinye, yize abazalwane manje base belandela indlela efanayo, kodwa basondele empilweni yalomhlangano ngendlela yabo, nemibono yabo futhi babhekene nezinselelo ngezindlela ezihlukile, kusho yena.

Isipiliyoni sokwamukela inselele yokuba ngumpristi sasiza ubuhlobo babo ukuba bukhule.

“UPuyton wayehlala enza into yakhe ngoba wayengowokuqala. Wayemdala kunabo bonke. Futhi, ubengenaso isibonelo okufanele sisilandele ngaleso sikhathi, ngenkathi ngikhona, ”kusho uContor.

"Futhi ngakho-ke, umbono wokuhlukana:" Sizofana "bekunzima kimi, ngiyacabanga ... Kepha ngicabanga ukuthi, ebuhlungwini obukhulayo balokho, sikwazile ukukhula futhi sigcwalisa izipho zomunye nomunye futhi ubuthakathaka bese sincika kakhulu komunye nomunye ... manje sengazi izipho zikaPeyton kangcono, futhi uyazi izipho zami, ngakho-ke singathembela komunye nomunye.

Ngenxa yendlela amakhadi akhe asekolishi adluliswe ngayo asuka eLSU, uContor noPeyton bagcina bekwesi sigaba esifanayo sokuqokwa, yize "uCoror" eqala ikhanda iminyaka emibili.

"Phuma endleleni yoMoya oNgcwele"

Manje njengoba sebegcotshwe, uPeyton uthe abazali babo bahlala bexakekile ngombuzo, "Ngabe yini konke enikwenzile ukuze uthole ingxenye yabantwana bakho ebupristini?"

KuPyton, kunezinto ezimbili ezibalulekile ekukhulisweni kwabo ezamsiza yena nabafowabo ukuba bakhule njengamaKatolika azinikele.

Okokuqala, wathi, yena nabafowabo bafunda ezikoleni zamaKhatholika, ezikoleni ezinokukholwa okuqinile.

Kepha kunokuthile empilweni yomndeni kaPlessala okuthi, kuPeyton, kubaluleke kakhulu.

“Sasihlala njalo ubusuku nobusuku nomndeni, kungakhathalekile ukuthi ngabe lokho kwenziwa yini ukwenza lo msebenzi usebenze,” kusho yena.

“Ukube bekufanele sidle ngo-16pm ngoba omunye wethu wayenomdlalo ngalobo busuku sonke sihambile, noma uma sidla ngo-00: 21pm, ngoba ngangibuya ekhaya ngizoqeqeshwa ngebhola sekwedlule isikhathi esikoleni, noma ngabe kuyini. Sasihlala senza umzamo wokudla ndawonye futhi sithandaze ngaphambi kwaleyo sidlo. "

Isipiliyoni sokuhlangana njalo nomndeni nobusuku, ukuthandaza nokuchitha isikhathi sindawonye kwasiza umndeni ukuba ube munye futhi uxhase imizamo yelungu ngalinye, kusho abazalwane.

Lapho abafowethu batshela abazali babo ukuthi bangena esikoleni sobufundisi, abazali babo basizakale kakhulu, yize abazalwane besola ukuthi kungenzeka ukuthi umama wabo udabuke ukuthi angagcina ngokuba nabazukulu abambalwa.

Into eyodwa uContor ezwe ngayo umama wakhe ekhuluma kaninginingi lapho abantu bebuza ukuthi abazali benzani ukuthi "ushiye kude noMoya oNgcwele."

Abafowethu bathi bajabule kakhulu ngokuthi abazali babo bebelokhu bexhasa amagama abo. UPeyton uthe yena noContor ngezikhathi ezithile bahlangana nabesilisa emhlanganweni ogcina ngokuhamba ngoba abazali babo bebengasisekeli isinqumo sabo sokungena.

"Yebo, bazali bazi kangcono, kepha uma kukhulunywa ngezingane zakho, uNkulunkulu nguye owaziyo, ngoba nguNkulunkulu obizayo," kuphawula uConnor.

"Uma ufuna impendulo, kufanele ubuze umbuzo"

Akekho noColor noPeyton ongalindela ukuba abapristi. Futhi, bathi, ingabe abazali babo noma izingane zakubo balindele noma babikezela ukuthi bangabizwa kanjalo.

Ngamazwi abo, babeyizingane "nje ezijwayelekile" ababesenza ukholo lwabo, ababefunda esikoleni esiphakeme, futhi ababenezinhloso eziningi ezahlukahlukene.

U-Peyton uthe iqiniso lokuthi bobabili bazizwa bezisola buphristi akusona sonke isimanga lesi.

"Ngicabanga ukuthi wonke umuntu owenza inkolo yakhe useke wacabanga ngayo okungenani kanye, ngoba bahlangane nompristi futhi kungenzeka ukuthi umpristi wathi, 'Sawubona, kufanele ucabange ngakho,'” kusho yena.

Abaningi babangani bakaPyton abazinikele bamaKatolika bashadile manje, futhi wababuza ukuthi ngabe bake baxoxa ngobupristi ngaphambi kokuqonda umshado. Cishe konke, wathi, wathi yebo; bacabanga ngakho isonto noma amabili, kodwa abakaze banamathele.

Okwakuhlukile kuye nakuConnor ukuthi umbono wobupristi awusuki.

“Wanamathela kimi futhi wasehlala nami iminyaka emithathu. Futhi-ke ekugcineni uNkulunkulu wathi, “Isikhathi, ndoda. Isikhathi sokukwenza, ”kusho yena.

"Ngingathanda ukuthi ngigqugquzele laba bafana, uma sekuyisikhathi impela futhi ekuhlasela nje, okuwukuphela kwendlela ongathola ngayo ukuthi empeleni izokuya esikoleni."

Ukuhlangana nokwazi abapristi, nokubona ukuthi bahlala kanjani nokuthi kungani, bekuwusizo kuPeyton noConnor.

"Impilo zabaphristi yizinto eziwusizo kakhulu ukwenza ukuthi amanye amadoda acabangele ubupristi," kusho uPeyton.

UContor wavuma. Okwakhe, ukuthatha isiphongo nokuya kwisemina lapho ayeqonda khona kwakuyindlela engcono yokuthatha isinqumo sokuthi uNkulunkulu ubembiza ngempela yini njengompristi.

“Uma ufuna impendulo, kufanele ubuze umbuzo. Futhi okuwukuphela kwendlela yokubuza nokuphendula lowo mbuzo wobupristi ukuya esifundazweni, ”kusho yena.

“Iya emhlanganweni. Ngeke ube kubi kakhulu ngalokhu. Ngiqonde ukuthi, uqala ukuphila impilo ebekelwe ukuthandaza, ukuqeqeshwa, ukungena kuwe, ukufunda ukuthi ungubani, ukufunda amandla akho nobuthakathaka bakho, ukufunda okuningi ngokukholwa. Zonke lezi izinto ezinhle. "

Seminar akusona ukuzibophezela kwaphakade. Uma insizwa iya esikoleni sobufundisi futhi ibona ukuthi ubupristi abuyona eyakhe, ngeke kube kubi kakhulu, kusho uConnor.

"Uqeqeshiwe kumuntu ongcono

Njengabantu abaningi beminyaka yabo, izindlela zikaPeyton noConnor eziya ekubizeni kwabo kokugcina bezihlukumeza.

"Ubuhlungu obukhulu beenkulungwane zeminyaka buhleli lapho futhi ngizama ukucabanga ngalokho ofuna ukukwenza ngempilo yakho isikhathi eside kangangokuba impilo yakho iyadlula," kusho uPeyton.

“Futhi-ke, enye yezinto engithanda ukukhuthaza abantu abasha ukuthi bazenze uma ubona, yenza okuthile ngakho.