Umshado ngokwebhayibheli
Umshado yinkinga ebalulekile empilweni yobuKristu. Izincwadi eziningi, omagazini nezinsizakalo zokweluleka ngomshado zinikezelwe esihlokweni sokulungiselela umshado nokwenza ngcono umshado. Ebhayibhelini kunezikhombo ezingaphezu kwama-500 kumagama athi "umshado", "oshadile", "umyeni" kanye "nenkosikazi" kumaTestamente aDala nawasha.
Umshado wamaKristu nesehlukaniso namuhla
Ngokusho kokuhlaziywa kwezibalo ezenziwa emaqenjini ahlukahlukene abantu, umshado oqala namuhla cishe ungamaphesenti angama-41-43 okungenzeka uphele ngesehlukaniso. Ucwaningo oluqoqwe nguGlenn T. Stanton, umqondisi weGlobal Insight wokuvuselela amasiko nemindeni kanye nomhlaziyi ophakeme womshado nobudlelwano bezocansi kwaFocus on the Family, uveza ukuthi amaKristu angama-evangeli ahamba njalo ngesehlukaniso sesonto ngamanani aphansi Ama-35% aqhathaniswa nemibhangqwana yasemhlabeni. Izimo ezifanayo zitholakala kumkhuba wamaKatolika namaProthestani asebenza ezintanjeni zangaphambili. Ngokuphambene, amaKristu okuzisholo, angavamile noma angalokothi aye esontweni, abe nesilinganiso esiphakeme sesehlukaniso kunaleso esithandanayo.
UStanton, ophinde abe ngumlobi we-Nei Marriage Matters: Izizathu Zokukholelwa Emshadweni ePostmodern Society, ubika ukuthi: "Ukuzibophezela enkolweni, kunokuba nobuhlobo nenkolo elula, kunomthelela emazingeni amakhulu empumelelo yomshado."
Uma ukuzibophezela kwangempela kokholo lwakho lobuKristu kungaholela emshadweni oqinile, khona-ke mhlawumbe iBhayibheli linokuthile okubalulekile okushiwo ngaleyo ndaba.
Lo mshado wenzelwa ubungani futhi ukusondelana
INkosi uNkulunkulu yathi: 'Akukuhle ukuba umuntu abe yedwa. Ngizokwenza usizo olufanele kuye '... futhi ngenkathi elele, wathatha enye yezimbambo zendoda futhi wavala indawo nenyama.
INKOSI uNkulunkulu wayesenza umfazi kubambo abeluthathile kumuntu, wamletha kumuntu. Indoda yathi: “Leli manje selithambo lamathambo ami nenyama yenyama yami; uzobizwa "ngowesifazane", phela yena uthathwe yindoda ". Ngalesi sizathu indoda iyoshiya uyise nonina ijoyine umkayo, babe nyamanye. UGenesise 2:18, 21-24, NIV)
Lapha sibona inyunyana yokuqala phakathi kwendoda nowesifazane: umshado owasungulwa. Kule ndaba ekuGenesise singaphetha ngokuthi umshado umbono kaNkulunkulu, owakhelwe futhi owasungulwa nguMdali. Sithola nokuthi inkampani nokusondelana kuyisisekelo secebo likaNkulunkulu ngomshado.
Izindima zabesilisa nabesifazane emshadweni
Ngoba indoda inhloko yomkayo njengoba noKristu eyinhloko yomzimba wakhe, ibandla; wanikela ngokuphila kwakhe ukuze abe nguMsindisi wakhe. Njengoba nje ibandla lizithoba kuKristu, kanjalo nabafazi kumele bazithobe kubayeni bakho kukho konke.
Futhi nina madoda kufanele nithande omkenu ngalo thando olufanayo nolwaboniswa uKristu ebandleni. Walahla impilo yakhe ukuyenza ibe ngcwele futhi ihlanzekile, yagezwa ngobhaphathizo kanye nezwi likaNkulunkulu.Wakwenza lokho ukuze azethule njengebandla elikhazimulayo ngaphandle kwamabala, imibimbi noma okunye ukungapheleli. Esikhundleni salokho, iyoba ngcwele futhi ingasoleki. Ngokunjalo, amadoda kufanele athande omkawo njengoba nje ayithanda nemizimba yawo. Ngoba indoda izithanda ngokweqiniso lapho ithanda umkayo. Akekho owazonda owabo umzimba kodwa awukhathalele ngothando, njengoba noKristu enakekela umzimba wakhe, okuyisonto. Futhi singumzimba wakhe.
Njengoba imibhalo isho, "Indoda ishiya uyise nonina, ihlangane nomkayo, bobabili babe munye." Lokhu kuyimfihlakalo enhle, kepha kungumfanekiso wendlela uKristu nebandla linye. Kwabase-Efesu 5: 23-32, NLT)
Lesi sithombe somshado kwabase-Efesu sikhula sibe yinto ebanzi kakhulu kunobungane nokusondelana. Ubuhlobo bomshado bukhombisa ubudlelwano phakathi kukaJesu Kristu nebandla. Amadoda ayamenywa ukuba ashiye impilo othandweni lomhlatshelo nasekuvikelekeni kwabafazi. Ekubambeni okuphephile futhi okuthandekayo komyeni onothando, yimuphi umfazi ongeke athobele ngokuzithandela ukuqondisa kwakhe?
Amadoda nabafazi bahlukile kepha bayalingana
Ngokunjalo, nina makhosikazi, kumele yamukele igunya labayeni benu, ngitsho nalabo abenqaba ukwamukela izindaba ezinhle. Impilo yakho yaphezulu izokhuluma nabo kangcono kunanoma iliphi igama. Bazonqotshwa ngokubheka isimilo sakho esimsulwa nesaphezulu.
Ungakhathazeki ngobuhle bangaphandle ... Kufanele waziwe ngobuhle obuvela ngaphakathi, ubuhle obungenakuqhathaniswa bomoya omnene nokuthula, obuyigugu kakhulu kuNkulunkulu ... Ngokunjalo, nina madoda kufanele nihloniphise omkenu. Yiphathe ngokuqonda ngenkathi uhlala ndawonye. Angaba buthakathaka kunawe, kepha ungumlingani wakho olingana esipho sikaNkulunkulu sempilo entsha. Uma ungamphathi ngendlela okufanele uyenze, imithandazo yakho ngeke ilalelwe. (1 Petru 3: 1-5, 7, NLT)
Abanye abafundi bazophuma lapha. Ukutshela abayeni ukuthi bathathe indima egunyaziwe emshadweni kanye namakhosikazi okufanele bawethule akusona isiqondiso esidumile namuhla. Noma kunjalo, leli lungiselelo emshadweni libonisa ubuhlobo phakathi kukaJesu Kristu nomakoti wakhe, ibandla.
Leli vesi ku-1 Petru lengeza isikhuthazo sokuba abafazi bazithobe kubayeni babo, ngisho nalabo abangamazi uKristu. Yize lokhu kuyinselelo enzima, leli vesi lithembisa ukuthi isimilo saphezulu sowesifazane nobuhle bangaphakathi buzoyinqoba indoda ngempumelelo kunamazwi akhe. Amadoda kufanele ahloniphe omkawo, abe nomusa, abe nomusa nokuqonda.
Kepha uma singanaki, sizokhumbula ukuthi ibhayibheli lithi abesilisa nabesifazane bangabalingani abalinganayo esiphiweni sikaNkulunkulu sempilo entsha. Noma umyeni esebenzisa indima yegunya nomyalo futhi unkosikazi enza umsebenzi wokuzithoba, bobabili bayizindlalifa ezilinganayo embusweni kaNkulunkulu. Izindima zabo zehlukile kepha zibalulekile.
Inhloso yomshado ukukhulisa ndawonye ebungcweleni
1 KwabaseKhorinte 7: 1-2
... Kuhle ukuba indoda ingashadi. Kepha njengoba kunokuziphatha okubi okungaka, yilowo nalowo muntu ufanele abe ngumkakhe, nalowo wesifazane abe neyakhe indoda. (NIV)
Leli vesi lisikisela ukuthi kungcono ukungashadi. Labo abasemishadweni enzima bazovuma maduze. Kuwo wonke umlando, bekukholelwa ukuthi ukuzibophezela ngokujulile engokomoya kungatholakala ngokuphila okuzinikele kungashadi.
Leli vesi libhekisela ekuziphatheni okubi kobulili. Ngamanye amagama, kungcono ukushada kunokuziphatha kabi ngokobulili. Kepha uma sicacisa kabanzi ukufaka zonke izinhlobo zokungaziphathi kahle, singabandakanya kalula ubuqili, ukuhaha, ukufuna ukulawula, inzondo nazo zonke izingqinamba ezivela lapho singena ebudlelwaneni obusondelene.
Kungenzeka yini ukuthi enye yezinhloso ezijulile zomshado (ngaphezu kokuzala, ukusondelana nobungane) ukusiphoqa ukuthi sibhekane nezinkinga zethu zomlingiswa? Cabanga ngokuziphatha nezimo zengqondo esasingasoze sazibona noma esingasoze sazibona ngaphandle kobuhlobo obuseduze. Uma sivumela izinselele zomshado ukuba zisiphoqelele ukuba silwe nazo, sisebenzisa isiyalo esingokomoya ngenani elikhulu.
Encwadini yakhe, ethi Sacred emshadweni, uGary Thomas ubuza lo mbuzo: "Uma uNkulunkulu ehlele umshado ukusenza osanta ngaphezu kokusenza sijabule?" Kungenzeka yini ukuthi kunokuthile okujule kakhulu enhliziyweni kaNkulunkulu kunokumane nje kusenze sijabule?
Ngaphandle kokungabaza, umshado ophile kahle ungaba ngumthombo wenjabulo enkulu nokwaneliseka, kepha uTomase uphakamisa okuthile okungcono kakhulu, into yaphakade - ukuthi umshado uyithuluzi likaNkulunkulu lokusenza sifane kakhulu noJesu Kristu.
Ohlelweni lukaNkulunkulu, sibizelwe ukusungula izifiso zethu zokuthanda nokusebenzela abashade nathi. Ngomshado sifunda uthando, inhlonipho, udumo nendlela yokuthethelela nokuxolelwa. Siyawabona amaphutha ethu futhi siyakhula kulowo mbono. Sithuthukisa inhliziyo yenceku futhi sisondela kuNkulunkulu. Ngenxa yalokho, sithola injabulo yangempela yomphefumulo.