Dokotala "patachitika ngozi ndidawona mzimu wa mkazi wanga wakufa"

Dotolo yemwe amagwira ntchito zaka 25 kuchipatala chadzidzidzi adauza ophunzira zina mwazomwe adakumana nazo mundawo - kuphatikizapo msonkhano womwe adawona mzimu kapena chithunzi cha womwalirayo womwalira wangozi yemwe akuwoneka kumayandama pamutu pa iye mchipinda chogwiriramo.

Yunivesite ya Pacific Northwest idachita msonkhano wachitatu Lachitatu ndi Jeff O'Driscoll, yemwe anali dokotala wakale, omwe adalankhula ndi ophunzira za momwe angathanirane ndi odwala omwe akumana ndi zokumana nazo pafupi. O'Driscoll akuti tsiku lililonse limakhala losiyana kwa odwala mwadzidzidzi: mphindi imodzi mutha kuthana ndi mwana yemwe ali ndi mphuno ndipo mphindi ina mutha kukhala ndi bambo wokhala ndi bala lowombera mfuti.

"Nthawi ina, mwachitsanzo, bambo wina wachinyamata adabwera ndi chilonda cha mfuti pachifuwa pake, ndipo tidatsegula pachifuwa chake ndikuchita opareshoni ya mtima - zomwe zimachitikanso monga zachilendo monga dokotala wadzidzidzi," anatero O'Driscoll. Koma O'Driscoll akuti milandu yodabwitsa kwambiri yomwe adakumana nayo inali ya omwe odwala adakumana nawo atatsala pang'ono kufa. Anatinso muzochitika izi odwala ambiri amakumana ndi zinthu zauzimu monga kumverera kuti ali kunja kwa matupi awo kapena amalankhula ndi okondedwa awo omwe anamwalira kapena mizimu yaumulungu. O'Driscoll akuti m'mene amathandizira bambo yemwe adachita ngozi yomwe galimoto yake idawonongeka pomwe mkazi wake ndi mwana wake wamwalira pomwepo, O'Driscoll yekha adakumana ndi zauzimu ndipo adawona mkazi wa mwamunayo ali muzovuta .

"Ndili kuchipinda chodzidzimutsa, ndinalowa m'chipinda cha ovulala ndipo mkazi wake, yemwe anali atamwalira, anali ataimirira pamwamba pake mlengalenga, akumamuyang'ana iye ndikuwona chisamaliro chomwe amalandila," atero O'Driscoll . Tsopano O'Driscoll asiya ntchito yake yothana ndi odwala omwe akhudzidwa mwadzidzidzi ndipo amayendayenda kuzungulira mzindawo kuyankhula za zauzimu zomwe adakumana nazo.

O'Driscoll akuti samayembekezera kuti ophunzira azachipatala azikhulupirira zauzimu zomwe amakumana nazo kapena zomwe zimamuphatikiza ndi chinthu chachipembedzo, koma m'malo mwake konzekerani kokha chifukwa chitha kuthana ndi odwala monga amenewo panthawi ya ntchito yawo . Anatinso kuti ngati pali zomwe waphunzira mu chithandizo chamankhwala zadzidzidzi m'gawo lino la zaka zana ndikuthokoza moyo ndikukhala othokoza tsiku lililonse. "Mumazindikira anthu omwe mumawakonda komanso momwe kusintha kwamwadzidzidzi komanso mwachangu kungabwerere m'moyo wamunthu," adatero O'Driscoll.