Mphatso ya kukhulupirika: tanthauzo la kukhala oona mtima

Kukukulira mokulira m'dziko lamasiku ano kudalira china chake kapena munthu, pazifukwa zomveka. Pali zochepa zomwe zimakhala zokhazikika, zotetezeka kuti uzidalira, zodalirika. Tikukhala m'dziko lomwe zonse zikuchitika, pomwe paliponse pomwe timaona kukayikira, malingaliro osiyidwa, zikhulupiriro zochepetsedwa, anthu omwe amachokera komwe kale anali, zidziwitso zotsutsana ndi kusakhulupirika komanso mabodza omwe amawoneka kuti ndiovomerezeka pamakhalidwe ndi chikhalidwe. Pali chidaliro chambiri m'dziko lathu.

Kodi izi zimatitcha chiyani? Tidayitanidwa kuzinthu zambiri, koma mwina palibe chofunikira kuposa kukhulupirika: kukhala oona mtima ndi kupirira mu zomwe tili ndi zomwe tikuyimira.

Nachi fanizo. M'modzi mwa amisili athu a Oblate agawana nkhaniyi. Anatumidwa monga m'busa ku gulu laling'ono lakhazikika kumpoto kwa Canada. Anthu anali okoma mtima kwa iye, koma sizinatengere nthawi kuti azindikire chilichonse. Nthawi zonse akapangana ndi munthu, munthu ameneyo sankafuna.

Poyamba, adati izi ndi zoyankhulirana zoyipa, koma pamapeto pake adazindikira kuti chithunzicho chinali chofanana kwambiri mwangozi ndipo adapita kwa mkulu wam'deralo kuti amulangize.

"Nthawi zonse ndikapangana ndi munthu," adauza wokalambayo, "sakubwera."

Mkuluyo anamwetulira mosazindikira ndipo anayankha kuti: “Sadzabweranso. Chomaliza chomwe akufuna ndi kukhala ndi mlendo ngati inu mumawongolera miyoyo yawo chifukwa cha iwo! "

Kenako mmishonaleyo anafunsa, "Ndichitenji?"

Mkuluyo anati, “Ayi, osapanga nthawi yocheza. Dziwonetseni nokha ndikulankhula nawo. Adzakukomerani mtima. Chofunika kwambiri ndikuti, izi ndi zomwe muyenera kuchita: khalani pano motalika ndipo adzakukhulupirirani. Afuna kuwona ngati ndinu mmishonale kapena alendo.

“Chifukwa chiyani ayenera kukukhulupirira? Aperekedwa ndi kunamizidwa ndi pafupifupi aliyense amene wabwera kuno. Khalani nthawi yayitali kenako adzakukhulupirirani. "

Kodi kukhala nthawi yayitali kumatanthauza chiyani? Titha kukhala mozungulira koma osalimbikitsa kudalira, monga momwe titha kusamukira kumadera ena ndikukalimbikitsa kukhulupirika. Momwemo, kukhala nthawi yayitali, kukhala wokhulupilika, sizikugwirizana ndi kusasunthika kuchoka pamalo omwe adapatsidwa kuposa kukhala okhulupilika, kukhalabe woona monga tili, Ndikhulupirira kuti timati, zomwe tinalonjeza komanso zomwe talonjeza, komanso zomwe zili zowona kwambiri mwa ife kotero kuti moyo wathu wapadera sukhulupirira pagulu lathu.

Mphatso ya kukhulupirika ndi mphatso ya moyo wokhala mokhulupirika. Kuwona mtima kwathu kwachinsinsi kumadalitsa gulu lonselo, monganso kusakhulupirika kwathu kwapadera kumapweteketsa anthu onse. "Ngati muli pano mokhulupirika," akulemba wolemba Parker Palmer, "bweretsani zabwino kwambiri." M'malo mwake, wolemba ndakatulo waku Persia wa m'zaka za zana la 13 Rumi, "Ngati simuli osakhulupirika pano, mumavulaza kwambiri."

Kufikira pomwe tili okhulupilika kuzikhulupiriro zomwe timadzinenera, kwa banja, abwenzi ndi mdera lomwe tadzipereka, komanso ku zoyeserera zakuya zamkati mwa mtima wathu wamseri, pamlingo umenewo ndife okhulupilika kwa ena komanso mpaka pamlingo wotere " tili nawo kwanthawi yayitali "
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Zotsutsana ndizowonanso: mpaka kuti sitikhala okhulupilika pazikhulupiriro zomwe timati, ku malonjezo omwe tidalonjeza kwa ena komanso ku kukhulupirika kwapamtima m'moyo wathu, ndife osakhulupirika, timachoka kwa ena, pokhala alendo osati amishonalewa.

M'kalata yake yopita kwa Agalatia, St. Paul akutiuza tanthauzo la kukhala pamodzi, kukhala ndi moyo wina ndi mnzake motalikirana kwina ndi zovuta zina pamoyo zomwe zimatisiyanitsa. Tili ndi aliyense, mokhulupirika ngati abale ndi alongo, tikakhala m'machikondi, chisangalalo, mtendere, chipiriro, kukoma mtima, kuleza mtima, kufatsa, chipiriro ndi chiyero. Tikakhala mkati mwa izi, ndiye kuti "tili ndi wina ndi mnzake" ndipo sitichoka, mosatengera kutalikirana kwa malo pakati pathu.

Komanso, tikakhala kunja kwa izi, sitimakhala "wina ndi mnzake", ngakhale patakhala kuti palibe gawo pakati pathu. Nyumbayo, monga olemba ndakatulo amatiuza nthawi zonse, ndi malo mumtima, osati pamapu. Ndipo nyumbayo, monga Paulo Woyera amatiuzira, imakhala mu Mzimu.

Ndikukhulupirira kuti, chomwe chimafotokozera kukhulupirika ndi kupirira, chimasiyanitsa mmishinari wamakhalidwe abwino ndikuwonetsa yemwe akukhalabe ndi amene achoka.

Kuti aliyense wa ife akhalebe wokhulupirika, timafunika wina ndi mnzake. Zimatenga mudzi wopitilira umodzi; zimatitengera tonse. Kukhulupirika kwa munthu kumapangitsa kukhulupirika kwa aliyense kukhala kosavuta, monganso kusakhulupirika kwa munthu kumapangitsa kukhulupirika kwa aliyense kukhala kovuta.

Chifukwa chake, mkati mwa dziko losangalatsali kwambiri komanso losakhalitsa, pamene zikuwoneka kuti aliyense akutalikirana nanu kwamuyaya, mwina mphatso yayikulu kwambiri yomwe titha kudzipatsa tokha ndi mphatso ya kukhulupirika kwathu, kukhala motalikitsa.