Ungabasiza kanjani abanye ebunzimeni bokholo
Kwesinye isikhathi indlela enhle yokweluleka abangabaza ukukhuluma endaweni yokuhlangenwe nakho.
Ngenkathi uLisa Marie, manje eseneminyaka engamashumi amane, esemusha, waqala ukungabaza ngoNkulunkulu. Wakhulela emndenini othembekile wamaKatolika esontweni futhi waya esikoleni esiphakeme samaKatolika, uLisa Marie wakuthola kungabaza lokhu kungabaza. Uyachaza, "Bengingazi ukuthi konke engangikufunda ngoNkulunkulu kungokoqobo. “Ngakho-ke ngacela uNkulunkulu ukuba anginike ukholo olunjengolozo lwesinaphi. Empeleni ngangithandazela ukuthi uNkulunkulu anginike ukholo engingenalo. "
Umphumela, kusho uLisa Marie, kwaba okuhlangenwe nakho okuguqukayo okukhulu. Waqala ukuzwa ubukhona bukaNkulunkulu njengoba ayengakaze enze ngaphambili. Impilo yakhe yomkhuleko yaba nencazelo entsha futhi wagxila. Manje oseshadile nonina kaJosh, 13, no-Eliana, oneminyaka engu-7, uLisa Marie uncika kulokho kwakhe siqu futhi uzizwa engabaza lapho ekhuluma nabanye ngezindaba zokholo. “Ngizizwa nginomdlandla wokuthi konke okufanele ukwenze uma ufuna ukholo ukuyicelela - uvulekele. UNkulunkulu uzokwenza konke okunye, ”kusho yena.
Abaningi bethu bangazizwa bengafaneleki ukweluleka othile ngokholo lwabo. Kuyisihloko okulula ukusigwema: labo abangabazayo bangahle bangafuni ukuvuma imibuzo yabo. Abantu abanokholo oluqinile bangasaba ukuzikhukhumeza ngokomoya lapho bekhuluma nomuntu osenkingeni.
UMaureen, umama wezingane ezinhlanu, uthole ukuthi indlela engcono kakhulu yokweluleka abangabaza ukukhuluma lapho ekhuluma. Ngenkathi ibhizinisi lomngane wakhe omkhulu likaMaureen elalinenzuzo ngaphambilini lalibhekene nokuqothuka, umngani wakhe wazizwa ekhungathekile yilesi sinqubo sokugcwalisa kanye nentela ayeyenza ngomshado wakhe.
“Umngane wami wangifonela ekhala izinyembezi wathi unomuzwa wokuthi uNkulunkulu umlahlile, akakwazi ukuzwa ubukhona bakhe nhlobo. Yize noma ukungabikhona kwemali yomngani wami bekuyiphutha, wayenamahloni, ”kusho uMaureen. UMaureen uthathe umoya ojulile waqala ukukhuluma nomngane wakhe. "Ngazama ukumqinisekisa ukuthi kujwayelekile ukuba" nezimpawu ezomile "ezimpilweni zethu zokholo lapho silahlekelwa khona ukubona uNkulunkulu futhi sincike kumadivayisi ethu kunokumethemba ezintweni zonke," kusho yena. "Ngiyakholelwa ekutheni uNkulunkulu uyasivumela lezi zikhathi ngoba, ngenkathi sisebenza ngazo, sithandaza ngazo, ukholo lwethu luqiniswa ngakolunye uhlangothi".
Kwesinye isikhathi ukweluleka abangane ngokungabaza kungaba lula kunokukhuluma nezingane zethu ngemibuzo yazo yokholo. Izingane zingasaba ukudumaza abazali futhi zifihla ukungabaza kwabo, noma ngabe ziya esontweni nomndeni noma zibambe iqhaza ezifundweni zemfundo yezenkolo.
Ingozi lapha ukuthi izingane zingajwayela ukuxhuma inkolo nolwazi lokukhohlisa izinkolelo. Esikhundleni sokuzibeka engcupheni yokuntywila bese ubuza abazali ngokholo, lezi zingane zikhetha ukuhamba ngaphansi kwenkolo ehlelekile futhi zivame ukusuka esontweni lapho sezisencane.
“Lapho indodana yami endala ineminyaka engu-14, bengingalindele ukuba izwakalise ukungabaza. Bengicabanga ukuthi unokungabaza, kungani kuthi ubani kithi ongakwenzanga? ”Kusho uFrancis, ongubaba wezingane ezine. “Ngasungula indlela emcabhile ngayo lapho ngambuza khona ukuthi ukholelwani, lokho angakholelwa kukho nokuthi yini afuna ukuyikholelwa kodwa abengaqiniseki ngayo. Ngalalela ngempela futhi ngazama ukumenza aphephe ukuveza ukungabaza kwakhe. Ngabelana ngesipiliyoni sami sazo zombili izikhathi zokungabaza nokholo oluqinile ngempela. "
UFrancis uthe indodana yakhe iyakwazisa ukuzwa ukulwa kukaFrancis ngokholo. UFrancis uthe akazange azame ukutshela indodana yakhe ukuthi kungani kufanele akholelwe okuthile, kodwa esikhundleni salokho wambonga ngokuvula imibuzo yakhe.
Uthe futhi ugxile ekukholweni uqobo kunokuba enze indodana yakhe noma angayithandi ngesipiliyoni sokuya ku-mass. ukholo lwakhula, lwaluvulekele ngakumbi ukulalela, ngoba futhi ngangikhulumile naye ngezikhathi lapho ngangizizwa ngididekile ngempela futhi ngikude nekholo.