Impumelelo kwezemfundo noma ukwehluleka kwabazali (nguBaba uGiulio Scozzaro)

Ngikhumbula uSt John Bosco, uthisha omkhulu wabantu abasha, impela kulezi zikhathi zokuwohloka ngokomoya nokuphelelwa yithemba kwabantu abasha. Sizwa imibiko eminingi yabantu abasha abashonile belengiswe yizidakamizwa noma ngenxa yezingxabano ezithukuthele phakathi kwabo. Amaphesenti abantu abasha namuhla abangathandazi noma abamazi uJesu aphezulu, angaphezu kwama-95%. Bacabangani abazali?
USan Giovanni Bosco wayexakile ngezingane, abantu abasha, izinkulungwane zezingane ezilahlwe emgwaqweni edolobheni laseTurin zimoshile, futhi ngokuzinikela okukhulu wazinikela ekusindisweni kwabo. Wabalanda emgwaqweni, iningi labo laliyizintandane, abanye belahlwa ngabazali ngenxa yobumpofu nokunganaki.
I-oratory njengoba uSan Giovanni Bosco akhulelwa iyindawo evikela abantu abasha abaningi ekungenzi lutho okuyingozi, ebuvileni obukhona futhi lokhu kungagculiseki kuholela ekubeni nesifiso esikhulayo sokusebenzisa izidakamizwa, utshwala kanye nobulili obonakele.
Inkinga yangempela namuhla ukungabi khona kokwakheka kwenkolo, abanalo ulwazi olusemthethweni ngamagugu esintu futhi baphila njengokulahleka nokuphelelwa yithemba.
Amaphutha empeleni ngabazali. Izizukulwane ezimbili zokugcina zibonisa abazali abakhathalele kuphela ukujabulisa izingane zabo kukho konke, bazishiya zikhululekile ukuthi zibuyele ekhaya nganoma yiliphi ihora lobusuku, zivumele okungahambisani nokuziphatha futhi okungavumelekile nakubantu.
Bayazikhohlisa ngokuba nezingane ezihamba phambili ngokubabona bejabule kodwa lokhu kuvela ngokubanikeza konke abakucelayo.
Ngaphandle kwabambalwa, bonke abanye abazali abawazi amasu namanga ezingane zabo, ukuthi benzani lapho bephuma, bayaphi nokuthi benzani. Abawazi amaphutha ezingane zabo futhi bazincome njengokungathi babengenacala futhi baziphatha kahle ngisho noma bengekho ekhaya ...
Abazali abawazi amaphutha amabi kakhulu ezingane zabo futhi bavala amehlo abo kuyo yonke into, ababheki futhi bachaze amaphutha neqiniso kanzima, ngenxa yothando lwabo olungalungile futhi bashiye izingane zabo beqiniseka ukuthi bavunyelwe ukwenza konke.
Abazali kumele bahlale bezithanda izingane zabo, kepha kufanele bazi lonke ulwazi ngokulinganiselwa kanye nokushiyeka kwezingane zabo ukuzisiza futhi, uma kunesidingo, ukubasola kaningi. Lolu uthando lweqiniso, kumele njalo bakhombise okulungile ukukwenza, okusiza umphefumulo, unembeza.
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Ukuthinta izingane eminyakeni yobudala bokukhula kufanele kube nothando, njalo futhi nokwakheke, kubenze bakhulume kakhulu ukuziqondisa. Abazali abaningi bazithola bezingane eziphakeme uma behamba nabangane, noma imilutha yezidakamizwa, noma beyimilutha yenhlamba engachazeki bese bebuyela emakhaya abo benobuso obenziwe njengezingelosi ezincane ... Babephi abazali?
Ngaphandle kwabambalwa, bonke abanye abazali abanandaba nemfundo yenkolo yezingane zabo, mhlawumbe bayeneliseka lapho beya eMiseni kodwa lokhu kuyisinyathelo sokuqala kuphela. Izingane kufanele zakhiwe ngokukhuluma okuningi nazo vele lapho ziseyizingane ukwazi imikhuba nobuthakathaka, ngisho nokuthambekela okuthulile ukuze kungabonakali ubuthakathaka bazo.
Izingane kufanele zilalele, zilalele futhi zilandele izeluleko zabazali ngokwesipiliyoni sabo sempilo nangeminyaka futhi lokhu kufanele kuveze ukulinganisela, kepha akwenzeki njalo ngenxa yokudideka kwengqondo nobuthakathaka bomhlaba babazali.
Umzali uzithanda ngokweqiniso izingane zakhe lapho ekhathalela imiphefumulo yazo, kuphela zizophila phakade, kanti umzimba uzobola. Kepha hhayi abazali kuphela abakhathazeka ngemiphefumulo, kubalulekile futhi nasempilweni yezingane zabo, ngokudla okunempilo kanye nalokho okudingekayo empilweni ehloniphekile.
Uthando olungokomoya nolukhulile lwabazali ezinganeni zabo lukhona lapho bedlulisa imfundo yenkolo ngokuhambisana neVangeli.
Isimanga esivelele sikaSt. John Bosco uyisibonelo sabo bonke abazali, yena "onendlela yokuvimbela" ukwazile ukuthambisa izinyanya ezinjengezilwane, ezinikele ekuziphatheni okubi, ukweba kanye nazo zonke izinhlobo zokwephula umthetho.
Kungenzeka ukuthi ubuyise abantu abasele dengwane, kudinga uthando olukhulu, ukusondelana, isiqondiso esiqinisekile futhi esingaguquguquki, ukuthandazela njalo kubo.
Ezifundisweni zokuziphatha nezomphakathi zezingane nabantu abasha, kubalulekile ukubaxwayisa ngemiphumela yezenzo zabo zokuziphatha okukhohlakele futhi kaningi ezinodlame, kubanikeza ukuthi ukuqapha abavame ukukuhlakulela ngoba banobudedengu futhi khumbula izixwayiso zabazali babo.
Ngaphandle kwalezi zikhumbuzi kanye nokuncishwa okulandelayo izinsuku ezimbalwa zalokho izingane zabo ezikuthandayo, abazali abazisizi izingane nezingane ezisencane.
Kuyisenzo sangempela sothando kubo ukubabuyisela emuva ngokuqina nangothando olukhulu, ngaphandle kwalokho bathatha izintambo futhi konke kufanele.
Izingane (izingane noma abantu abasha) akufanele zinikezwe yonke into abathi ayinazintshisekelo, uma zibuthakathaka kulokhu futhi zizenza zibe semthethweni, sezivele ziphumelele.
Kuyindlela enhle yokwenza ukuthi "bayizuze" ngokuhlonipha amalungu omndeni, isimilo esingenakusoleka ngaphakathi nangaphandle, ngokufeza imisebenzi, yalokho okungokwabo, njengokuthandaza, ukuzibophezela ekutadisheni, ukuhlonipha wonke umuntu, ukuhlela yegumbi nokusiza ukunikela ngokuzungeza indlu.
Imfundo yezomphakathi inika isisekelo semfundo ezizukulwaneni ezizayo, abantu abazohlala ezikhundleni, nonembeza kufanele wakheke ngabazali.
Kuze kube yilapho ikhuleliswa ngokubi, abantu abasha bahlanzekile, kuyinto okufanele ibunjwe futhi yakhiwa yizibonelo abazitholayo. Akukhona nje ukuba khona okuthandekayo nokungaguquguquki kwabazali, ukwethembeka kwengqondo kothisha, okunquma impumelelo yezemfundo yilokho okuqukethwe.
Imigwaqo, ezemvelo, ezempilo, amathuba alinganayo kanye "nokufundiswa" okungokomthetho akuhlali kubika imiphumela yokufunda nokuguqulwa kokuziphatha komphakathi, akwenzeki ngoba isiko lokweqa umthetho kanye nodlame, abalithola kuwebhu nakwithelevishini, ngabahlabeleli ngaphandle izindinganiso zokuziphatha futhi kaningi abalimi.
Namuhla cishe yonke intsha ikhula ngaphandle kweziqondiso eziphephile nezinembile ezivela kubazali bayo.
Isimo sengqondo esifakwa yimithombo yezindaba yanamuhla sinikeza abantu abasha i-swagger emashumini ambalwa edlule eyabe ingenakucatshangwa, futhi lokhu kukhombisa nobuthakathaka babazali obuthathwa njengobuhle, ububele, ukuphana. Esikhundleni salokho kungukuhambisana nenkambiso engafundisi, ukungakwazi ukuxoxisana nezingane, ubuthakathaka lapho izingane ziphakamisa amazwi noma zimemeza!
KUKUHLULEKA NGOKUGCWELE KWENDIMA YABAZALI NEZEMFUNDO.
E-Italy kunesimo esiphuthumayo esikhulayo kwezemfundo kanye nokushoda kwemfundiso yokuziphatha ehlelekile futhi ebucayi yemithetho yempilo yombango, kufaka phakathi isimilo esihle nemikhuba emihle.
Ngivikela abantu abasha futhi ngithumela kubazali umthwalo wendima engenakuqedwa yokwakheka kwezenkolo nokuziphatha. Kumele kushiwo ukuthi ngisho nabantu abasha abafunde kahle namuhla badukiswa kalula ngenye intsha engathembekile, imilutha yokuziphatha okubi nokuntula imfundo.
Ukuba ngumzali kunzima, ngakho-ke ngaphandle komkhuleko, ngaphandle kosizo lukaJesu awukwazi ukubhekana nabantu abasha futhi kuyisehluleki sangempela.
EVangelini, uJesu ukhulisa intombazane, ngakho-ke bonke abazali kumele bacele eNkosini ukuthi ikhulise izingane zabo empilweni engenanjongo, ekuziphatheni okunodlame nasekufeni, kuzo zonke izindlela zokuziphatha eziphikisana nokuziphatha kobuKristu.
Abazali kufanele bazisize kakhulu izingane zabo kusukela zisencane, akuyona injabulo yeqiniso uma bezanelisa kukho konke, kepha lapho bekhula njengoba uJesu efuna.
Lapho insizwa ibonakala ilahlekile futhi imthandazela kakhulu, ukuguqulwa kwayo, ukuvuswa kwayo ngokomoya kuyabuzwa ngokuqinile, uJesu uhlala elalele futhi angenelele ngokushesha nje lapho ethola ukuvuleka enhliziyweni yale nsizwa. UJesu ubathanda bonke abantu abasha futhi ufuna ukusindisa wonke umuntu ekulahlweni kwaphakade, nina bazali ninomsebenzi wokufundisa izingane zenu ukuthandaza.
Abagxeki futhi ngaphandle kokholo kuNkulunkulu bangashintsha futhi babe ngamaKristu alungile, aqaphe isimilo, ngemithandazo yabazali bawo!