Ukukhaphela: iyini imiphumela yokuziphatha nokungeyona eyokuziphatha
Singathini nge ukukhaphela? Umshado namuhla awuseyona umthetho obekiwe njengakwiminyaka edlule. Ukuba nezingane akuseyona isibopho futhi mhlawumbe akuseyona isibopho sokuba unkosikazi. Kepha kufanele sivume ukuthi namuhla sishada ngothando futhi cishe kancane ngezintshisekelo. Kwesinye isikhathi kuyenzeka ukuthi into ebalulekile ebudlelwaneni bomshado ibukelwe phansi: umthwalo! Futhi kukhona ezinye imiphumela!
I-Dal umbono wezomthetho ukuvukela umbuso kungathathwa ngokuthi akuyona inqubo yomphakathi noma isenzo sobugebengu. Ngalokhu asikwazi ukuthi sibalekele lokho ngoba kusenemiphumela engeke yathathwa njengengathi inethonya layo.
Ngakho-ke, ukukhaphela kukodwa ubuhlobo nomuntu oshadile ngaphandle koshade naye. Kubukeka sengathi nabo bayingxenye yokukhaphela ubudlelwano beplato noma i- ubuhlobo online. Senza umehluko phakathi kokuvukela umbuso nokuphinga ngokomthetho wezwe. Ukukhaphela kubonisa lokho okuthiwa "ukuphunyuka" futhi iukuphinga kwenziwa esimweni sobudlelwano bangempela kuzona zozimbili lezi zigwebo zijeziswa ngenhlawulo yezezimali.
Kepha kusukela umbono wokuziphatha akunandaba ukuthi ngubani abakhokhisa izindleko, akubalulekile ukudivosa kanye nenani elincane lomshado omusha. Ukuvukela umbuso kujeziswa ngu ILevitikusi Bible 18.20 "Ngeke ube nobudlelwano benyama nonkosikazi kamakhelwane wakho ukuze uzingcolise ngaye". Ukuphinga kuyalahlwa ngumthetho waphezulu, ezikhathini zasendulo kwakusetshenziswa ngisho nesigwebo sentambo, ngisho nakulabo ababedle ubudlelwano ngaphambi komshado.
Ukukhaphela, liziphatha kanjani isonto?
Ku Isonto lamaKatolika umshado kusale munye kuphela okwempilo yakho yonke, ngaphandle kokuthi kudlule oyedwa kulaba abashadayo. Akulindelekile ukushiya izinkonzo kodwa akunakwenzeka ukuthi ubambe iqhaza etafuleni leNkosi noma ubambe izindima zabankulunkulukazi. A okuhlukile okuncane kwenziwa futhi iSonto noma kungenzeka kuqedwe lo mshado ngenkantolo yezenkolo uma kukhonjiswa ukuthi ububi babukhona ngaphambi komshado.