Ungabasiza kanjani abantwana bathande abangane babo
I-imeyili evela kumngani wami uMachelle yafika ngesonto eledlule ngisemsebenzini. Ngokubona ukuthi ibimane ibizwa nge- "Recess", ngithokozisile njengoba ngichofoza ukuyivula. UMachelle unezingane ezine futhi akayena ongithumelela amanothi kuma-antics amahle; uma isihloko sithi "ukuhoxiswa", kwakuyinto engahambanga kahle kulokhu kuhoxiswa, bobabili nezingane zakhe nezami.
Ngokushesha ngifunda i-imeyili. Benginembile. Indodana yakhe ebangeni lesihlanu yayisondele kuye, ikhala, ngesikhathi sekhefu lasemini, lapho isuka enkulisa ntambama. Abanye abafana ekilasini lakhe abamvumelanga ukuthi adlale i-basketball.
Ngenkathi ngishintshana ngama-imeyili, ngabona amagama ezingane ezikhethekile njengalezo engake ngazizwa kaningi ngaphambili, zombili ezinganeni zami nakwabanye abazali. Ngibabheke njengabafana "be-alpha-male"; abanye abazali babebabiza ngokuthi abaphathi. Isikole savumelana nelebuli yesibili, kwathi ngemuva kokuthi uMachelle esekhulume nothisha wendodana yakhe, ngamunye walaba bafana uthole igxathu lokuqala lokuxwayisa ohlelweni lokuvikela ukuxhashazwa kwesikole.
Isikole kungenye yezindawo ezinzima kunazo zonke ukuthi izingane zethu ziphile umyalo kaJesu wokuthanda abanye. Inethiwekhi eyinkimbinkimbi yokuxhumana kwezenhlalo isho ukuthi izingane zivame ukuhlekisa ngesikhundla ezikilasini lazo. Ukusiza izingane ukuba zisondele ekuxhumaneni nontanga ngokombono wobuKristu kungaba nzima lapho ontanga yabo bengaba ne-ajenda ehluke ngokuphelele engahlangene "nomakhelwane abanothando" nanoma yini ehlobene nokusungula amandla.
Ababelethi ababambe okulindelwe yizingane zabo ngokuya ngendlela yokuphatha abanye, kepha bathola ukuthi izingane zabo ziba nokuzethemba ngokwengeziwe ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. Ngenhlonipho kuza inhlonipho yabantu ofunda nabo, futhi uma kunezingane ezanele "ezenza kahle", lezo zingane - hhayi iziqhwaga - ekugcineni zibeka ithoni ekilasini.
Nikeza ingane yakho imishwana ebalulekile
UMichele Borba, umbhali wabazali wenza umehluko: indlela yokukhulisa izingane ezinobuntu obuqinile, izingqondo eziqinile nezinhliziyo ezikhathalelayo (uJossey-Bass), uthe abazali nothisha bangasiza izingane ukuthi zithole amagama nemishwana ukwenza abantu bazizwe bejabule. Izibonelo zakhe zifaka: Ngayithanda. Ngijabule ukuthi ubuyile. Konke okuhle? Ngingasiza kanjani? Ubukeka ethukile.
Basize baxolelwe futhi bathethelelwe
Isonto lethu lisinikeza izinsiza kusebenza ezinamandla zokusiza abadala kanye nezingane ukunqoba ubudlelwano obunzima kakhulu. Batali labayemukelako baniketa bantfwana babo sipho sekutsatsa nabo. Isonto ngalinye, lapho siphinda uBaba Wethu ngaphambi kwe-Eucharist, sithi: "Sithethelele ngokweqa kwethu ngenkathi nathi sibathethelela labo abona ngathi".
Uma uyazi ukuthi ingane yakho ibe nesonto elinzima esikoleni ngezinkinga zobungani, khuluma ngokuxolelwa ngaphambi kweMisa bese uyicela ukuthi inake ngokukhethekile kwesinye isikhathi ukucela intethelelo. Uma ubamba izandla ngesikhathi sikaBaba Wethu, nika ingane yakho ingcindezi emfushane ngesikhathi sokuxolelwa. Cabanga ukuya kusakramente lokubuyisana ngezikhathi ezinzima. Ngesinye isikhathi, ngemuva kokuba umndeni wethu uhambe uyokubuyisana, indodana yethu uLiam, owayeneminyaka engu-8, wasabela ngokugijimisa indawo yokupaka esontweni ngemuva kwalokho. "Ngizwa kukhanya kakhulu!" Wasitshela ngendlela achaza ngayo.
Basize bangafakiwe
UJesu wayala abalandeli bakhe ukuthi ekunikezeni isidlo akumele bameme abangane, omakhelwane abacebile noma izihlobo, kodwa esikhundleni salokho bameme labo abangakwazi ukubakhokhela (Luka 14: 12–24). Singazifundisa izingane zethu ukulandela isibonelo sikaJesu ngokuzikhuthaza ukuba zihlele izinsuku zokukhokha nezingane ezingakhishwa ngenye indlela: ingane ethule engaziwa muntu; ingane engahlali eduze nabo bonke abanye abantu; ingane ebhalwe ukuthi "ayipholile". Ngenkathi izingane kufanele zibe nenketho yokukhetha ukuthi ubani ozomema ekhaya, abazali banganikeza ukuholwa ukusiza izingane zinqobe izinqumo ezisobala: lezo zingane ezithandwayo wonke umuntu acabanga ngazo kuqala.