Kodi Baibo imati chiyani pankhani yokhudza kugonana?

Tiyeni tikambirane za kugonana. Inde, mawu oti "S". Monga akhristu achichepere, mwina takhala tikuchenjezedwa kuti tisachite zogonana ukwati usanachitike. Mutha kukhala kuti mumaganiza kuti Mulungu amaganiza kuti kugonana ndi koyipa, koma Bayibulo limanenapo zosiyana. Akamaona ngati Mulungu, kugonana m'Baibulo ndi chinthu chabwino kwambiri.

Kodi Baibo imati chiyani pankhani yokhudza kugonana?
Yembekezani. Chani? Kodi kugonana ndi chinthu chabwino? Mulungu adalenga zakugonana. Sikuti Mulungu adangopanga zogonana kuti ziziberekera - kuti ifeyo tizipanga ana - adalenga ubale wogonana kuti tisangalale. Baibo imakamba kuti kugonana ndi njira yoti mwamuna ndi mkazi wake azisonyezana chikondi. Mulungu adapanga zakugonana kuti zikhale mawonekedwe osangalatsa ndi achikondi:

Kenako Mulungu adalenga munthu m'chifanizo chake, m'chifanizo cha Mulungu adamlenga iye; wamwamuna ndi wamkazi adawalenga. Mulungu anawadalitsa nati kwa iwo: "Mubalane, muchuluke." (Genesis 1: 27-28, NIV)
Pachifukwa ichi, mwamuna adzasiya bambo ndi mayi ake, ndikuphatikizana ndi mkazi wake, ndipo adzakhala thupi limodzi. (Genesis 2:24, NIV)
Likhale lodalitsika ndi kusangalala mwa mkazi wapaunyamata wako. Bulu wachikondi, wokonda chisomo: kuti mawere anu azikukwanitsani nthawi zonse, kuti simudzakondwera ndi chikondi chake. (Mimwani 5: 18-19, NIV)
"Ndiwe wokongola bwanji nanga umakhala wokongola bwanji, kapena chikondi, ndi zokonda zako!" (Nyimbo ya Nyimbo 7: 6, NIV)
Thupi silimapangidwira kuchiwerewere, koma kwa Ambuye ndi Ambuye kwa thupilo. (1 Akorinto 6:13, NIV)

Mwamuna ayenera kukwaniritsa zofuna za mkazi ndipo mkazi azikwaniritsa zofuna za mwamunayo. Mkazi amapereka ulamuliro pa thupi lake kwa mwamunayo ndipo mwamunayo amapereka mphamvu kwa thupi lake kwa mkazi wake. (1 Akorinto 7: 3-5, NLT)
Palibe vuto. Pali zokambirana zambiri zokhuza zakugonana potizungulira. Timaliwerenga pafupifupi m'magazini onse komanso m'manyuzipepala, timaziwona m'makanema ndi makanema TV. Muli nyimbo zomwe timamvetsera. Chikhalidwe chathu ndizodzaza ndi zogonana, zimapangitsa kuti ziziwoneka kuti kugonana musanalowe ukwati kumayenda bwino chifukwa kumamva bwino.

Koma Baibulo limatsutsa. Mulungu amatipatsa tonsefe kuti tizilamulira zofuna zathu ndikudikirira ukwati:

Koma popeza pali zachiwerewere zochuluka kwambiri, mwamuna aliyense azikhala ndi mkazi wake ndi mkazi aliyense mwamuna wake. Mwamuna azigwira ntchito yolumikizana kwa mkazi wake komanso mkazi kwa mwamunayo. (1 Akorinto 7: 2-3, NIV)
Ukwati uyenera kulemekezedwa ndi onse, ndipo pogona paukwati kuyenera kukhala koyera, chifukwa Mulungu adzaweruza wachigololo ndi zonse zachiwerewere. (Ahebri 13: 4, NIV)

Ndi chifuno cha Mulungu kuti muyeretsedwe: kuti muyenera kupewa chiwerewere; kuti aliyense wa inu aphunzire kuyang'anira thupi lanu machitidwe oyera ndi olemekezeka, (1 Ates. 4: 3-4, NIV)
Kodi ndikadagonana kale bwanji?
Ngati mudagonana musanakhale Mkristu, kumbukirani, Mulungu amakhululuka machimo athu akale. Zolakwa zathu zimaphimbidwa ndi magazi a Yesu Khristu pamtanda.

Ngati mukadakhala wokhulupirira kale koma mutagonana, pamenepo chiyembekezo chilipo kwa inu. Ngakhale kuti simungabwererenso kukhala namwali mu thupi, mutha kupeza chikhululukiro cha Mulungu. Ingopempheni Mulungu kuti akukhululukireni kenako kenako limbikirani moona mtima kuti musapitirize kuchimwa.

Kulapa kwenikweni kumatanthauza kusiya machimo. Zomwe zimakwiyitsa Mulungu ndi tchimo mwadala, mukadziwa kuti mukuchimwa, koma pitilizani kuchita nawo tchimolo. Ngakhale kusiya kugonana kumakhala kovuta, Mulungu akutiyitanira kukhalabe oyera mpaka ukwati.

Chifukwa chake, abale anga, ndikufuna kuti mudziwe kuti kukhululukidwa machimo kumalengezedwa kudzera mwa Yesu. Kudzera mwa iye onse amene akhulupirira ali oyenera pazonse zomwe malamulo a Mose sakanalungamitsidwa. (Machitidwe 13: 38-39, NIV)
Ndikofunika kupewa kudya zakudya zoperekedwa kwa zifaniziro, kudya magazi kapena nyama yanyama yopingidwa ndi chiwerewere. Mukatero, mudzachita bwino. Bayi. (Machitidwe 15:29, NLT)
Pasakhale chiwerewere, chidetso kapena umbombo pakati panu. Machimo oterowo alibe malo pakati pa anthu a Mulungu. (Aefeso 5: 3, NLT)
Chifuniro cha Mulungu ndikuti inu ndinu oyera, choncho pewani kutali ndi machimo onse ogonana. Chifukwa chake aliyense wa inu azilamulira thupi lanu ndikukhala mu chiyero ndi ulemu, osakhala chilakolako chonyansa ngati achikunja osadziwa Mulungu ndi njira zake. Osavulaza kapena kubera m'bale wachikhristu pankhaniyi pophwanya mkazi wake, chifukwa Ambuye amafufuza machimo onsewa, monga tidakuchenjezani kale. Mulungu adatiyitanitsa kuti tizikhala moyo wopatulika, osati moyo wosadetsa. (1 Ates. 4: 3-7, NLT)
Nayi nkhani yabwino: ngati mulapa zenizeni zakugonana, Mulungu adzakupangani kukhala watsopano ndi kuyereranso, kubwezeretsanso kuyera kwanu mu uzimu.

Ndingakane bwanji?
Monga okhulupilira, tiyenera kulimbana ndi ziyeso tsiku lililonse. Kuyesedwa si tchimo. Pokhapokha ngati tigonjera poyesedwa timachimwa. Ndiye kodi tingalimbane bwanji ndi chiyeso chakugonana ndi munthu yemwe si banja lathu?

Chikhumbo chakugonana chimatha kukhala champhamvu kwambiri, makamaka ngati mwagonana kale. Pakudalira Mulungu kuti atipatse mphamvu ndi pomwe tingagonjetse mayesero.

Palibe mayeso omwe adakugwerani, kupatula zomwe zimachitika mwa munthu. Ndipo Mulungu ndiwokhulupirika; sichingakuloreni kuyesa kuposa zomwe mungapirire. Koma mukayesedwa, zimakupatsaninso njira yodziperekera nokha kuti musagonje. (1 Akorinto 10:13 - NIV)