Funda ukukhuluma izilimi ezi-5 zothando
Incwadi ethengiswa kakhulu kunazo zonke kaGary Chapman Izilimi Ezinhlanu Zothando (Northfield Publishing) iyinkomba ejwayelekile emndenini wethu. Isisekelo sikaChapman ukuthi lapho sixhumanisa nalabo esibathandayo, lokho sikwenza sisebenzisa "izilimi" ezinhlanu - ukuthinta ngokomzimba, amagama okuvuma, izenzo zomsebenzi, isikhathi esezingeni eliphakeme nesipho - ukukhombisa ukunakekela kwethu nokuzibophezela kwethu. Ngokufanayo, siyakwazi ukuthola uthando lwabanye ngalezi zilimi ezinhlanu.
Umuntu ngamunye udinga zonke izilimi ezinhlanu, kepha phakathi kwalezi zilimi ezinhlanu umuntu ngamunye unolimi lokuqala. Labo abanolimi oluyisisekelo lothando lwamagama avumayo, isibonelo, bayashesha ukugcizelela okuhle abakubonayo kulabo asebudlelwaneni nabo: "Gqoka kahle!" Abantu abalulimi lwabo oluyinhloko lothando yizenzo zenkonzo bangatholwa benza ukudla, benze imisebenzi yasendlini, noma basize labo abasemndenini.
U-Liam, ingane yethu yesibili, unezenzo zomsebenzi njengolimi lwakhe olukhulu lothando. Ukusho kanjena ngenkathi engisiza ngilungiselela iphathi: “Kunokuthile ngokusetha lezi zihlalo namatafula okungijabulisa kakhulu. Ngicabanga ngawo wonke umuntu ozayo nokuthi bazoba kanjani nendawo yokuhlala. Ingabe wonke umuntu uzizwa elungele iphathi? “Ngibuke udadewabo, uTeenasia, ebuka i-TV, olimi lwakhe oluyinhloko lothando ukupha izipho, futhi ngaqinisekisa uLiam ukuthi akubona bonke abantu abathola injabulo emsebenzini wehora lokugcina ngaphambi kokuba izivakashi zifike.
Inselelo yempilo yomndeni ukuthi wonke umuntu "ukhuluma" ulimi oluhlukile oluyinhloko lothando. Ngingashawa izingane zami izincomo, kepha uma ngingaqapheli ukuthi uJamilet angakhetha ukwangana (ukuthintwa okungokwenyama) futhi uJacob udinga isikhathi nami, kungenzeka singaxhumi kalula. Amadoda nabafazi abalwazi ulimi lwabo lothando bakwazi kangcono ukubhekana nokwehla nokuhamba komshado. Ngiyazi ukuthi ulimi oluyinhloko lukaBill yisikhathi sekhwalithi, futhi uyaqonda ukuthi okwami kungamazwi okuvuma. Usuku esiludingayo sobabili isidlo sakusihlwa sodwa nezingxoxo ezisezingeni ezibandakanya uBill ongitshela ukuthi ngimuhle kanjani. Ngiyadlala. Uhlobo lwe.
Kepha uma izilimi ezinhlanu zothando zibalulekile empilweni yomndeni, zibaluleke kakhulu lapho sibona ukuthi sibizelwe kanjani ukusebenzela labo abalimele phakathi kwethu. Ucwaningo oluyingqophamlando olwenziwe yiCenters for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) kanye noKaiser Permanente lukhombisa ukuthi amava amabi ebuntwaneni (ACEs) ngokuvamile ayimpande yezinkinga zomphakathi wethu ezibaluleke kakhulu. Izingane ezihlangabezane nokuhlukumezeka ngohlobo lokuhlukunyezwa ngokomzimba noma ngokocansi, ezinganakiwe, eziye zabona udlame, ezihlangabezane nokungavikeleki kokudla, noma ezinabazali abasebenzisa kabi izidakamizwa noma utshwala zingaba ngabantu abadala nokuqashwa okuphansi, amazinga aphezulu okusebenzisa kabi izidakamizwa notshwala, amazinga aphezulu ezimo ezibucayi zempilo, kanye namazinga aphezulu okudangala nokuzibulala.
I-CDC iphawula ukuthi cishe amaphesenti angama-40 wabantu ahlangabezane nezigaba ezimbili noma ngaphezulu ze-ACE kuhlu lwemibuzo olunamaphuzu ayi-10, cishe amaphesenti ayi-10 wabantu abhekana nama-ACE amane noma ngaphezulu ahlukumeze kakhulu ebuntwaneni. Ngenkathi ucwaningo ngokwakha ukuqina ezinganeni lusakhula, ngibheka isigaba ngasinye i-CDC esisebenzisayo esifundweni sabo se-ACE bese ngibona ulimi lothando oluhambisanayo, njengoba kuchazwe nguChapman, olungaba yingxenye yenqubo yokululama. .
Okuphambene nokushiywa kanye nolimi oluhlabayo lokuhlukumeza ngokomzwelo amagama okuvuma. Okuphambene nokushiywa yisipho sezidingo zokudla, indawo yokuhlala nezingubo. Okuphambene nokuhlukunyezwa ngokomzimba nangokobulili ukuthanda ngothando, kuphephile, futhi kwamukelekile. Okuphambene nokungabi nawo umzali oboshiwe noma osebenzisa kabi izidakamizwa noma utshwala isikhathi esihle. Futhi izenzo zensizakalo zingaphikisana nanoma yisiphi isigaba se-ACE, kuya ngokuthi iyini insizakalo.
Ama-ACE nokuhlukumezeka kuyingxenye yesipiliyoni sabantu esivela kuKayini no-Abela. Akudingeki sibheke kude kulabo abahluphekayo. Bangamalungu emindeni yethu, omakhelwane kanye namalungu ebandla lethu. Bangabalingani bethu futhi labo abasemgqeni wohlelo lokudla. Okusha ukuthi isayensi manje isingaqinisekisa imiphumela yokuhlukumezeka ebesikade sikufunde ngaphambili. Manje sesingabala futhi sinikeze ulimi ezingozini ezivela othandweni oluncane kakhulu. Kudala sazi ukuthi izingane ezilimele zibhekana nezinselelo lapho sezikhulile, kepha manje iCDC isikhombisile ngqo ukuthi izobanjani izingozi.
Izilimi zothando nazo azizintsha, njengamanje zichazwe kangcono. Zonke izenzo zikaJesu - kusukela ekuthinteni kwakhe kokuphulukisa kuze kube isikhathi sakhe sekhwalithi nabafundi enkonzweni yakhe ekugezeni izinyawo zakhe - kwakuwulimi lothando. Umsebenzi wethu njengabalandeli ukuhlanganisa lokho okukhonjiswa yisayensi nemisebenzi esesibizelwe ukuyenza kudala.
Sibizelwe ukuphulukisa ngothando. Sidinga ukukhuluma kahle ngazo zonke izilimi ezinhlanu.