Zinthu zitatu zofunika kuchita polera mwana ali ndi chikhulupiriro

Sichoncho, koma chifukwa cha zokhumudwitsa m'moyo zomwe tiyenera kulimbikitsa malingaliro auzimu a ana.

Mnzangayo waposachedwa watumiza ku gulu la Facebook la amayi omwe anali ndi nkhawa za mwana wawo wamwamuna akuwonetsa kuti amakonda Mulungu ndi mtima wonse, kuyankha komwe kumamupangitsa kuti avutike. "Ndikulakalaka ndikadangosangalala ndikusakhala ndi chisoni chodabwitsachi," adatero.

Ndinaganizira nthabwala mwachidule: "Izi ndizabwino kwambiri kwa inu." Mzanga, popeza ndimamudziwa, walimbana ndi njira yolankhulira ndi ana ake nkhani za chikhulupiriro. Sindikumutcha kuti cynic, chifukwa ndi kuzindikira kwawo momwe dziko lingakhalire labwino komanso lomwe liyenera kukhala lomwe limapangitsa kuzindikira kodetsa nkhawa.

Mzanga sakhala yekha. Chisoni chomwe makolo amakhala nacho chifukwa cha zomwe ana awo akwanitsa kuchita, kuzindikira kwawo konse zomwe zimawakhumudwitsa, zolakwika komanso zachiwawa. Mofulumira, ena analowererapo, pafupifupi akugwedeza mitu yawo mogwirizana. Pamene malingaliro auzimu auzimu a ana awo akukulira, nkhawa za makolo awo ndi chisoni chawo pazokhumudwitsa zomwe dziko likadawatengera zinali kuchepa.

"Komabe, ndimakonda mwana wanga akamakulitsa zauzimu chifukwa zimamupatsa khampasi yamakhalidwe abwino ndipo, ndikhulupirira, zimamupangitsa kumva kukhala wotetezeka komanso wokondedwa," akutero a Claire, mayi wa ana awiri. "Komabe, sindingachitire mwina koma kudandaula kuti ndimalankhula naye bwanji atandifunsa mafunso ovuta okhudza momwe ndimaonera mpingo, zomwe sizikugwirizana kwenikweni."

Sindine wangwiro. Mwana wanga wamwamuna ali ndi zaka 5 zokha. Koma kudzera mu pemphero langa komanso zochita zanga zauzimu, ndayamba kugwiritsa ntchito njira zitatu zolimbirana kulera mwana ndi chikhulupiriro.

M'badwo wa kusalakwa?
Sindimayesetsa kutchinjiriza mwana wanga wamwamuna. Izi zitha kuwoneka ngati zosayenerana kwa makolo ena, koma muzochita zanga kuchitapo chilichonse kuti ndichiteteze ku zoopsa zadziko lapansi zimangokulitsa nkhawa zanga, ndi zake. Kupatula apo, ana athu amachita masewera owombelera omwe amagwira ntchito m'masukulu oyambira. Afuna kudziwa chifukwa chake. Koma amafunanso zitsimikiziro zathu kuti tichita zonse zomwe tingathe kuti titeteze.

Chimodzimodzinso, makolo oyera azaka zapakati za mwana wamwamuna wachizungu (AKA banja langa) akapewa zokambirana zokhudzana ndi kugonana komanso kusankhana mitundu, timazichita mwazinthu ziwiri zopanda chilungamo zomwe dziko lathu limavutika, timachita motero mwa mwayi. Izi zidanenedwa m'mabanja mwanga posachedwa ndimaphunziro asanu ndi awiri omwe amuna anga adayamba kuuza ana za tsankho. Maphunzirowa, omwe akhazikitsidwa ndi tchalitchi chapafupi, adatsogolera makolo oyera kudzera mu zenizeni za momwe timakhalira ndi ana athu mosadziwa tikamaganiza kuti zomwe zili zofunikira kwa ife - kuti apolisi amapezeka nthawi zonse kudzathandiza dera lathu, Mwachitsanzo - sizachilendo kwa madera akuda.

Inde, ndili ndi njira yoyenera zaka zocheza ndi mwana wanga wamwamuna. Komanso ndikuganiza kuti titha kukankhira malire pang'ono pazomwe timaganiza kuti "ndizoyenera zaka" ndikupatsa ana, ngakhale ana aang'ono, phindu loposa kukaikira.

Lyz akuti amayesetsa kukhala achangu kwambiri ndi ana ake awiri, onse aamuna osakwana 10. "Aang'ono kwambiri, kotero kuyankhulana kumachitika, koma ndimakonda mafunso awa ndikuphunzira, ngakhale atanditsutsa," akutero.

Una storia achite bwino
Chimodzi mwazifukwa zomwe ine ndi mwamuna wanga tinaganiza zoti tizibatiza mwana wathu chifukwa chakuti mbiri yachikhristu sinali nkhani yokhayo yomwe tinakulira, komanso imodzi yomwe timakhulupirira kuti ndi yoyera komanso yodzaza choonadi. Zimatikumbutsa kuti, inde, dziko likhoza kukhala loipa ndikuchita zinthu zoyipa, koma zinthu zoyipazi zilibe mawu omaliza.

Mnzanga Lila, yemwe alibe ana, ndi Wachiyuda koma adaleredwa ndi makolo omwe amaganiza kuti amvetsetsa zomwe amakhulupirira. Modabwitsa, sanafune kumukakamiza. Amakhulupilira kuti ndikofunikira kuti iye amupeze mayankho posankha zomwe akufuna kuchita. Vutoli, Lila adandiuza, ndikuti anali wopanda chochita naye. Pokumana ndi tsokalo, analibe maphunziro achipembedzo omwe angadalire. Analibe chilichonse choti angakane, zomwe zikanamupangitsa kuti apite kwinakwake pomwe amafufuza mayankho.

"Ndifuna kuti ana anga apeze mayankho awo," anatero Lyz. “Ndipo ndikufuna kuti adzafike okha. Koma ndizovuta akakhala ocheperako ndipo chilichonse chimakhala chakuda ndi choyera kwa iwo, koma chikhulupiriro ndichimdima. Ndiye chifukwa chake amabweretsa ana ake kutchalitchi ndipo amayankha mafunso awo momasuka komanso moona mtima.

Zilekeni zikhale
Nthawi inayake makolo onse, ngakhale akulera ana pachikhalidwe chachipembedzo, ayenera kusiya. Timayamba kudzipanga tokha kuyambira pomwe ali makanda, kulola ana athu kukhala ndi ufulu wosankha zochita pa moyo wawo. Mnyamata wazaka 6 amasankha ndikutsegula zoseweretsa zake akaweruka kusukulu. Wachinyamata wazaka khumi ndi zitatu amasankha nsapato zomwe akufuna kugula tsiku loyamba la sukulu. Wachinyamata wazaka khumi ndi zisanu ndi ziwiri amadzitsogolera mu mpira.

Kusintha njira yofananira yakukhazikitsidwa kwa ana mu uzimu momwemonso kumathandizira makolo kusiya ndi kukhulupilira ana awo. Koma monga sindikuyembekezera kuti mwana wanga wamwamuna atsegule chikwama cha zopanga za Goldfish popanda ine kumusonyeza, sindingathe kuyembekeza kuti apemphera.

"Ndakhala ndikulimbana kwambiri ndi chikhulupiriro ndipo nthawi zambiri ndimakhala ndi nsanje ndi abwenzi komanso abale omwe anali ndi zikhulupiriro zosavuta," akutero Cynthia, yemwe chikhulupiriro cha mwana wake chimafanana ndi nkhani yamabuku, yomwe ili yodzaza ndi anthu wamba, "anyamata abwino" komanso akuluakulu . "Ndikukana kwathunthu kumvetsetsa kwa Mulungu. Akuti amawopa kuti mwana wake akamakula njira yachipembedzoyi imamupangitsa kuti akhumudwe, kapena kuti zoipa kwambiri, zimupweteketsa.

Monga makolo, ntchito yathu ndikuteteza ana athu osati ku thupi lokha komanso kuwonongeka pamalingaliro ndi mwauzimu. Ichi ndichifukwa chake kufunika kosiya kupita kumakhala kovuta kwambiri. Timakumbukira mabala athu ndipo tikufuna kuti mabala omwewo asagwere ana athu amuna ndi akazi okondedwa.

Mnzanu yemweyo yemwe adalemba pa Facebook, nditamufunsa kuti andiuze zambiri za nkhawa zake, adawonetsa kuti izi ndizomwe zimamupangitsa kuti azunzikira mwana wawo wamwamuna. Kukumbukira kwake za kuwawa kwa uzimu komwe kumakulitsa nkhawa. Komabe, adati kwa ine, "Ndikumbukira kuti ulendo wanu wachikhulupiliro ndi wanga sudzakhala womwewo. Chifukwa chake ndikulakalaka nditha kusiya kuda nkhawa ndikangofika kumeneko