Ukwati malinga ndi Bayibulo

Ukwati ndichinthu chofunikira kwambiri m'moyo wachikhristu. Mabuku ambiri, magazini ndi upangiri waukwati amathandizidwa pamutu wakuukonzekera banja ndi kuwongolera ukwati. Mu Baibo muli maumboni opitilira 500 opezeka ku mawu oti "ukwati", "wokwatiwa", "Mwamuna" ndi "Mkazi" mu Chipangano Chakale ndi Chatsopano.

Ukwati wachikhristu ndi chisudzulo lero
Malinga ndi kuwerengera komwe kunachitika m'magulu osiyanasiyana a anthu, ukwati womwe ukuyamba masiku ano umatha pafupifupi 41-43% kutha kwa chisudzulo. Kafukufuku wolembedwa ndi a Glenn T. Stanton, director of Global Insight pakutsitsimutsa zikhalidwe ndi mabanja komanso wofufuza wamkulu pamaukwati ndi kugonana pa Focus on the Family, akuwulula kuti akhristu a Evanjeliko omwe amapita ku tchalitchi kusudzulana pamlingo wotsika 35% poyerekeza ndi mabanja omwe sakukhala nawo. Zinthu zofananazo zimapezeka mchitidwe wa Akatolika ndi Apulotesitanti omwe akugwira mizere yakutsogolo. Mosiyana ndi izi, Akhristu mwadzina, omwe nthawi zambiri kapena samapita kutchalitchi, amakhala ndi chisudzulo chachikulu kuposa mabanja omwe sakwatira.

Stanton, yemwenso ndi wolemba buku la Why Marriage Matters: Zifukwa Zokhulupirira Ukwati mu Postmodern Society, akuti: "Kudzipereka pachipembedzo, m'malo mophatikiza chipembedzo chachipembedzo, kumapangitsa kuti mabanja azikhala bwino."

Ngati kudzipereka kwanu pachikhulupiriro chanu chachikhristu kudzapangitsa banja kukhala lolimba, ndiye kuti mwina pali zomwe Baibulo likunena pankhaniyi.

Ukwati udapangidwa kuti ukhale wocheza komanso kukondana
Mbuya Mulungu adati: 'Si bwino kuti munthu akhale yekha. Ndimupangira chithandizo choyenera '... ndipo atagona, adatenga nthiti imodzi ya mwamunayo ndipo adatseka malowo ndi nyama.

Ndipo Yehova Mulungu adapanga mkazi kuchokera ku nthiti yomwe adatenga kuchokera kwa mwamunayo, nabwera naye kwa mwamunayo. Munthuyo anati: “Uyu ndiye pfupa la mafupa anga ndi mnofu wa mnofu wanga; azitchedwa "mkazi", popeza anamutenga ndi mwamuna ". Pachifukwa ichi, mwamuna adzasiya bambo ndi mayi ake, ndikuphatikizana ndi mkazi wake, ndipo adzakhala thupi limodzi. Genesis 2:18, 21-24, NIV)
Apa tikuwona mgwirizano woyamba pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi: ukwati wotsegulira. Kuchokera munkhaniyi mu Genesis titha kunena kuti ukwati ndi lingaliro la Mulungu, lopangidwa komanso loyambitsidwa ndi Mlengi. Timazindikiranso kuti kucheza ndi kukondana ndi kofunika kwambiri pakukonzekera ukwati.

Udindo wa amuna ndi akazi muukwati
Chifukwa mwamuna ndiye mutu wa mkazi wake monga Khristu ndiye mutu wa thupi lake, mpingo; adapereka moyo wake kuti akhale Mpulumutsi wake. Monga momwe mpingo umagonjera Khristu, chomwechonso akazi ayenera kugonjera amuna anu pachilichonse.

Ndipo inu amuna muzikonda akazi anu ndi chikondi chofanana ndi chomwe Khristu adawonetsa ku mpingo. Adasiya moyo wake kuti ayipange kukhala yoyera ndi yoyera, kutsukidwa ndi ubatizo ndi mawu a Mulungu. Adachita izi kuti adzipangitse yekha kukhala mpingo waulemerero wopanda banga, makwinya kapena zofooka zina. M'malo mwake, lidzakhala loyera komanso lopanda banga. Momwemonso, amuna ayenera kukonda akazi awo monga amakondera matupi awo. Chifukwa mwamuna amadzikonda yekha akonda mkazi wake. Palibe amene amadana ndi thupi lawo koma amalisamalira mwachikondi, monganso Kristu amasamalira thupi lake, lomwe ndi mpingo. Ndipo ife ndife thupi lake.
Monga malembo amanenera, "Mwamuna amasiya atate wake ndi amake nadziphatika ndi mkazi wake, ndipo awiriwo ali olumikizana m'modzi." Ichi ndi chinsinsi chachikulu, koma ndikufanizira njira yomwe Khristu ndi mpingo ali amodzi. Aefeso 5: 23-32, NLT)
Chithunzi ichi chaukwati mubuku la Aefeso chimakulitsidwa kukhala chinthu chachikulu kuposa chibwenzi ndi chikondi. Ubale waukwatiwu ukusonyeza ubale womwe ulipo pakati pa Yesu Khristu ndi mpingo. Amuna amayitanidwa kusiya moyo wachikondi chodzimana ndi chitetezo cha akazi. Mukukumbatirana mwachikondi komanso mwacikondi kwa mwamunayo, kodi ndi mkazi uti amene sadzagonjera kumvela kwake?

Amuna ndi akazi ndi osiyanasiyana koma ofanana
Momwemonso, inu akazi muyenera kulandira ulamuliro wa amuna anu, ngakhale iwo amene akukana kulandira uthenga wabwino. Miyoyo yanu yaumulungu ilankhula kwa iwo bwino koposa mawu aliwonse. Adzapambanidwa poyang'ana mawonekedwe anu oyera ndi azaumulungu.
Osadandaula za kukongola kwakunja ... Muyenera kudziwika ndi kukongola komwe kumachokera mkati, kukongola kosasimbika kwa mzimu wofatsa komanso wamtendere, womwe ndi wamtengo wapatali kwa Mulungu ... Momwemonso, inu amuna muyenera kulemekeza akazi anu. Chitani izi pomvetsetsa momwe mukukhalira limodzi. Amatha kukhala wofooka kuposa inu, koma ndiwothandizana naye mu mphatso ya Mulungu ya moyo watsopano. Ngati simumamuchitira zomwe muyenera kuchita, mapemphero anu sangamvedwe. (1 Petro 3: 1-5, 7, NLT)
Owerenga ena aponya pomwe pano. Kuuza amuna kuti akhale ndiudindo muukwati ndi akazi kuti apereke si malangizo ambiri masiku ano. Ngakhale zili choncho, makonzedwe awa muukwati amadziwika ndi ubale wa Yesu Khristu ndi mkwatibwi wake, mpingo.

Vesi ili mu 1 Petro limawonjezera chilimbikitso kwa akazi kuti azigonjera amuna awo, ngakhale iwo amene sadziwa Khristu. Ngakhale izi ndizovuta, lembalo limalonjeza kuti umulungu wa mkazi ndi kukongola kwamkati zitha kupambana mwamunayo kuposa mawu ake. Amuna ayenera kulemekeza akazi awo, kukhala okoma mtima, okoma mtima ndi omvetsetsa.

Ngati sitisamala, titha kuphonya kuti Baibulo likuti amuna ndi akazi ndi ofanana pa mphatso ya Mulungu ya moyo watsopano. Ngakhale mwamunayo ali ndi udindo komanso ulamuliro ndipo mkazi amachita gawo logonjera, onse ndi olowa m'malo mu ufumu wa Mulungu. Maudindo awo ndiosiyana koma ofanana.

Cholinga chaukwati ndikukula limodzi mu chiyero
1 Akorinto 7: 1-2

... Ndi bwino kuti mwamuna asakwatire. Koma popeza pali zachiwerewere zochuluka kwambiri, mwamuna aliyense azikhala ndi mkazi wake ndi mkazi aliyense mwamuna wake. (NIV)
Vesili likuti ndi bwino osakwatirana. Omwe ali m'mabanja ovuta angavomereze posachedwa. M'mbiri yonse, anthu akhala akukhulupirira kuti kudzipereka mwakuya ku uzimu kumatheka chifukwa chokhala moyo wosakwatira.

Vesili likunena za chiwerewere. Mwanjira ina, ndikwabwino kukwatira kuposa kuchita chiwerewere. Koma ngati titakulitsa tanthauzo lophatikizira mitundu yonse ya chisembwere, titha kuphatikiza kudzikonda, umbombo, kufuna kuwongolera, chidani ndi mavuto onse omwe amatuluka tikalowa mu ubale wapamtima.

Kodi ndizotheka kuti chimodzi mwazinthu zakuya kwambiri muukwati (kuwonjezera pa kubereka, chikondi ndi ubwenzi) ndi kutikakamiza kuti tithane ndi zofooka zathu? Ganizirani zamakhalidwe ndi malingaliro omwe sitinawaone kapena kuwonapo kunja kwa ubale wapamtima. Ngati timalola mavuto aukwati kuti atikakamize kulimbana ndi mavuto athu, timakhala olimba mwauzimu.

M'bukhu lake, The Sacred Marriage, Gary Thomas amafunsa funso ili: "Kodi bwanji ngati Mulungu akadalinganiza ukwati kutipanga ife oyera kuposa kutipangitsa kukhala osangalala?" Kodi ndizotheka kuti pali china chakuzama mu mtima wa Mulungu kuposa kungatipangitse chisangalalo?

Mosakayikira, ukwati wabwino ungakhale gwero la chisangalalo chachikulu ndi chikhutiro, koma Tomasi akuwonetsa chinthu chabwino koposa, china chamuyaya - kuti ukwati ndi chida cha Mulungu chotipangitsa kufanana ndi Yesu Kristu.

Mu chikonzero cha Mulungu, tayitanidwa kuti tikhazikitse zikhumbo zathu zakukonda ndi kutumikira mnzathu. Kudzera muukwati timaphunzira chikondi, ulemu, ulemu ndi momwe kukhululuka kukhululukidwira. Timazindikira zolakwa zathu ndikukula kuchokera m'masomphenyawo. Timakulitsa mtima wa wantchito ndipo timayandikira kwa Mulungu. Zotsatira zake, timapeza chisangalalo chenicheni cha mzimu.