Umama ongenazitho ukhala ngendodana yakhe ebulawe wukuhlukunyezwa
Il ukuxhashazwa yisihlava somphakathi esinemiphumela emibi ezimpilweni zalabo abathintekile, ikakhulukazi uma laba bantu bentekenteke.
Ukuze uvimbele futhi ulwe nakho, kubalulekile ukuqwashisa umphakathi futhi kwakhiwe indawo ephephile neyamukelekayo yawo wonke umuntu. Kodwa ngaphezu kwakho konke kubalulekile ukunikeza ukusekelwa kwabahlukunyezwa futhi ubasize bacubungule ukuhlukumezeka abaye babhekana nakho.
Ziningi kakhulu izindaba zomama abashonelwa izingane zabo ngenxa yabantu ababezilulaza, bezihleka usulu, baze balahlekelwe ukuzethemba, ukuzihlukanisa nabanye abantu futhi kwesinye isikhathi owesifazane ofileyo.
Le yindaba ka Allison Lapper, umama onesibindi owenza konke ukukhulisa indodana yakhe futhi ayivikele ebubini bangaphandle. Kodwa ngeshwa impilo yendodana yakhe uParis yashona ineminyaka engu-19 kuphela ubudala.
Indaba ka-Allison
Kwakunjalo u-Allison lahla kusukela kubazali lapho ezalwa, ngenxa yokukhubazeka kwakhe. Intombazane yazalwa ingenazo izitho zangaphezulu nezingezansi. Ngakho u-Allison ukhulela esikhungweni, nasesikoleni 1999 ngemva kokukhishwa kwezisu eziningana, uyakwazi ukufeza iphupho lakhe lokuba ngumama, abelethe umntwana ama-pary. Ngo-2003, lo wesifazane waphothula iziqu ze-Honours e-University of Brighton, futhi ngemva kweminyaka emibili wabhala incwadi " Impilo yami isezandleni zami" eshicilelwe ngu I-Guardian, lapho ebonakalisa khona yonke intokozo yokuzalwa kwendodana yakhe.
Umama nendodana eminyakeni yokuqala yokuphila kwabo, babenobudlelwane obuhlangene futhi obuhle. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, ngeshwa, ngenxa yokuxhashazwa nokushushiswa akuthola kubangane bakhe, iParis yaqala ukushintsha.
Abafana babelokhu bemgcona bemgcona ngonina okhubazekile.
Izimpawu zokuqala ze ukukhathazeka nokudangala, waze wahoxa emhlabeni umfana waqala ukudla izidakamizwa. Allison, lapho indodana yakhe iphenduka Iminyaka engu-16 waphoqeleka ukuthi aboshwe. Manje kwase kungenzeki kuye ukuyinakekela.
UParys umfana ontekenteke oyisisulu sokuxhashazwa
Leli phephandaba Umlondolozi uveze ukuthi, eneminyaka engu-19 ubudala, uParys watholakala eshonile ngenxa yokuphuza ngokweqile ngephutha.
Ku-Allison, ubuhlungu buhlanganiswe nobuhlungu benhliziyo bakho konke indodana yakhe eye yadlula kukho ngenxa yokukhubazeka kwayo. Akekho owayecabanga ukuthi lo mfana ontekenteke wayehlukunyezwe kangakanani izingane ayefunda nazo.
Buka imininingwane Umbiko Maka njengokungafanele Okufanayo
Kubalulekile ku-Allison ukuthi abantu baqonde ukuthi uParys ubengeyena umlutha wezidakamizwa futhi akafuni ukukhunjulwa ngaleyo ndlela. UParys wayengumfana nje obuthakathaka owayengakwazi ukulwa nezwe elinobutha.