Momwe mungakwaniritsire mgwirizano waukulu wogonana muukwati wanu



Gawo la chikondi chaubale liyenera kukulitsidwa, monga moyo wopemphera.

Ngakhale uthenga womwe gulu lathu limatumiza, moyo wathu wogonana umasiyidwa kwambiri. "Ndizachilengedwe kuti okwatirana amakumana ndi mavuto mu gawo ili, monga zili zonse, koma kungakhale kulakwa kuvomereza," atero a Nathalie Loevenbruck, mlangizi wa mabanja omwe akuthandiza maukwati achikristu. "Inde, pali nthawi zina pomwe zibwenzi zimavuta kusintha miyambo ndi zikhumbo zawo. Koma kugonana kuyenera kuonedwa mozama, "akutero.

Mgwirizano wapakati pa okwatirana umaphatikizira mgonero wowzama kuposa mawu. Kukana kugonana, mmalo mothetsa vuto limodzi, kumapangitsa awiriwo kukhala ndikugwirizana ndikutsutsana ndi mawu awo kuti akhale "thupi limodzi" (Mk 10: 8). Kupanda chikondi ndi kuyanjana kuyenera kulipiridwira kwina. Kupatula chigololo, kusakhulupirika kumatha kudziwonetsa mwa kugwira ntchito mochedwa, kudzipatula kwambiri kuchita zachiyanjano kapena ngakhale ndi zosokoneza. Koma sikuti aliyense angathe kuchita izi limodzi. Moyo wakugonana wa banja ndi ndalama zomwe zimafunikira maluso ndi kukhumba. Kugonana kuyenera kukulitsidwa nthawi zonse ndikukonzedwa ngati moyo wopemphera.



Mavuto omwe amasangalatsa mtima

Loevenbruck akuumirira mwamphamvu kufunika kwa njira yodalirika komanso yodalirika yomamvetsera wina ndi mnzake ndikuzindikira zovuta. Kusowa chidwi kumatha kukhala ndi zifukwa zingapo zam'malingaliro ndi zamaganizidwe: kusadzidalira, malingaliro olakwika pazakugonana, kuvutika kwa ana, mavuto azaumoyo, ndi zina zambiri. Ngati palibe chomwe chikugwira ntchito, nthawi zonse pamakhala njira zina zosonyezera chikondi ndi kudekha. Sitiyenera kutaya mtima.



"Chifukwa ife akhristu tili ndi mwayi wodziwa Iye yemwe amatiperekeza pa njira ya [ufulu], akutero Loevenbruck, akuwonetsa ntchito zambiri za Tchalitchi cha Katolika. Mwachitsanzo, pali zolemba za Yohane Woyera Wachiwiri, zomwe zathandizira kuchotsa zopinga za mibadwo ya opembedza, yokayikira zinthu zonse "zogonana".

Zonse zikalephera, Loevenbruck amafunsira okwatirana kuti aganizire momwe zovuta zomwe amakumana nazo zimawapangitsa kuti avutike. Izi zimawathandiza kuti azikondana wina ndi mnzake. "Kuzindikira modzichepetsa mavuto ndi kukondana wina ndi mnzake ngakhale kuli kwina ndikupita patsogolo ku chisangalalo cha chikondi chophatikizapo kuleza mtima, kudzipereka ndi kuvomereza," akutero. Ndi njira yodzichepetsera yolemekezeka. Koma imalimbikitsidwa pakukhulupirira kudalira ena ndi Mulungu, komwe kungathandize kukwaniritsa zogonana.