Njira 4 zofunika kuziganizira mukamakhumudwitsidwa ndi mpingo
Tikhale owona mtima, mukamaganiza za mpingo, mawu omaliza omwe mumafuna kuti muphatikizane ndi kukhumudwitsidwa. Komabe, tikudziwa kuti ma pews athu ndi odzala ndi anthu omwe adakhumudwitsidwa ndi mpingo - kapena mamembala ampingo.
Chokhacho chomwe sindikufuna kuchita ndikuwunikira zina zokhumudwitsa izi chifukwa ndi zenizeni. Ndipo moona, palibe choyipa monga mpingo. Zomwe zimapangitsa kukhumudwitsa tchalitchi kukhala zopweteka kwambiri ndichakuti nthawi zambiri zimakhala zosayembekezeka ndipo zimadabwitsani. Pali zinthu zina zomwe mumayembekezera kuti zizichitika kunja kwa mpingo, komabe zimachitika mkati mwa tchalitchi kukhumudwitsidwa ndi kupweteka kumakhala kwakukulu komanso zowopsa.
Ndi chifukwa chake ndikufuna kulankhula ndi ozunzidwa - iwo omwe ali kumbali yolandila. Chifukwa kuchira nthawi zambiri kumakhala kovuta ndipo anthu ena samachira. Ndi malingaliro awa, ndikufuna ndikupatseni zinthu zinayi zoti muchite pamene mpingo wakhumudwitsani.
1. Dziwani yemwe kapena yemwe wakhumudwitsani
Pali mawu omwe amati simumataya mwana wake m'madzi osamba, komabe bala la mpingo litha kukupangitsani inu kuchita chomwecho. Mutha kusiya chilichonse, kuchokapo ndipo osabweranso. Kwenikweni, munataya khandalo ndi madzi osamba.
Chinthu choyamba chomwe ndikukulimbikitsani kuti muchite ndikuzindikiritsa amene kapena amene wakhumudwitsani. Nthawi zambiri, chifukwa cha ululu, timatenga zochita za owerengeka ndikuzigwiritsa ntchito pagululi lathunthu. Atha kukhala munthu amene wakupwetekani kapena kukukhumudwitsani, koma m'malo momuzindikira amene mumayambitsa bungwe lonse.
Komabe, nthawi zina pamakhala zifukwa izi, makamaka ngati bungwe lophimba munthu amene wayipitsa lidawonongeka. Ichi ndichifukwa chake ndikofunikira kuzindikira chomwe chimakukhumudwitsani. Izi sizingakupangitseni kumva bwino, koma zidzakuthandizani kuyang'ana moyenera. Ngakhale zili zovuta, musayimbe mlandu gululo pazomwe wachita kapena ochepa, pokhapokha gulu lonse litalakwitsa.
2. Lankhulani zokhumudwitsa ngati kuli koyenera
Zokhumudwitsa zikachitika, ndikukulimbikitsani kuti muthane ndi zokhumudwitsa, pokhapokha ngati zili zoyenera. Pali nthawi zina pomwe kumakhala koyenera kukumana ndi zowawa ndipo nthawi zina pomwe bala limakhala lotalika kwambiri kuti litha kuchiritsa m'malo amenewo. Ngati ndi choncho, njira yokhayo ingakhale kusiya izi ndikupeza malo ena opembedzera.
Ndine kholo la ana awiri ndipo wina ali ndi zosowa zapadera. Chifukwa cha zosowa zapadera za mwana wanga, sangakhale chete nthawi zonse ndikadali kutchalitchi nthawi yomwe amayenera kukhala. Loweruka lina, wansembe wa pa tchalitchi chomwe tidalalikiramo adawerenga kalata pamaso pa munthu wina yemwe amabwera kutchalitchicho. Iwo ati mpingo unali wokongola koma ana amiseche m'malo opatulikawo ndi osokoneza. Nthawi imeneyo, kunalibe ana awiri okha m'malo opatulikawo; onse anali anga.
Zowawa zomwe adabweretsa powerenga kalata ija zidatikhumudwitsa zomwe tidalephera kuchira. Mosakayikira, tinachoka kutchalitchichi titangochokapo. Tidapanga lingaliro, nditha kuwonjezera pa pemphelo, kuti ngati ana athu atikwiyitsa kwambiri sitingakhale pamalo oyenera. Ndimagawana nkhaniyi kuti mudziwitseni kuti muyenera kusankha kuti musankhe kapena musakhumudwe kapena kuzindikira kuti mwina muli pamalo olakwika. Chinsinsi chake ndikuwonetsetsa kuti mukupanga chisankho mwapemphero, osati zamalingaliro.
Chofunikira kudziwa ndikuti kukhumudwitsidwa komwe tidakumana nako mu mpingo umodzi womwewo sikudatichititse kukhala oyipa kwambiri. Tidazindikira kuti mpingo weniweni sunali malo oyenera banja lathu; sizinatanthauze kuti matchalitchi onse sanali oyenera banja lathu. Kuyambira pamenepo tapitiliza kupeza mpingo womwe umakwaniritsa zosowa zathu zonse komanso ulinso ndi zosoŵa zapadera za mwana wathu. Chifukwa chake, ndikukumbutsani, musataye mwana ndi madzi amachubu.
Pamene mukuganizira mukupemphera za zomwe mungachite, mutha kuwona kuti chinthu choyipa kwambiri pazovuta zanu ndi kuthawa. Nthawi zina izi ndi zomwe mdani wanu satana amafuna kuti muchite. Ichi ndichifukwa chake muyenera kuyankha mwapemphero komanso mosaganizira. Satana angagwiritse ntchito zokhumudwitsa kuti akhumudwitse ndipo ngati zikuwonekadi zimatha kutitsogolera. Ndiye chifukwa chake muyenera kufunsa Mulungu, kodi mukufuna kuti ndichite izi kapena ndi nthawi yoti ndichoke? Ngati mungaganizire kukumana ndi zokhumudwitsa, nayi malangizo a m'Malemba a momwe angachitire:
"Ngati wokhulupirira wina akuchimwira, pitani mseri ndipo mukalange. Ngati winayo amvera ndi kuulula, mwapeza munthu ameneyo. Koma ngati simungathe, bweretsani limodzi ndi ena awiri ndi kubwerera, kuti zonse zomwe munganene zitsimikizidwe ndi mboni ziwiri kapena zitatu. Ngati munthuyo akukana kumvera, pitani ku tchalitchi. Chifukwa chake ngati savomereza lingaliro la mpingo, mumtenge ngati wachikunja kapena wamsonkho: "(Mateyo 18: 15-17).
3. Pemphani chisomo kuti mukhululukire
Ngakhale ululu wa mpingo ungakhale wowona komanso wowawa, kukhululukidwa kumatha kukhala ndi zotsatirapo zoyipa kwambiri. Ndiye chifukwa chake, ngakhale osakukhumudwitsani ndi zomwe adachita, muyenera kupempha Mulungu kuti chisomo chikhululukireni. Izi zikuwonongani ngati simungathe.
Ndikudziwa anthu omwe avulala mu mpingo ndipo amalola nkhanza zawo kuwononga ubale wawo ndi Mulungu komanso anthu ena. Mwa njira, ili ndi tsamba lomwe langotuluka patsamba losewerera la mdani. Chilichonse chomwe chimayendetsa wedge, chimapanga magawano kapena kukusiyanitsani ndi thupi la Khristu chimayendetsedwa ndi mdani. Kusakhululuka kudzakuchitirani izi. Zimakutengerani kokwerera ndikukusiyirani kumalo kopanda ena. Mukakhala nokha, mumakhala osatetezeka.
Cholinga chomwe kukhululukirana kuli kovutirapo ndikuti mukuwona ngati mukuyikira kumbuyo mkhalidwewo ndikukhala osakhutitsidwa kwathunthu kapena kubwezera. Muyenera kuti mumvetsetse kuti kukhululuka sikuyenera kutenga zomwe mukufuna. Kukhululuka kumatanthauza kutsimikizira ufulu wako. Ngati simukhululuka, mudzaikidwa m'ndende kwamuyaya chifukwa cha zowawa zomwe zakupatsani. Kukhumudwa kumeneku kudzasandutsanso moyo wokhala m'ndende. Itha kukhala ndi zotulukapo zazikulu kwambiri kuposa momwe mungaganizire, ndichifukwa chake muyenera kupempha Mulungu kuti akhululukireni. Sindikunena kuti izi zikhala zosavuta, koma zidzakhala zofunikira ngati mungafune kuthawa ndende yokhumudwitsa.
“Ndipo Petro anadza kwa Yesu nati, 'Ambuye, ndikhululukire kangati m'bale wanga kapena mlongo amene wandichimwira? Mpaka nthawi zisanu ndi ziwiri? Yesu adayankha, "Ndikukuuza, osati kasanu ndi kawiri, koma nthawi makumi asanu ndi awiri mphambu zisanu ndi ziwiri '" (Mateyo 18: 21-22).
4. Kumbukirani momwe Mulungu amathandizira kukhumudwa kwanu
Panali zibangili zomwe zinali zotchuka kwakanthawi, WWJD. Kodi Yesu akanatani? Izi ndizofunikira kukumbukira tikakumana ndi zokhumudwitsa. Mukaganizira funsoli, ikani pamalo oyenera.
Izi ndizomwe ndikutanthauza: Yesu akanatani ndikamukhumudwitsa? Palibe munthu padziko lapansi pano yemwe anganene kuti sanakhumudwitse Mulungu .. Kodi Mulungu anachita chiyani mutachita izi? Kodi amakuchitirani chiyani? Izi ndi zomwe muyenera kukumbukira wina akakhumudwitsani.
Ndiyenera kuvomereza kuti chibadwa chachilengedwe ndicholimbikitsa kupweteka komanso kusazichita monga Yesu akadachitira .. Pakapita nthawi izi zimakupweteketsani kuposa omwe adakukhumudwitsani. Kumbukirani mawu awa:
Gwiritsanani wina ndi mnzake ndi kukhululukirana wina ndi mnzake ngati wina wakudandaula mnzake. Mukhululukire monga Ambuye wakhululukirani. Ndipo pazabwino zonse izi ikani chikondi, chomwe chimawaphatikiza iwo mu umodzi wamphumphu "(Akolose 3: 13-14, anawonjezera).
“Ichi ndiye chikondi: sikuti ife tidakonda Mulungu, koma kuti Iye adatikonda ife, natumiza Mwana wake akhale nsembe yotetezera machimo athu. Okondedwa, popeza Mulungu adatikonda ife kwambiri, tiyenera kukondana wina ndi mnzake ”(1 Yohane 4: 10-11).
"Koposa zonse, kondanani wina ndi mzake, chifukwa chikondi chimakwirira machimo ambiri" (1 Petro 4: 8).
Mukakhumudwitsidwa, ndikupemphera kuti muzikumbukira chikondi chachikulu chomwe Mulungu adadzetsa pa mvula pa inu ndi machimo anu ambiri amene Mulungu wakhululuka. Sichifewetsa ululu koma imakupatsani malingaliro oyenera kuthana nawo.