Buku lowongolera pazomwe Baibo imakamba pankhani yothetsa banja

Da Paolo Tessione - Julayi 29, 2020

Kutha kwa banja ndi imfa yaukwati ndipo kumabweretsa kuwonongeka ndi zowawa zonse. Baibulo limagwiritsa ntchito chilankhulo champhamvu pakusudzulana; Malaki 2:16 amati:

"" Mwamuna yemwe amadana ndi kusudzula mkazi wake, "akutero Wamuyaya, Mulungu wa Israeli," amachita nkhanza kwa iye amene akuyenera kumuteteza, "akutero Wamphamvuyonse Wamphamvuyonse. Chifukwa chake samalani, musakhale osakhulupirika. "(NIV)
“'Mwamuna amene sakonda mkazi wake koma am'sudzula,' + watero Yehova, Mulungu wa Isiraeli, waphimba chovala chake ndi chiwawa, '+ watero Yehova wa makamu. Chifukwa chake dzitetezeni mu mzimu wanu ndipo musakhale opanda chikhulupiriro. "" (ESV)
“'Ngati amada ndi kumusiya [mkazi wake],' watero Yehova Mulungu wa Israeli, 'Iye amabisa zovala zake ndi chosalungama,' watero Yehova wa makamu. Chifukwa chake, yang'anirani mosamala ndipo musachite zachinyengo. "(CSB)
“'Ine ndimadana ndi kusudzulana,' watero AMBUYE, Mulungu wa Israeli,“ ndi amene abisa malaya ake ndi mphulupulu, ”watero Yehova wa makamu. 'Chifukwa chake samvera mzimu wako, womwe sukumana ndi chiwembu.' "(NASB)
"Pakuti AMBUYE Mulungu wa Israeli akuti," Amada kudana naye: pakuti munthu amaphimba chiwawa ndi chovala chake, ati Yehova wa makamu; chifukwa chake samalani ndi mzimu wanu, kuti mungachite monyenga " . (KJV)
Mwina tikudziwa bwino kumasulira kwa NASB ndipo tamva mawu oti "Mulungu amadana ndi kusudzulana". Chilankhulo champhamvu chimagwiritsidwa ntchito pa Malaki posonyeza kuti pangano laukwati siliyenera kutengedwa mopepuka. Kafukufuku wamabuku a NIV akuwunikiranso za Baibo ndi mawu oti "Munthu amene amadana naye"

"Mawuwa ndi ovuta ndipo amatha kumveka ponena za Mulungu ngati amene amadana ndi kusudzulana (mwachitsanzo," Ndimadana ndi kusudzulana "m'matembenuzidwe ena monga NRSV kapena NASB), kapena ponena za mwamuna amene amadana ndi kusudzula mkazi wake . Mosasamala kanthu, Mulungu amadana ndi pangano losweka (cf. 1: 3; Hos 9:15). "

Zolembazo zikupitilirabe ndikugogomezera kuti kusudzulana ndi mtundu wa umbanda chifukwa umaphwanya mgwirizano wam'banja ndipo umachotsa chitetezo kwa mayi yemwe adamulola mwalamulo kukwatiwa. Kusudzulana sikuti kumangowasiyitsa anthu ovutawo pamavuto, komanso kumabweretsa mavuto kwa onse omwe akutengapo gawo, kuphatikiza ana m'banjamo.

The ESV Study Bible ivomereza kuti iyi ndi imodzi mwamagawo ovuta kwambiri a Chipangano Chakale kuti amasulire. Pachifukwa ichi ESV ili ndi mawu am'munsi pa vesi 16 yomwe imati "1 Mhebri yemwe amadana ndi kusudzula 2 Mwina amatanthauza (yerekezerani Septuagint ndi Deuteronomo 24: 1-4); kapena "Ambuye, Mulungu wa Israeli, akuti amadana ndi kusudzulana ndi amene amabisala." “Kumasulira uku komwe Mulungu amadana nako kusudzulana kumayikira ndemanga pa chidani cha Mulungu pa mchitidwe wosudzulana ndi chidani cha munthu amene akuthetsa banja. Mulimonse momwe vesili lamasulidwira (kudana ndi Mulungu kwa chizolowezi kapena kudana ndi munthu amene wasudzulayo), Mulungu amatsutsa chisudzulo chotere (amuna osakhulupirika akutumiza akazi awo ) ku Mal. 2: 13-15. Ndipo Malaki akuwonekeratu kuti ukwati ulidi pangano lochokera mu nkhani yolenga. Ukwati umatanthauza kulumbira pamaso pa Mulungu, choncho ukasweka, umasweka pamaso pa Mulungu.Baibulo limanenanso za chisudzulo pansipa.

Kodi Baibo imakamba za chisudzulo?
Chipangano Chakale:
Kuphatikiza pa Malaki, nayi ndime zina ziwiri.

Ekisodo 21: 10-11,
“Akakwatira mkazi wina, sayenera kulanda woyamba uja chakudya, zovala ndi ufulu wakukwatiwa. Ngati sangakupatseni zinthu zitatu izi, ayenera kudzimasula, popanda kulipira ndalama zilizonse. "

Deuteronomo 24: 1-5,
"Mwamuna akakwatira mkazi amene wamukwiyira chifukwa wapeza kanthu kena konyansa pa iye, ndikumulembera kalata yothetsera banja, amamupatsa ndikumutumiza kunyumba kwake, ndipo akachoka panyumbapo amakhala mkazi wa mwamuna wina, ndipo mwamuna wake wachiwiri samamukonda ndikumulembera kalata yothetsera banja, kumupatsa ndikumutumiza kuchokera kunyumba kwake, kapena ngati amwalira, ndiye kuti mwamuna wake woyamba, yemwe adamusudzula, saloledwa kumukwatira chatsopano chitaipitsidwa. Zingakhale zonyansa pamaso pa Wamuyaya. Usatengere tchimo, limene Yehova Mulungu wako akukupatsa, monga cholowa padziko lapansi. Ngati mwamuna wangokwatira kumene, sayenera kutumizidwa kunkhondo kapena kugwira ntchito zina. Kwa chaka chimodzi adzakhala omasuka kukhala panyumba ndikubweretsa chisangalalo kwa mkazi wake. "

Chipangano Chatsopano:
kuchokera kwa Yesu

Mateyu 5: 31-32,
“'Ena amati,' Aliyense wosiya mkazi wake ayenera kumupatsa kalata ya chisudzulo. 'Koma Ine ndikukuuzani, Aliyense wosudzula mkazi wake, kupatulapo chiwerewere, am'chititsa chigololo; ndipo amene akwatira mkazi wosiyidwayo achita chigololo. ""

Opaque. 19: 1-12,
“Yesu atatsiriza kunena zimenezi, anachoka ku Galileya ndi kupita kudera la Yudeya kutsidya lina la Yorodano. Khamu lalikulu lidamtsata Iye, nawachiritsa komweko. Afarisi anango adadza kuna iye kuti am'yese. Adafunsa, "Kodi ndizololedwa kuti munthu asudzule mkazi wake pazifukwa zilizonse?" "Simunawerenge," adayankha, "pachiyambi Mlengi" adawapanga iwo mwamuna ndi mkazi, "nati," Pa chifukwa ichi mwamuna adzasiya atate wake ndi amake nadziphatika kwa mkazi wake, ndipo awiriwo adzakhala thupi limodzi '? Kotero kuti salinso awiri koma thupi limodzi. Chifukwa chake, chomwe Mulungu wagwirizanitsa, musalekanitse aliyense. ' "Chifukwa chiyani," adafunsa, "bwanji Mose adalamula mwamuna kuti apatse mkazi wake kalata yamsudzulo ndikumuchotsa?" Yesu anayankha kuti: 'Mose anakulolezani kuti musudzule akazi anu chifukwa mitima yanu inali yolimba. Koma sizinali choncho kuyambira pachiyambi. Ine ndikukuwuzani kuti aliyense wosudzula mkazi wake, kupatula chiwerewere, ndi kukwatira wina, achita chigololo. "Ophunzira adati kwa iye:" Ngati zili choncho pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi, ndibwino kuti tisakwatirane. " Yesu anayankha kuti: 'Sikuti aliyense angalandire mawu awa, koma okhawo amene apatsidwa. Chifukwa pali mifule yomwe idabadwa motere, ndipo pali osabala omwe adasankhidwa kukhala mifule ndi ena - ndipo pali omwe amasankha kukhala mifule chifukwa cha ufumu wakumwamba. Iwo omwe angavomereze akuyenera kuvomereza. "" Yesu anayankha, "Sikuti aliyense angalandire mawu awa, koma okhawo amene apatsidwa. Chifukwa pali mifule yomwe idabadwa motere, ndipo pali osabala omwe adasankhidwa kukhala mifule ndi ena - ndipo pali omwe amasankha kukhala mifule chifukwa cha ufumu wakumwamba. Iwo omwe angavomereze akuyenera kuvomereza. "" Yesu anayankha, "Sikuti aliyense angalandire mawu awa, koma okhawo amene apatsidwa. Chifukwa pali mifule yomwe idabadwa motere, ndipo pali osabala omwe adasankhidwa kukhala mifule ndi ena - ndipo pali omwe amasankha kukhala mifule chifukwa cha ufumu wakumwamba. Iwo omwe angavomereze akuyenera kuvomereza. ""

Marko 10: 1-12,
“Pamenepo Yesu anachoka kumeneko ndi kulowa m'dera la Yudeya ndi kuwoloka Yorodano. Apanso khamu la anthu linabwera kwa iye ndipo, monga mwa chizolowezi chake, anawaphunzitsa. Afarisi anango adadza mbamuyesera, mbabvundza, "Kodi ndi pyakutawirika kuti mamuna akhonde nkazi wace?" "Kodi Mose anakulamula chiyani?" Anayankha. Adati, "Mose adalola mamuna kuti alembe kalata yothetsera ukwati ndikumuthamangitsa." Yesu adamuyankha kuti, 'Chifukwa cha kuuma kwa mitima yanu Mose adakulemberani lamuloli.' "Koma pachiyambi cha chilengedwe Mulungu 'adawapanga iwo mwamuna ndi mkazi. "" Pachifukwa ichi mwamuna adzasiya atate wake ndi amake nadziphatika kwa mkazi wake, ndipo awiriwo adzakhala thupi limodzi. " Kotero kuti salinso awiri koma thupi limodzi. Chifukwa chake, chomwe Mulungu wagwirizanitsa, musalekanitse aliyense. ' Pidabwerera iwo panyumba, anyakupfundza abvundza Yezu thangwi ya pyenepi. Iye anayankha kuti, 'Aliyense wosiya mkazi wake nakwatira wina wachita chigololo kulakwira mkaziyo. Ndipo ngati mkazi asudzula mwamuna wake ndi kukwatiwa ndi mwamuna wina, achita chigololo iyeyu. "

Luka 16:18,
"Aliyense wosiya mkazi wake nakwatira wina wachita chigololo, ndipo amene akwatira mkazi wosiyidwayo achita chigololo."

Kuchokera kwa Paul

1 Akorinto 7: 10-11,
“Ndikupereka lamulo ili kwa okwatirana (osati ine, koma Ambuye): Mkazi sayenera kupatukana ndi mwamuna wake. Koma ngati atero, ayenera kukhalabe wosakwatira kapena kuyanjananso ndi mwamuna wake. Ndipo mwamuna sayenera kusudzula mkazi wake. "

1 Akor. 7:39,
“Mkazi amangidwa ndi mwamuna wake wamoyo. Koma ngati mwamunayo amwalira, ali ndi ufulu kukwatiwa ndi aliyense amene angafune, koma akhale wa Ambuye. "

Zomwe Baibo Imanena Zokhudza Kusudzulana

[David] Instone-Brewer [wolemba chisudzulo ndikukwatiranso mu Tchalitchi] akunena kuti Yesu sanangoteteza tanthauzo lenileni la Deuteronomo 24: 1, komanso adavomereza zomwe Chipangano Chakale chimaphunzitsa za chisudzulo. Eksodo anaphunzitsa kuti aliyense anali ndi maufulu atatu m'banja: ufulu wa chakudya, zovala ndi chikondi. (Timawaonanso m'malumbiro achikristu kuti "kondani, lemekezani ndikusunga". Paulo adaphunzitsanso chimodzimodzi: Anthu okwatirana ayenera kukondana (1 Akorinto 7: 3-5) ndi kuthandizana pa chuma (1 Akorinto 7: 33-34). Ngati ufuluwu unkanyalanyazidwa, mnzake wolakwayo anali ndi ufulu wosudzula. Nkhanza, njira yonyalanyaza kwambiri, inalinso zifukwa zosudzulana. Panali kutsutsana pankhani yoti kusiyidwa ndi chifukwa chothetsera banja kapena ayi, chifukwa chake Paulo adayankha. Adalemba kuti okhulupilira sangathe kusiya anzawo ndipo, ngati atero, abwerere (1 Akorinto 7: 10-11). Ngati wina wasiyidwa ndi wosakhulupirira kapena ndi mnzake yemwe samvera lamulo lakubwerera, ndiye kuti womusiyayo "samumangidwanso".

Chipangano Chakale chimalola ndi kutsimikizira Chipangano Chatsopano zifukwa izi zakusudzulana:

Chigololo (mu Duteronome 24: 1,).
Kunyalanyazidwa mwakuthupi komanso mwakuthupi (mu Ekisodo 21: 10-11, cholembedwa ndi Paulo mu 1 Akorinto 7)
Kutayidwa ndi kuzunzidwa (kuphatikizidwa ndi kusasamala, monga akunenera pa 1 Akorinto 7)
Inde, kukhala ndi zifukwa zothetsera banja sikutanthauza kuti muyenera kusudzulana. Mulungu amadana ndi kusudzulana, ndipo pachifukwa chabwino. Zitha kukhala zopweteka kwa aliyense amene akukhudzidwa, ndipo zotsatirapo zake zitha kukhala zaka zambiri. Kusudzulana kuyenera kukhala njira yomaliza nthawi zonse. Koma Mulungu amalola kusudzulana (ndikukwatiranso pambuyo pake) nthawi zina pamene malumbiro aukwati aswedwa.
-Amene Baibo imati chiyani pankhani yothetsa banja »kuchokera pagawo Zomwe Baibo imakamba pankhani yothetsa banja: malangizo kwa abambo a Chris Bolinger pa Crosswalk.com.

Zoonadi zitatu zomwe Mkristu aliyense ayenera kudziwa za chisudzulo

1. Mulungu amadana ndi chisudzulo
O, ndikudziwa kuti umasokonezeka ukamamva! Amaponyedwa pamaso panu ngati chisudzulo ndi tchimo losakhululukidwa. Koma tiyeni tikhale oona mtima: Mulungu amadana ndi kusudzulana… inunso mukudziwa… inenso. Nditayamba kuphunzira za Malaki 2:16, ndidapeza kuti nkhaniyo ndi yosangalatsa. Mukudziwa, nkhani yake ndi ya mkazi wosakhulupirika, yemwe amakhumudwitsa kwambiri mnzakeyo. Ndizokhudza kuchitira nkhanza mnzanu, yemwe tiyenera kumukonda ndi kumuteteza kuposa wina aliyense. Mulungu amadana ndi zochita zomwe nthawi zambiri zimabweretsa chisudzulo monga momwe timadziwira. Popeza tikuponyera zinthu zomwe Mulungu amadana nazo, tiyeni tiwone gawo lina:

Pali zinthu zisanu ndi chimodzi zomwe Mulungu amadana nazo, zisanu ndi ziwiri zomwe zimanyansa kwa iye: Maso odzikweza, lilime lonama, manja okhetsa magazi osalakwa, mtima woganiza njira zoyipa, mapazi omwe amathamangira kukachita zoyipa, mboni yabodza yomwe imabzala mabodza ndi munthu yemwe amayambitsa kusamvana pagululi (Miyambo 6: 16-19).

Ouch! Ndi mbola bwanji! Ndikufuna kunena kuti aliyense amene akuponyerani Malaki 2:16 akuyenera kuti ayime ndikuwona Miyambo 6. Ife, monga akhristu, tiyenera kukumbukira kuti palibe m'modzi wolungama, ngakhale m'modzi (Aroma 3:10). Tiyenera kukumbukira kuti Khristu adafera kudzikuza kwathu ndi mabodza athu monga momwe anafera posudzulana. Ndipo nthawi zambiri ndimachimo a Miyambo 6 omwe amatsogolera ku chisudzulo. Chiyambireni kusudzulana, ndazindikira kuti Mulungu amadana ndi chisudzulo chifukwa chakumva kuwawa komanso kuvutika komwe kumabweretsa kwa ana ake. Ndizochepera pang'ono kwauchimo komanso koposa pamtima wa abambo ake kwa ife.

2. Kukwatiranso… kapena ayi?
Ndikukhulupirira kuti mwamva zifukwa zomwe simungakwatirane ngati simukufuna kuchita chigololo ndikuyika moyo wanu pangozi. Payekha, ndili ndi vuto lenileni ndi izi. Tiyeni tiyambe ndi kumasulira kwa malembo. Sindine Mgiriki kapena wophunzira wachiheberi. Pali okwanira omwe nditha kuwapeza kuti ndiwapezere zaka zawo zamaphunziro ndi zokumana nazo. Komabe, palibe aliyense wa ife amene anali pafupi kuti akhale ndi chidziwitso chokwanira cha zomwe Mulungu amatanthauza pamene anapatsa olemba malemba ouziridwa ndi Mzimu Woyera. Pali akatswiri omwe amati kukwatiranso si njira ina iliyonse. Pali akatswiri omwe amati kukwatiranso ndi njira yokhayo ngati kuchitira chigololo. Ndipo pali akatswiri omwe amati mpumulo nthawi zonse umaloledwa chifukwa cha chisomo cha Mulungu.

Mulimonsemo, kutanthauzira kulikonse ndi chimodzimodzi: kutanthauzira kwaumunthu. Lemba palokha ndi Mawu ouziridwa ndi Mulungu. Tiyenera kusamala kwambiri potenga kumasulira kwaumunthu ndikukakamiza ena, kuti tisakhale monga Afarisi. Pamapeto pake chisankho chanu chokwatiranso ndi pakati pa inu ndi Mulungu ndichisankho chomwe chiyenera kupangidwa mwa pemphero ndikulankhulana ndi alangizi odalirika a m'Baibulo. Ndipo ndi lingaliro lomwe liyenera kupangidwa pokhapokha ngati inu (ndi mnzanu wamtsogolo) mutenga nthawi yayitali kuti muzichiritse mabala anu akale ndikukhala ngati a Khristu momwe mungathere.

Nayi lingaliro lofulumira kwa inu: Mbadwo wa Kristu wolembedwa pa Mateyo 1 umatchula hule (Rahabi, yemwe pambuyo pake anakwatira Salmon), banja lachiwerewere (David, yemwe adakwatira Bathsheba atapha amuna ake), ndi wamasiye (amene wachibale wokwatira-woombola, Boazi). Ndikusangalatsidwa kwambiri kuti pali azimayi atatu omwe akwatiranso motsatira mzere wa Mpulumutsi wathu, Yesu Kristu. Kodi tinganene chisomo?

3. Mulungu ndiye Muomboli wazonse
Kudzera m'malemba, tapatsidwa malonjezo ambiri omwe amatisonyeza kuti pali chiyembekezo nthawi zonse! Aroma 8:28 amatiuza kuti zinthu zonse zimagwirira ntchito limodzi kuti onse amene amakonda Mulungu apindule nawo.Zekariya 9:12 akutiuza kuti Mulungu adzabwezera madalitso awiri pamavuto athu onse. Mu Yohane 11, Yesu akulengeza kuti iye ndiye kuuka ndi moyo; idzakutengani ku imfa ya chisudzulo ndikupatseni moyo watsopano. Ndipo 1 Petro 5:10 imanena kuti kuzunzika sikudzakhala kwamuyaya koma tsiku lina kudzakupangitsani kuti mukhale ogwirizana komanso oyimirira.

Ulendo uwu utayamba kwa ine pafupifupi zaka zisanu ndi chimodzi zapitazo, sindinali wotsimikiza kuti ndakhulupirira malonjezo amenewo. Mulungu anali atandigwetsa ulesi, kapena ndimaganiza choncho. Ndinali nditadzipereka kwa iye ndipo "madalitso" omwe ndinalandira anali mamuna yemwe sanalape za chigololo chake. Ndinali nditamaliza ndi Mulungu koma sanathe ndi ine. Anandithamangitsa mosalekeza ndikundiitanira kuti nditetezeke kwa iye. Anandikumbutsa mokoma mtima kuti akhala nane tsiku lililonse ndipo sadzandisiya tsopano. Anandikumbutsa kuti ali ndi zolinga zazikulu za ine. Ndinali tsoka losweka ndi lokanidwa. Koma Mulungu adandikumbutsa kuti amandikonda, kuti ndine mwana wake wosankhidwa, chuma chake chamtengo wapatali. Anandiuza kuti ine ndine mkamwa mwa maso ake (Masalmo 17: 8). Anandikumbutsa kuti ndine mbambande yake, yopangidwa kuti ndichite ntchito zabwino (Aefeso 2:10). Ndidayitanidwapo kale ndipo sindingayimitsidwe chifukwa mayitanidwe ake sangasinthe (Aroma 11:29).
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Maganizo 7 ngati mukuganizira zakulekana
1. Dalirani Ambuye, musadzidalire. Maubwenzi amatha kupweteka komanso anthu amavutika kuganiza zolondola. Mulungu amadziwa zonse, amawona chilichonse ndipo amagwira ntchito limodzi kuti zinthu zikuyendereni bwino. Khulupirira Mulungu ndi zomwe anena m'Mawu ake.

2. Dziwani kuti yankho ku zovuta sikungosiyana nawo nthawi zonse. Nthawi zina Mulungu amatiitana kuti timutsatire poyenda kapena kutsalira mu mavuto. (Sindikuyankhula za kuzunzidwa, koma mavuto ena ambiri omwe anthu okwatirana amakumana nawo m'dziko logwa.)

3. Yerekezerani kuti Mulungu akwaniritsa cholinga m'masautso anu.

4. Yembekezerani Ambuye. Osachitapo kanthu mwachangu. Tsegulani zitseko. Ingotseka zitseko zokha zomwe mukutsimikiza kuti Mulungu akuti muyenera kutseka.

5. Osangokhulupirira kuti Mulungu asintha mtima wa munthu wina. Dalirani kuti ikhoza kusintha ndikusinthanso mtima wanu.

6. Ganizirani mozama malembo opezeka pa nkhani yaukwati, kupatukana, ndi chisudzulo.

7. Chilichonse chomwe mukuganiza muchitapo, funsani ngati mungathe kuchitapo kanthu ku ulemerero wa Mulungu.

- Malingaliro asanu ndi awiri a chisudzulo 'achotsedwa pamalingaliro 7 ofunikira kwa iwo omwe akuganiza zothetsa banja la Randy Alcorn ku Crosswalk.com

Zinthu zisanu zoyenera kuchita mutatha kusudzulana

1. Kuthetsa kusamvana ndi mtendere
Yesu ndi citsanzo cabwino pankhani yothana ndi mikangano. Anakhala phee akudziwa kuti Mulungu akuwongolera ngakhale adani ake akuwazunza. Adalankhulanso ophunzira ake kuti akudziwa kuti amupereka, koma iye adasiya zotsatirapo za zochita zawo m'manja mwa Mulungu. Simungathe kuwongolera momwe mnzanuyo amakhalira nthawi ya banja kapena itatha, koma mutha kuwongolera momwe mumachitira ndi kuchitira anthu ena. Agwireni ulemu womwe amayenera kukhala kholo la mwana wanu, kapena monga munthu wina, ngakhale atakhala ngati mlendo wochokera kunjaku.

2. Vomerezani zomwe Mulungu wakupatsani
mkati ndimakumbutsidwa za nkhani ya Yesu ndi ophunzira ake m'bwatomo (Mateyo 8: 23-27). Mphepo yamkuntho inayamba kuwazungulira iwo ali m'tulo mwamtendere. Ophunzirawo amawopa kuti izi zingawawononge iwo ndi bwato wawo. Koma Yesu amadziwa yemwe anali kuwongolera. Kenako Yesu anatontholetsa chimphepo ndipo anaonetsa ophunzira ake mphamvu za Mulungu pa zochitika zonse. Ambiri mwa anthu osudzulidwa amachita mantha kwambiri paulendo wosudzulana. Sitikudziwa kuti tidzapulumuka bwanji. Koma pamene tikukumbatira zochitika zosafunikira izi, timazindikira kuti Mulungu anali nafe kudutsa mkuntho komanso kudzera mu zowawa. Sidzachokapo kapena kukugwetsani. Pa nthawi yanga yakulekana, ndinadziwa kuti sizingathetse mkuntho nthawi yomweyo. Icho sichinayime panobe, koma chimagwira ntchito nthawi zonse, ngakhale sindikuziwona. Ndimangofunika ndikukhulupirira malonjezo ake.

3. Gonjetsani kukhala osungulumwa ndi kukoma mtima pamene mukukhala osakwatiwa komanso ochira
Kumva kusungulumwa pambuyo pa chisudzulo ndi vuto lenileni la azimayi ambiri omwe ndimalankhula nawo. Zikuwoneka kuti ndizovuta kwambiri azimayi achikhristu (ndipo ndikutsimikiza abambo nawonso) amakumana pomwe akugwira ntchito yakuchiritsa. Pamene chisudzulo sichinafunidwe koyamba, kusungulumwa kumawoneka ngati zotsatira zowonjezereka za mndandanda womwe ukukula kale. Koma mu Bayibulo timaphunzira kuti umodzi ndi mphatso yochokera kwa Mulungu.Zingakhale zovuta kuti muwone motero mukamamva kuwawa kwambiri komanso kutaya kwambiri. Koma nthawi zambiri pamakhala mayankho ofuna kucheza ndi amene amadziwa kuchiritsa ululu komanso kudzaza zopanda pake.

4. Funsani moyo wanu ndi ndalama mutatha kusudzulana
Vuto lina lalikulu lomwe ndimamva kuchokera kwa anthu osudzulana ndikutaya moyo wawo wakale komanso momwe amakhalira kale. Uku ndikutayika kwakukulu komwe kuyeneranso kubzalidwa. Ndizovuta kudziwa kuti wagwira ntchito molimbika kuthandiza mnzako kukwaniritsa bwino ntchito yake komanso ndalama, komabe tsopano uyenera kuyambiranso moyo wako kuchokera pazomwe zimawoneka ngati zoyambira, popanda thandizo lake (kapena thandizo kwakanthawi). Ndinali mayi wokhala pakhomo, ana anga awiri omaliza kunyumba, pomwe ndimatha kusudzulana. Sindinagwire ntchito kunja kwanyumba kuyambira mwana wanga wazaka 10 asanabadwe. Ndinali nditangogwira ntchito zapaokha komanso zapa media kwa olemba mabulogu ndipo ndinali ndisanamalize maphunziro anga aku koleji. Sindikunena kuti zinali zophweka, koma chaka chilichonse zimakhala zosangalatsa ndikamamvera malangizo a Mulungu pa moyo wanga.

5. Khalani osamala ndi maubwenzi amtsogolo kuti musabwereze chisudzulo
Zambiri mwazomwe ndawerenga za zomwe zimachitika chifukwa chakusudzulana zimakamba zakusudzulana kwaukwati wachiwiri ndi wachitatu. Kudziwa ziwerengerozi kunandipangitsa kuti ndizingokhalira kukwatiwa ndi chigololo ndikuganiza kuti ndidzadzasudzulanso mtsogolo. Ndimatha kuwona komwe izi ndizofunikira kwambiri pazokambiranazi, koma tikamagwiritsa ntchito kuchiritsa kwathu ndikuchotsa katundu wina aliyense, tonse titha kupitiliza kukhala ndi moyo wathanzi (tili kapena osakwatirana). Nthawi zina timakhala nyama ya munthu wamtima woipa (yemwe amatiseka ndi kutikola) koma nthawi zina timasankha wokwatirana naye wopanda thanzi chifukwa sitiganiza kuti ndife oyenera. Nthawi zambiri izi zimakhala zosazindikira mpaka titawona mawonekedwe amgwirizano wovulaza, pozindikira kuti tili ndi "wosankha ubale" wosweka.

Monga munthu mbali inayi ya machiritso a katundu ndi chisudzulo, nditha kunena kuti kugwira ntchito molimbika ndiyofunika kuchita musanapite pachibwenzi ndikukwatiranso pambuyo pa chisudzulo. Kaya ndidayankha ndekha kapena ayi, ndikudziwa kuti sindidzakondanso zomwe zidandigwira zaka 20 zapitazo. Ndinaphunzira zambiri kuchokera kusudzulana kwanga ndikuchiritsidwa pambuyo pake. Ndikukhulupirira kuti inunso mudzachita chimodzimodzi.
-'5 Zabwino Zomwe Muyenera Kuchita Pambuyo pa Kusudzulana 'zachotsedwa pa Zinthu Zabwino Zisanu Zomwe Mungathe Kuchita Pambuyo pa Kusudzulana ndi Jen Grice pa iBelieve.com.

Zomwe Makolo Ayenera Kudziwa Zokhudza Ana a Maukwati
Ana ndi chisudzulo ndi nkhani zovuta ndipo palibe mayankho osavuta. Komabe, ndikofunikira kuti makolo aphunzire kuti amatenga gawo lofunikira pochepetsa zomwe ana omwe akuvutika makolo awo akapatukana kapena asudzulana. Nawa maupangiri omwe angathandize:

Ana ambiri poyamba amakanidwa ndi makolo awo akapatukana. Amakhulupirira kuti "izi ndizakanthawi, makolo anga abweranso". Ngakhale patadutsa zaka zambiri, ana ambiri amalotabe makolo awo akumananso, ndichifukwa chake amakana kukwatiranso kwa makolo awo.
Apatseni mwana nthawi yachisoni. Ana samatha kulankhula ululu chimodzimodzi monga akulu. Chifukwa chake, amatha kukhala achisoni, okwiya, okhumudwa kapena opsinjika koma sangathe kufotokoza.
Osanama. Mwa njira yoyenera zaka komanso wopanda tsatanetsatane, nenani zoona. Chifukwa chimodzi chomwe ana amadziimba mlandu kuti banja la makolo awo litha ndi chifukwa chakuti sananene zowona.
Mayi wina akamanyoza, kunyoza kapena kunyoza kholo lina zimatha kuwononga kudzidalira kwa mwana. "Ngati bambo sali wotayika wabwino, inenso ndiyenera kutero." "Ngati amayi akungoyendayenda, ndizomwe ndidzakhale."
Ana omwe amachita bwino kwambiri banja litatha ndi omwe ali ndiubwenzi wolimba ndi makolo omwe akubereka. Chifukwa chake, osayesa kuchezera pokhapokha mwana atanyalanyazidwa kapena pangozi.
Chisudzulo ndi imfa. Ndi nthawi yachisoni, chithandizo choyenera, ndi Yesu Kristu, ana omwe ali m'mabanja osudzulidwa amatha kuukhanso. Zomwe amafunikira ndi kholo lokhazikika laumulungu komanso lokhazikika lomwe likufuna kulolera pang'onopang'ono, kumvera malangizo ndikuchita zinthu zofunika kuti muchiritse.