Malangizo 7 a M'baibulo Okuthandizani Kupeza Mabwenzi Enieni
"Ubwenzi umabwera chifukwa chocheza mosavuta pamene anzanu awiri kapena kupitilira apo azindikira kuti ali ndi masomphenya ofanana kapena chidwi kapena kukoma komwe ena sagawana ndikuti, mpaka pano, aliyense amakhulupirira kuti ndi chuma chawo chapadera (kapena cholemetsa ). Chizindikiro chotsegulira Ubwenzi chingakhale monga, 'Chiyani? Inunso? Ndimaganiza kuti ndekha. '”- CS Lewis, The Four Loves
Ndizosangalatsa kupeza wokwatirana naye yemwe amafanana nafe zomwe zimasanduka ubale weniweni. Komabe, pamakhala nthawi zina pamene kupanga ndi kulimbitsa ubwenzi wokhalitsa kumakhala kovuta.
Kwa achikulire, moyo umakhala wotanganidwa ndikusanja maudindo osiyanasiyana pantchito, kunyumba, mmoyo wabanja, komanso ntchito zina. Kupeza nthawi yolimbikitsira mabwenzi kumakhala kovuta, ndipo padzakhala nthawi zonse omwe timavutika kulumikizana nawo. Kupanga mabwenzi enieni kumatenga nthawi ndi khama. Kodi tikuziika patsogolo? Kodi pali zinthu zomwe tingachite kuti tiyambe ndi kupitiriza ubwenzi?
Chowonadi cha Mulungu kuchokera m'Baibulo chingatithandizire munthawi yomwe kupeza mabwenzi, kupanga, ndi kusunga kumakhala kovuta.
Ubwenzi ndi chiyani?
"Yemwe ali ndi abwenzi osakhulupirika posachedwa amawonongeka, koma pali bwenzi lomwe limayandikira kwambiri kuposa m'bale" (Miyambo 18:24).
Mgwirizano wapakati pa Mulungu Atate, Mwana ndi Mzimu Woyera umawulula kuyandikira ndi ubale womwe tonse timafuna, ndipo Mulungu akutiyitana kuti tikhale nawo. Anthu adapangira anzawo ngati onyamula chifanizo cha Mulungu wautatu ndipo adalengezedwa kuti sizabwino kuti munthu akhale yekha (Genesis 2:18).
Mulungu adalenga Hava kuti athandize Adamu ndipo adayenda nawo m'munda wa Edeni asanagwe. Anali pachibale ndi iwo ndipo anali pachibale cha iye ndi mnzake. Ngakhale Adamu ndi Hava atachimwa, ndi Ambuye yemwe adayamba kuwakumbatira ndikuwulula chikonzero chake chakuwombolera woipayo (Genesis 3:15).
Ubwenzi ukuwonetsedwa bwino m'moyo ndi imfa ya Yesu adati, "Palibe amene ali ndi chikondi choposa ichi, amene adapereka moyo wake chifukwa cha abwenzi ake. Muli abwenzi anga inu, ngati muzichita zomwe ndikulamulirani inu. Sinditchanso inu akapolo, chifukwa kapolo sadziwa ntchito ya mbuye wake. M'malo mwake ndakutchani mabwenzi, chifukwa zonse zimene ndaphunzira kwa Atate wanga ndakudziwitsani. ”(Yohane 15: 13-15).
Yesu adadziulula kwa ife ndipo sanabise chilichonse, ngakhale moyo wake. Tikamutsatira ndikumumvera, timatchedwa mabwenzi ake. Ndiko kukongola kwa ulemerero wa Mulungu ndi chifanizo chake (Ahebri 1: 3). Titha kudziwa Mulungu chifukwa adasandulika thupi ndikudziwonetsera kwa ife. Adapereka moyo wake chifukwa cha ife. Kudziwika ndi kukondedwa ndi Mulungu ndi kutchedwa mabwenzi ake kuyenera kutilimbikitsa kukhala paubwenzi ndi ena chifukwa chomukonda komanso kumumvera Yesu.Tikhoza kukonda ena chifukwa Iye ndiye anayamba kutikonda (1 Yohane 4:19).
Njira 7 zopangira zibwenzi
1. Pemphererani mnzanu wapamtima kapena awiri
Kodi tapempha Mulungu kuti apange mabwenzi? Amatisamalira ndipo amadziwa zonse zomwe timafunikira. Mwina sizingakhale zomwe tikanaganiza kuti tizipempherera.
Pa 1 Yohane 5: 14-15 akuti: "Uku ndiye kumkhulupirira, kuti tikapempha kanthu monga mwa chifuniro chake, amatimvera. Ndipo ngati tidziwa kuti amatimvera chilichonse chomwe timupempha, tidziwa kuti tili nazo zomwe tidamupempha “.
Ndi chikhulupiriro, titha kumufunsa kuti abweretse munthu wina m'moyo wathu kuti adzatilimbikitse, kutitsutsa, ndikupitiliza kutilozera kwa Yesu.Ngati tapempha Mulungu kuti atithandize kukhala ndi mabwenzi apamtima omwe angatilimbikitse mu chikhulupiriro ndi moyo wathu, tiyenera kukhulupirira kuti Iye adzatiyankha. Tikuyembekeza kuti Mulungu achite mopanda malire kuposa momwe tingafunse kapena kulingalira kudzera mu mphamvu Yake yogwira ntchito mwa ife (Aefeso 3:20).
2. Fufuzani m'Baibulo za nzeru za ubwenzi
Baibulo ndi lodzala ndi nzeru, ndipo buku la Miyambo limanena zambiri zaubwenzi, kuphatikiza kusankha anzeru mwanzeru komanso kukhala bwenzi. Nenani za upangiri wabwino kuchokera kwa bwenzi: "Mafuta ndi zofukiza zimasangalatsa mtima, ndipo chisangalalo cha bwenzi chimachokera pakulangiza kwawo" (Miyambo 27: 9).
Imachenjezanso za omwe angathetse ubale wawo kuti: "Munthu woyipa amayambitsa mikangano ndipo miseche imalekanitsa mabwenzi apamtima" (Miyambo 16:28) ndipo "Aliyense amene amalimbikitsa chikondi abisa cholakwa, koma aliyense wobwereza nkhaniyo amalekanitsa abwenzi "(Miyambo 17: 9).
Mu Chipangano Chatsopano, Yesu ndiye chitsanzo chathu chachikulu cha zomwe zimatanthauza kukhala bwenzi. Iye anati, "Palibe amene ali ndi chikondi chachikulu kuposa ichi: kupereka moyo wake chifukwa cha abwenzi ake" (Yohane 15:13). Kuyambira Genesis mpaka Chivumbulutso timawona nkhani ya chikondi cha Mulungu komanso ubwenzi ndi anthu. Nthawi zonse ankatithamangitsa. Kodi tidzatsata ena ndi chikondi chimodzimodzi chimene Khristu anali nacho pa ife?
3. Khalani bwenzi
Sikuti zimangokhala zomangirira komanso zomwe tingapindule kuchokera muubwenzi. Lemba la Afilipi 2: 4 limati, "Aliyense wa inu asamangoganizira zofuna zake zokha, komanso zofuna za ena" ndipo 1 Atesalonika 5:11 imati, "Chifukwa chake mulimbikitsane wina ndi mnzake, ndi kulimbikitsana wina ndi mnzake, monga muchitira."
Pali ambiri omwe ali okha ndipo ali m'mavuto, ofunitsitsa abwenzi ndi wina woti amvetsere. Ndani tingadalitse ndi kulimbikitsa? Kodi pali aliyense amene tiyenera kumudziwa? Sikuti mnzathu aliyense kapena munthu aliyense amene tingamuthandize adzakhala mnzake wapamtima. Komabe, tidayitanidwa kukonda anzathu komanso adani athu, ndikutumikira omwe timakumana nawo ndikuwakonda monga Yesu akuwakondera.
Monga momwe Aroma 12:10 amanenera: “Mukondane wina ndi mnzake, ndi chikondi cha pa abale. Muzipambanirana wina ndi mnzake posonyeza ulemu. "
4. Yambani ndinu kuchitapo kanthu
Kutenga gawo mu chikhulupiriro kungakhale kovuta kwambiri. Kufunsa wina kuti tikumane khofi, kuitanira munthu kunyumba kwathu kapena kuchita chinachake tikuyembekeza chingathandize wina kulimba mtima. Pakhoza kukhala zotchinga zamitundumitundu. Mwinamwake akugonjetsa manyazi kapena mantha. Mwina pali linga la chikhalidwe kapena chikhalidwe lomwe liyenera kuthyoledwa, tsankho lomwe liyenera kutsutsidwa kapena tikungofunika kudalira kuti Yesu adzakhala nafe nthawi yathu yonse yolumikizana.
Kungakhale kovuta ndipo kutsatira Yesu sikophweka, koma palibe njira ina yabwino koposa yokhalira moyo. Tiyenera kukhala achangu ndikutsegulira mitima yathu ndi nyumba kwa iwo omwe atizungulira, kuwalandira ndi kuwakomera mtima ndikuwakonda monga momwe Khristu amatikondera. Ndi Yesu amene anayamba chiombolo potitsanulira chisomo chake pa ife tidali adani ndi ochimwira Mulungu (Aroma 5: 6-10). Ngati Mulungu atha kutipatsa chisomo chodabwitsa chotere, titha kuperekanso chisomo chimodzimodzi kwa ena.
5. Khalani ndi moyo wodzipereka
Nthawi zonse Yesu amayenda kuchokera kumalo kupita kwina, kumakumana ndi anthu ena kupatula unyinji ndikukwaniritsa zosowa zawo zakuthupi ndi zauzimu. Komabe, amapitilizabe kupeza nthawi yocheza ndi Atate Wake pakupemphera komanso ndi ophunzira Ake. Pamapeto pake, Yesu adakhala moyo wodzimana pamene adamvera abambo ake ndikuyika moyo wake pa mtanda chifukwa cha ife.
Tsopano titha kukhala abwenzi a Mulungu chifukwa adafera machimo athu, kudziyanjanitsa mu ubale wabwino ndi Iye.Tiyeneranso kuchita chimodzimodzi ndikukhala moyo wosatilankhula, wa Yesu komanso wosadzikonda kwa ena. Mwa kusandulika ndi chikondi chodzipereka nsembe cha Mpulumutsi, timatha kukonda ena mopitirira muyeso ndikuika ndalama mwa anthu monga Yesu anachitira.
6. Imani ndi Abwenzi nthawi zonse
Mnzanu weniweni amakhazikika ndipo amakhalabe munthawi yamavuto ndi zowawa, komanso munthawi yachisangalalo ndi chikondwerero. Anzanu amagawana umboni komanso zotsatira ndipo amakhala owonekera poyera komanso owona mtima. Ubwenzi wapamtima pakati pa Davide ndi Jonatani pa 1 Samueli 18: 1 umatsimikizira izi: "Atangomaliza kulankhula ndi Sauli, mtima wa Yonatani udalumikizana ndi moyo wa Davide, ndipo Jonatani adamukonda iye monga moyo wake." Yonatani anasonyeza kukoma mtima kwa Davide pamene abambo ake, Mfumu Sauli, anali kufuna moyo wa Davide. David adakhulupirira Jonathan kuti athandize kukopa abambo ake kuti agonjere, komanso kumuchenjeza ngati Sauli akadali moyo wake (1 Samueli 20). Yonatani ataphedwa kunkhondo, Davide adamva chisoni, zomwe zidawonetsa kuzama kwa ubale wawo (2 Samueli 1: 25-27).
7. Kumbukirani kuti Yesu ndiye bwenzi lomaliza
Kungakhale kovuta kupanga ubale weniweni komanso wokhalitsa, koma chifukwa timakhulupirira kuti Ambuye atithandiza ndi izi, tiyenera kukumbukira kuti Yesu ndiye bwenzi lathu lomaliza. Amati okhulupirira ndi abwenzi ake chifukwa wawafotokozera ndipo sanabise kalikonse (Yohane 15:15). Iye adatifera ife, adayamba kutikonda (1 Yohane 4:19), adatisankha (Yohane 15:16), ndipo pamene tidali kutali ndi Mulungu adatibweretsa pafupi ndi mwazi wake, wokhetsedwa chifukwa cha ife pa mtanda (Aefeso 2:13).
Ndi bwenzi la ochimwa ndipo amalonjeza kuti sadzasiya kapena kusiya iwo amene amamukhulupirira Iye maziko a ubwenzi weniweni ndi wokhalitsa ndi omwe amatilimbikitsa kutsatira Yesu moyo wathu wonse, kufuna kumaliza mpikisanowu kwamuyaya.