Vumela uSt. Francis abe ngumhlahlandlela wakho wokuthula

Masibe ithuluzi lokuthula ngenkathi singabazali.

Indodakazi yami eneminyaka eyi-15 isanda kuqala ukuzibuza ukuthi belunjani usuku lwami lomsebenzi. Ngosuku lokuqala ebuza, ngangingingiza impendulo, “Um. Muhle. Ngibe nemihlangano. “Njengoba ayelokhu ebuza njalo ngesonto, ngaqala ngamphendula ngokucabangisisa, ngamtshela ngeprojekthi ethokozisayo, inkinga noma uzakwethu ohlekisayo. Ngithe ngisakhuluma, ngazithola sengimbheka ukuthi ngabe naye uyayithanda yini indaba yami. Kwakunjalo, futhi ngazizwa ngikholwa kancane.

Esikhundleni sokuba mude noma uthole ngisho nezincwadi zokushayela, yikhono lengane lokubheka umzali njengomuntu ngemicabango yalo, amaphupho alo nezinkinga zalo okuyisibonakaliso sokukhula nokuvuthwa. Leli khono lokwazi umzali njengomuntu ongaphezu kwendima kamama noma ubaba alinakuphoqwa. Kuza kancane kancane, futhi abanye abantu ababazi ngokuphelele abazali babo kuze kube sebekhulile.

Ingxenye yesizathu sokuba umzali kungakhathaza kangaka kungenxa yalobu budlelwano obudlulile. Sinikela ngakho konke esiyikho ezinganeni zethu, futhi ngezinsuku zethu ezinhle bathola ngomusa isipho sothando lwethu. Ezinsukwini zethu ezinzima kakhulu, balwa nothando nokusekelwa esikunikezayo ngokwenqaba ukuholwa kwethu. Kodwa-ke, ukuba ngumzali onempilo kumayelana nokungena ngokugcwele kulobu budlelwane obungasasebenzi. Ukuze izingane zizizwe zisekelekile, zithandwa, futhi zikulungele ukuya emhlabeni njengabantu abadala abasebasha, abazali kudingeka banikele ngemali enkulu kakhulu kunaleyo abayithola ebuntwaneni, ebuntwaneni nasebusheni. Uhlobo lobuzali.

USt Francis wase-Assisi wayengeyena umzali, kepha umthandazo wakhe ukhuluma ngqo nabazali.

Nkosi ngenze ithuluzi lokuthula kwakho.
lapho kukhona inzondo, ake ngihlwanyele uthando;
uma ungalimala, ngiyaxolisa;
lapho kunokungabaza, ukukholwa;
lapho kunokuphelelwa yithemba, ithemba;
lapho kukhona ubumnyama, ukukhanya;
lapho kunosizi khona, injabulo.
O Master waphezulu, nika ukuthi mhlawumbe angifuni okungaka
ukududuzeka kakhulu ngokududuzayo,
ukuqondwa njengokuqonda,
ukuthandwa njengokuthanda.
Ngoba ekunikezeni esikutholayo,
sixolelwe,
futhi kungokufa ukuthi sizalelwe ukuphila okuphakade.

ULuciana, ondodakazi yakhe eyeve eshumini nambili esanda kutholakala ukuthi ine-anorexia, uhlobene nala mazwi: Ngivumele ukuthi ngingazami kanzima kangaka ukuze ngiqondakale. “Ngafunda amandla okuzama ukuqonda nokunikeza indodakazi yami ithemba ngesifo sayo sokudla. Useshilo kaningi ukuthi uma ngingakholelwa ukuthi uzokuthola, ulahla ithemba. Uvele angibuze ukuthi ngimtshele ukuthi angakwenza ngakolunye uhlangothi. Uma ngibukeka sengathi angikukholwa, naye akakholwa ”kusho uLuciana. “Yisikhathi esikhanyisa kunazo zonke sokuba umzali engake ngaba naso. Ngomshikashika wendodakazi yami, ngifundile ukuthi kufanele sizwakalise ukukholwa kwethu ezinganeni zethu lapho sezingene ezikhathini ezinzima kakhulu. "

Ngenkathi uSt. Francis engazange alisho igama elithi "ukuhlela" emthandazweni wakhe, uma abazali befisa ukukhombisa ukuqonda noma induduzo kaningi lokho esikhetha ukungakusho kungaba okubaluleke ngaphezu kwanoma yini enye. “Nginomuzwa wokuthi ngigweme ukungqubuzana okungadingekile nokuqonda okuthuthukile ngokunikeza izingane zami ithuba lokuthi zibe yilokho ezihlola ukuthi zingaba yini okwamanje,” kusho uBridget, umama wezingane ezine ezisakhula kanye nabantu abadala. “Izingane zidinga isikhala sokuhlola lezi zinto nokuzama imibono yazo. Ngikubona kubalulekile ukubuza imibuzo kunokuzibandakanya nokugxeka nokuphawula. Kubalulekile ukukwenza ngezwi lelukuluku, hhayi ukwahlulela ”.

UBrigid uthi noma ebuza imibuzo ngomoya ophansi, inhliziyo yakhe ingashaya ngamandla esaba ukuthi ingane yakhe icabanga ukwenzani: ukuhamba, ukuthola i-tattoo, ukushiya isonto. Kepha ngenkathi ekhathazeka ngalezi zinto, akazwakalisi ukukhathazeka kwakhe - futhi lokho sekuzuzile. "Uma ngenzi lokhu kimi, kodwa kubo, kungaba yisikhathi esihle sokujabulela injabulo yokufunda ngalo muntu oguqukayo," esho.

KuJeannie, ingxenye yokuletha ukuxolelwa, ukholo, ithemba, ukukhanya nenjabulo uSt Francis ayikhuluma nendodana yakhe, indoda esanda kuqala esikoleni esiphakeme, ifaka ukuhlehla ngokuqaphile endleleni umphakathi omcela ngayo ukuthi ahlulele. ndodana. Uzithola mihla namalanga ethandazela ukuthi uNkulunkulu amkhumbuze ukuthi abuke indodana yakhe ngokuqonda kwangempela. "Izingane zethu zingaphezu kwezikolo zokuhlolwa, amamaki kanye nemiphumela yokugcina yomdlalo webhasikidi," esho. “Kulula kakhulu ukuba yizisulu zokukala izingane zethu ngalezi zilinganiso. Izingane zethu ziningi kakhulu ".

Umkhuleko kaSt.Francis, obhekiswe ekukhuliseni izingane, udinga ukuthi sibekhona ezinganeni zethu ngendlela engaba nzima uma ama-imeyili nezindwangu zinqwabelana kanti nemoto idinga ushintsho lukawoyela. Kepha ukuletha ithemba enganeni ephelelwe yithemba ngenxa yokulwa nomngani, sidinga ukuba khona naleyo ngane ngokwanele ukuthi sibone ukuthi yini okungalungile. USt Francis usimema ukuba sibheke phezulu kusuka kumafoni ethu, siyeke ukusebenza futhi sibone izingane zethu ngokucacile okuvumela impendulo efanele.

UJenny, umama wezingane ezintathu, uthi ukugula okungathi sína kukamama osemncane ayazi ukuthi kwashintsha umbono wakhe. “Zonke izimpi, izinselelo kanye nokufa kokugcina kukaMolly kungenze ngacabanga ngendlela enginenhlanhla ngayo ukuba nosuku nezingane zami, ngisho nezinsuku ezinzima. Wabhala ngohambo lwakhe ngokukhululekile futhi wanikeza umndeni nabangane ukuqonda ngezinkinga zakhe zansuku zonke. Ngibonga kakhulu ngalokho, ”kusho uJenny. “Amazwi akhe angenze ngacabanga okuningi ngokungena emizuzwini emincane nokubonga isikhathi enginaso nezingane zami, futhi lokhu kungilethele ukubekezela nokuqonda okwengeziwe ekukhuliseni kwami. Ngangizizwa ngishintshwa futhi ngiguquguquka ekusebenzisaneni kwami ​​nabo. Enye indaba ngaphambi kokulala, enye ikholi yokucela usizo, enye into ongikhombisa yona. . . . Manje sengikwazi ukuphefumula kalula, ngiphile njengamanje,

Ukuxhumana kukaJenny nomthandazo kaSanta Francis kwaqiniswa nokufa kukayise okwakamuva, owafaka umthandazo kaSanta Francis ngesitayela sobuzali esigxile ekuqondeni nasekusekeleni umkakhe nezingane zakhe ezintathu. Uthi: “Ikhadi likababa lomthandazo emngcwabeni wakhe lalihlanganisa nomthandazo kaSt. Francis. “Ngemuva komngcwabo, ngafaka ikhadi lomkhuleko esibukweni sami sokugqoka njengesikhumbuzo sansuku zonke sothando lwakhe nesitayela sokuba ngumzali nokuthi ngifuna ukuba kanjani nalezo zici. Ngiphinde ngabeka ikhadi lomkhuleko egumbini ngalinye lezingane zami njengesikhumbuzo sansuku zonke esicashile kubo sothando lwami nabo "