Lolani St. Francis akhale mtsogoleri wanu wamtendere

Tikhale chida chamtendere tili makolo.

Mwana wanga wamkazi wazaka 15 posachedwa adayamba kundifunsa kuti tsiku langa logwira ntchito linali lotani. Tsiku loyamba kufunsa, ndinachita chibwibwi poyankha kuti, “Um. Wokongola. Ine ndakhala ndi misonkhano. "Momwe amafunsira sabata iliyonse, ndidayamba kumuyankha mozama, ndikumuuza za ntchito yosangalatsa, vuto kapena mnzake woseketsa. Ndikulankhula, ndidapezeka kuti ndimamuyang'ana kuti ndione ngati nayenso ali ndi chidwi ndi nkhani yanga. Zinali, ndipo ndinamva kusakhulupirira.

Kupitilira kukula kapena kupeza laisensi yoyendetsa galimoto, ndi kuthekera kwa mwana kuyang'ana kholo ngati munthu ndi malingaliro awo, maloto ndi zovuta zawo zomwe ndizizindikiro zakukula ndi kukhwima. Kutha kuzindikira kholo ngati munthu wopitilira udindo wa amayi kapena abambo sikukakamizidwa. Zimabwera pang'onopang'ono, ndipo anthu ena sazindikira makolo awo mpaka atakula.

Chimodzi mwazifukwa zomwe kulera ana kumakhala kotopetsa ndi chifukwa cha ubale wopanda chiyembekezo. Timapereka zonse zomwe tili kwa ana athu, ndipo m'masiku athu abwino amalandila mwachisomo mphatso yachikondi chathu. M'masiku athu ovuta kwambiri, amalimbana ndi chikondi ndi chithandizo chomwe timapereka pokana malangizo athu. Komabe, kulera ana moyenera ndikulowa muubwenzi wothandiziranowu. Kuti ana amve kuti ali ndi maziko, okondedwa, komanso okonzeka kupita kudziko lapansi ngati achikulire, makolo ayenera kupereka ndalama zochulukirapo kuposa zomwe amapeza ali akhanda, ubwana komanso unyamata. Ndiwo mtundu wa kulera.

St. Francis waku Assisi sanali kholo, koma pemphero lake limayankhula mwachindunji kwa makolowo.

Ambuye, ndipangeni chida chamtendere wanu:
pomwe pali chidani, ndifesetse chikondi;
pakavulala, pepani;
komwe kukayikira, chikhulupiriro;
pomwe pali chiyembekezo, chiyembekezo;
komwe kuli mdima, kuwala;
ndi komwe kuli chisoni, chisangalalo.
O Mulungu Wopatsa, perekani kuti mwina sindikufuna kwambiri
Kutonthoza mtima wathunthu,
kumvetsetsa monga kumvetsetsa,
kukondedwa monga kukonda.
Chifukwa zimapereka zomwe timalandira,
Tikhululukidwa machimo athu,
ndipo ndikufa kuti tidabadwa m'moyo wamuyaya.

Luciana, yemwe mwana wake wamkazi wachinyamata wapezedwa posachedwa kuti ali ndi anorexia, akufanana ndi mawu awa: Ndipatseni mwayi kuti sindingayesere molimba kuti anthu amumvetse. “Ndinaphunzira mphamvu zoyesera kumvetsetsa ndikupatsa chiyembekezo kwa mwana wanga wamkazi yemwe ali ndi vuto lakudya. Ananenapo kangapo kuti ngati sindikukhulupirira kuti apitilira, amataya chiyembekezo. Amangondifunsa kuti ndimuuze kuti akhoza kutero. Ndikawoneka kuti sindikukhulupirira, sangakhulupirire ”akutero a Luciana. “Ndi nthawi yabwino kwambiri yakulera yomwe ndakhala nayo. Kudzera mukumenya nkhondo kwa mwana wanga wamkazi, ndaphunzira kuti tiyenera kunena mokweza chikhulupiriro chathu mwa ana athu akakumana ndi mavuto. "

Ngakhale St. Francis sanatchule mawu oti "kusintha" mu pemphero lake, ngati makolo akufuna kuwonetsa kumvetsetsa kapena kutonthoza nthawi zambiri zomwe timasankha kuti zisanene zitha kukhala zofunika kwambiri kuposa china chilichonse. "Ndikuwona kuti ndapewa mikangano yosafunikira komanso kumvetsetsa bwino mwa kupatsa ana anga mpata woti akhale omwe akufuna kuti akhalepo pakadali pano," akutero a Bridget, amayi a achinyamata anayi ndi achikulire. "Ana amafunikira malo oti azifufuza izi ndikuyesa malingaliro awo. Ndimaona kuti ndikofunikira kufunsa mafunso m'malo mongodzudzula komanso kuyankha. Ndikofunikira kuzichita ndimawu achidwi, osati chiweruzo ”.

Brigid akuti ngakhale atafunsa mafunso modekha, mtima wake ukhoza kugunda mwachangu ndikuopa zomwe mwana wake akuganiza kuchita: kuchokapo, kudzitema mphini, kusiya tchalitchi. Koma ngakhale akuda nkhawa ndi izi, samafotokozera nkhawa zake - ndipo zamupindulitsa. "Ngati sindikuchita izi kwa ine, koma kwa iwo, itha kukhala nthawi yabwino kusangalala ndi chisangalalo chophunzira za munthu amene akusinthayu," akutero.

Kwa a Jeannie, gawo limodzi lobweretsa kukhululukidwa, chikhulupiriro, chiyembekezo, kuwala ndi chisangalalo chomwe St. Francis amalankhula ndi mwana wake wamwamuna, yemwe anali woyamba kumene kusukulu yasekondale, zimaphatikizapo kubwerera mmbuyo momwe anthu amamufunsira kuti amuweruze. mwana wamwamuna. Amadzipeza tsiku lililonse akupemphera kuti Mulungu amukumbutse kuti ayang'ane mwana wawo wamwamuna mozindikira. Iye anati: “Ana athu sachita zambiri poyerekeza ndi mayeso, mayeso komanso mfundo zomaliza za masewera a basketball. "Ndikosavuta kugwa pansi poyesa ana athu mwa izi. Ana athu ali ochulukirapo “.

Pemphero la a St. Francis, logwiritsidwa ntchito polera ana, limafuna kuti tizipezekapo kwa ana athu m'njira yomwe ingakhale yovuta maimelo ndi nsalu zikaunjikana ndipo galimoto ikasowa mafuta. Koma kuti tibweretse chiyembekezo kwa mwana yemwe wataya mtima chifukwa chakumenyana ndi mnzake, tifunika kupezeka ndi mwanayo mokwanira kuti tiwone zomwe zingakhale zolakwika. Francis Woyera akutiuza kuti tiyang'ane kuchokera pafoni yathu, kuti tisiye kugwira ntchito ndikuwona ana athu momveka bwino omwe amalola yankho lolondola.

Jenny, mayi wa ana atatu, anati ndi matenda akulu a mayi wachichepere yemwe amamudziwa yemwe adasintha malingaliro ake. "Ndewu zonse, zovuta komanso imfa yomaliza ya Molly zidandipangitsa kulingalira za mwayi wanga wokhala ndi tsiku limodzi ndi ana anga, ngakhale masiku ovuta. Iye analemba mowolowa manja zaulendo wake ndikuwathandiza abale ndi abwenzi kudziwa zovuta zake zatsiku ndi tsiku. Ndimayamikira kwambiri zimenezi, ”akutero Jenny. "Mawu ake adandipangitsa kulingalira kwambiri zakumwera kwakanthawi ndikuthokoza nthawi yomwe ndimakhala ndi ana anga, ndipo izi zandibweretsera kuleza mtima komanso kumvetsetsa pakulera kwanga. Ndimamva kusintha ndikusintha momwe ndimayanjanirana nawo. Nkhani ina ndisanagone, kuyitananso thandizo, chinthu china kuti ndisonyeze. . . . Tsopano ndimatha kupuma mosavuta, ndikukhala pano,

Kulumikizana kwa Jenny ndi pemphero la Saint Francis kudakulirakulira ndikumwalira kwaposachedwa kwa abambo ake, omwe adapanga pemphero la Saint Francis ndi njira yakulera yomwe idakhazikitsidwa pomvetsetsa ndikuthandizira mkazi wake ndi ana atatu. "Khadi la pemphero la abambo anga pamaliro awo lidaphatikizapo pemphero la St. Francis," akutero. “Pambuyo pa malirowo, ndidayika khadi lopempherera pagalasi langa ngati chikumbutso cha tsiku ndi tsiku cha chikondi chake komanso kapangidwe kake kakulera komanso momwe ndimafunira kutengera zikhalidwezi. Ndidaperekanso khadi lopempherera mchipinda chilichonse cha ana anga ngati chokumbutsa tsiku lililonse kwa iwo za kuwakonda kwanga nawonso "