Khalidwe lalikulu la abwenzi enieni achikristu
Anzanu bwerani, a
abwenzi apite,
koma bwenzi lenileni lilipo kukuwonani inu kukula.
Ndakatulo iyi ikupereka lingaliro laubwenzi wokhalitsa ndi kuphweka, womwe ndi maziko a mabwenzi atatu achikhristu.
Mitundu Ya Ubwenzi Wachikhristu
Kulangiza Ubwenzi: Njira yoyamba yaubwenzi wachikhristu ndi ubwenzi wolangiza. Muubwenzi wolangiza, timaphunzitsa, kuyamikira, kapena kuphunzitsa anzathu achikristu. Uwu ndi ubale wozikidwa pa utumiki, wofanana ndi umene Yesu anali nawo ndi ophunzira ake.
Ubwenzi wa Mentee: Muubwenzi wa ana asukulu, ndife anthu ophunzira, olangizidwa, kapena ophunzira. Tili kumapeto kwa utumiki wolandira, wothandizidwa ndi mlangizi. Zimenezi n’zofanana ndi zimene ophunzirawo analandira kwa Yesu.
Ubwenzi Wapadziko Lonse: Ubwenzi wapamtima suchokera pa kulangizana. M’malo mwake, m’mikhalidwe imeneyi, anthu aŵiriwo kaŵirikaŵiri amakhala ogwirizana kwambiri mwauzimu, akumalinganiza njira yachibadwa ya kupereka ndi kulandira pakati pa mabwenzi enieni achikristu. Tidzafufuza maubwenzi apamtima, koma choyamba ndikofunika kumvetsetsa bwino maubwenzi otsogolera, kotero tisasokoneze awiriwa.
Kulangiza maubwenzi kumatha kukhala opanda kanthu ngati onse awiri sazindikira mtundu wa ubalewo ndikumanga malire oyenera. Mlangizi angafunike kusiya ntchito ndi kupeza nthawi yokonzanso zinthu zauzimu. Angafunikenso kukana nthaŵi zina, akumaika malire pa kudzipereka kwake kwa wophunzirayo.
Momwemonso, wophunzira yemwe amayembekezera zambiri za mlangizi wawo amafunafuna ubale wabwino ndi munthu wolakwika. Ophunzira ayenera kulemekeza malire ndi kufunafuna ubwenzi wapamtima ndi munthu wina osati mlangizi.
Titha kukhala alangizi komanso ophunzira, koma osati ndi bwenzi lomwelo. Tikhoza kudziwa wokhulupirira wokhwima maganizo amene amatitsogolera m’Mawu a Mulungu, pamene ifenso timapeza nthawi yotsogolera wotsatira watsopano wa Khristu.
Maubwenzi apamtima ndi osiyana kwambiri ndi kulangiza mabwenzi. Maubwenzi amenewa nthawi zambiri sachitika mwadzidzidzi. Nthawi zambiri, amakula pakapita nthawi pamene abwenzi onse akupita patsogolo mu nzeru zauzimu ndi kukhwima. Ubwenzi wolimba wachikristu umaphuka mwachibadwa pamene mabwenzi aŵiri amakula pamodzi m’chikhulupiriro, ubwino, chidziwitso, ndi chisomo china chaumulungu.
Makhalidwe a mabwenzi enieni achikristu
Ndiye kodi ubwenzi weniweni wachikhristu umaoneka bwanji? Tiyeni tiziganyule m’makhalidwe osavuta kuwazindikira.
Chikondi nsembe
Yohane 15:13 : Chikondi choposa chilibe chilichonse cha izi, chimene chinasiya moyo wake chifukwa cha abwenzi ake. (NIV)
Yesu ndiye chitsanzo chabwino koposa cha bwenzi lenileni lachikristu. Chikondi chake pa ife ndi chodzimana, osati chadyera. Iye anasonyeza zimenezi osati kokha kupyolera mu zozizwitsa zake za machiritso, koma mokwanira kwambiri kupyolera mu utumiki wodzichepetsa wa kusambitsa mapazi a ophunzira ake, ndipo pomalizira pake pamene anasiya moyo wake pa mtanda.
Ngati tisankha mabwenzi athu malinga ndi zimene atipatsa, kaŵirikaŵiri tidzapeza madalitso a ubwenzi weniweni waumulungu. Lemba la Afilipi 2:3 limati: “Musachite chilichonse ndi mtima wodzikonda, kapena chifukwa chofuna kuchita zinthu zopanda pake, koma modzichepetsa ndi kuona ena kukhala abwino kuposa inuyo. Poona zosowa za bwenzi lanu kukhala zofunika kwambiri kuposa zanu, mudzakhala panjira yokonda monga Yesu. Mukamachita zimenezi, mudzapeza bwenzi lenileni.
Landirani mopanda malire
Miyambo 17:17 : Bwenzi limakonda nthawi zonse ndipo mbale anabadwira kuti akuthandize pakagwa tsoka. (NIV)
Timapeza mabwenzi abwino kwambiri ndi abale ndi alongo amene amadziŵa ndi kuvomereza zofooka zathu ndi kupanda ungwiro kwathu.
Ngati sitichedwa kukwiya kapena kusangalala ndi mkwiyo, tidzavutika kupeza mabwenzi. Palibe amene ali wangwiro. Tonsefe timalakwitsa nthawi ndi nthawi. Ngati tidzipenda moona mtima, tidzavomereza kuti tili ndi mlandu pamene zinthu sizikuyenda bwino muubwenzi. Bwenzi labwino ndi wokonzeka kupempha chikhululukiro ndi wokonzeka kukhululuka.
Amakhulupirira kotheratu
Miyambo 18:24: Munthu wa mabwenzi ambiri akhoza kuwonongeka, koma pali bwenzi limene limamatirira kuposa mbale. (NIV)
Mwambi umenewu umavumbula kuti bwenzi lenileni lachikristu ndi lodalirika, ndipo umatsindikanso mfundo yachiwiri yofunika kwambiri. Tiyenera kuyembekezera kugawana chidaliro chonse ndi anzathu okhulupirika ochepa. Kukhulupirira mosavuta kungayambitse chiwonongeko, choncho samalani kuti musakhulupirire mnzanu wamba. M’kupita kwa nthaŵi, mabwenzi athu enieni Achikristu adzasonyeza kudalirika kwawo mwa kukhala pafupi kwambiri kuposa mbale kapena mlongo.
Amasunga malire abwino
1 Akorinto 13:4: “Chikondi n’choleza mtima, n’chokoma mtima. Osasirira ... (NIV)
Ngati mukuona kuti ubwenzi wanu ukuphwanyidwa, pali chinachake cholakwika. Momwemonso, ngati mukumva kugwiritsidwa ntchito kapena kuzunzidwa, pali cholakwika. Kuzindikira zomwe zili zabwino kwa wina ndikumupatsa malo ndizizindikiro za ubale wabwino. Tisalole kuti mnzathu alowe pakati pathu ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi wathu. Bwenzi lenileni lachikristu lidzapeŵa kuloŵerera mwanzeru ndi kuzindikira kufunika kwanu kusunga maunansi ena.
Zimapereka kusinthana
Miyambo 27: 6: Mabala a bwenzi amakhala odalirika ... (NIV)
Mabwenzi enieni achikristu adzalimbikitsana m’maganizo, mwauzimu, ndi mwakuthupi. Anzanu amakonda kukhalira limodzi chifukwa amamva bwino. Timalandira mphamvu, chilimbikitso ndi chikondi. Timalankhula, kulira, kumvetsera. Koma nthawi zina timafunikanso kunena zinthu zovuta zimene mnzathu wapamtima ayenera kumva. Chifukwa cha chikhulupiriro chogawana ndi kuvomereza, ndife munthu yekhayo amene tingakhudze mtima wa bwenzi lathu, pamene timadziwa kufalitsa uthenga wovuta ndi choonadi ndi chisomo. Ndikhulupirira kuti izi zikutanthauza Miyambo 27:17 pamene amati, “Monga chitsulo chinola chitsulo, momwemonso munthu anola mnzake.
Pamene tapenda mikhalidwe imeneyi ya mabwenzi a Mulungu, mwachionekere tazindikira mbali zina zofunika kuchitapo kanthu kuti tikhale olimba mtima. Koma ngati mulibe anzanu apamtima ambiri, musamadzivutitse. Kumbukirani kuti mabwenzi enieni achikristu ndi chuma chosowa. Zimatenga nthawi kukulitsa, koma m’kupita kwa nthaŵi, timakhala Akristu.