Amabali ama-6 ezingelosi, imithandazo kunye nemimangaliso
Amanye awona mabali abangela umdla kunye nawokwakha angabalulekanga ngawona abonwa ngabantu njengommangaliso kwindalo. Ngamanye amaxesha bakwimo yemibuzo ephendulweyo okanye babonwa njengezenzo zeengelosi ezigada. Ezi ziganeko zingaqhelekanga kunye nokudibana kwazo kunika intuthuzelo, komeleza ukholo-kude kusindise ubomi babantu - ngamanye amaxesha xa kubonakala ngathi ezi zinto zifuneka kakhulu.
Ngaba zivela ezulwini okanye zadalwa kukunxibelelana okungaqondakali kokukwazi kwethu ngendalo emangalisayo? Nangona kunjalo uyababona, la mava obomi bokwenyani afanelwe ukuba siqwalaselwe.
Kukubaleka ukuya ekhaya
Ngelixa uninzi lwezi ntlobo zamabali zibutshintsha ubomi okanye kungenjalo zibaphembelele abantu ababaziyo, ezinye zibandakanya imisebenzi ebonakala ingabalulekanga efana nomdlalo webhola wabantwana.
Cinga ngebali lika-John D. Iqela lakhe le-baseball lalithe lafikelela kumdlalo wokudlala kodwa lalisokola kwenye yeesemali. Iqela likaJohn lalisezantsi kwe-inning yokugqibela ephethe ezimbini, ukubetha ezimbini kunye neebhola ezintathu, iziseko ezilayishiwe. Iqela lakhe lalisemva, ukusuka kwi-7 ukuya kwi-5. Kwaye kwenzeka into engaqhelekanga:
U-John uthi: "Umntu wethu wesibini obizwa ngokuba yi-timeout ubenexesha lokuphuma ukuze akwazi ukubopha izihlangu zakhe. “Bendihleli ebhentshini xa ngequbuliso kwavela indoda engaziwayo engazanga yabona phambi kwam. Ndisaqanduselwa yingqele kwaye igazi lam lijike laba ngumkhenkce. Wayenxibe ezimnyama wathetha engakhange wandijonga. Ndandingayithandi kakhulu ibheter yethu. Le ndoda yathi, "Ngaba unesibindi kulo nkwenkwe kwaye unokholo?" Kwangelo thuba, ndaguqukela kumqeqeshi wam, owayekhuphe iiglasi zakhe waza wahlala ecaleni kwam; wayengazange ayiqaphele nale ndoda. Ndaguqukela kummelwane, kodwa wayehambile. Umzuzu olandelayo, owesibini umntu oshiyekileyo wabiza ixesha. Ukudubula olandelayo, ibetter yethu yabetha ugqatso ngaphandle kwepaki, saphumelela umdlalo nge-8 ukuya kwi-7. Saqhubeka nokuphumelela ubugqwirha. "
Isandla sengelosi
Ukuphumelela umdlalo we-baseball yinto enye, kodwa ukubalekela ekulimaleni kakhulu yenye into. UJackie B. ukholelwa ukuba ingelosi yakhe egadileyo eze kumncedisa ngezihlandlo ezibini. Okubangela umdla ngakumbi, ubungqina bakhe kukuba wayeziva kwaye evakalelwa la mandla akhuselayo ngokwasemzimbeni. Zombini zenzekile xa wayengumntwana oze esikolweni:
UJackie uthi: "Wonke umntu edolophini waya kwiinduli ezikufuphi neposi ukuze athengwe kuyo ebusika. “Ndathengisa ngefamily kusapho lwam kwaye ndaya kwindawo ethe tyaba. Ndavala amehlo ndaphuma. Kucacile ukuba ndibethe umntu owayesehla kwaye ndandijikeleza kulawulo. Ndandihamba ngentloko kwisinyithi. Bendingazi ukuba ndenze ntoni. Ngequbuliso ndeva ngento eshukumisa isifuba sam phantsi. Ndize ngaphakathi kwesiqingatha se-intshi yokugxekwa kodwa khange ndiyhoxe. Ibingase ndiphulukane nempumlo.
"Okwesibini ngamava ngexesha lokubhiyozelwa komhla wokuzalwa esikolweni. Ndaya kubeka isithsaba ebhentshini kwindawo yokudlala ngexesha lokuzonwabisa. Bendibuya ndidlala nabahlobo bam. Abafana abathathu bakhubeka ngesiquphe kum. Le ndawo yokudlala yayineensimbi ezininzi kunye nokufakwa kweenkuni (hayi indibaniselwano elungileyo). Ndiye ndahamba ndabhabha into ethi 1/4 intshi ngezantsi kwamehlo. Kodwa ndeva into eyanditsalelayo emva xa ndawa. Abafundisi-ntsapho bathi bandibonile ukuze ndibhabhe baye phambili emva koko babuye ngaxeshanye. Njengoko bandiphuthumayo kwiofisi yomongikazi, ndeva ilizwi elingaziwayo elihlala lisithi kum, “Ungakhathazeki. Ndilapha. UThixo akafuni kwenzeke into emntwaneni wakhe.
Isilumkiso sengozi
Ikamva lethu licwangcisiwe, kwaye ngaba yindlela oososayensi nabaprofeti abanokulibona ikamva? Okanye ngaba ikamva liseti nje lezinto ezinokwenzeka, indlela enokuthi iguqulwe ngezenzo zethu? Umfundi onomsebenzisi we-Hfen ubhala ukuba ufumene izilumkiso ezibini ezahlukileyo nezibalulekileyo malunga nesiganeko esizayo esinokubhekisa kuso. Banokuba basindise ubomi bakhe:
"Kwintsimbi yesine kusasa, yakhala umnxeba wam," ubhala uHfen. “Ngudade wethu owayefona kwilizwe lonke. Ilizwi lakhe belingcangcazela kwaye sele ephantse ukulila. Undixelele ukuba unombono wam kwingozi yemoto. Khange atsho nokuba ndibulewe okanye hayi, kodwa isandi selizwi lakhe sandenza ndacinga ukuba uyakholelwa, kodwa woyika ukundixelela. Uye wathi mandithandaze, wandixelela ukuba uzondithandazela. Undixelele ukuba ndinyamekele, ndithathe enye indlela yokusebenza - nokuba yintoni na endinokuyenza. Ndamxelela ukuba ndiyamkholelwa kwaye ndizofowunela umama wethu ndimcela ukuba athandaze nathi.
Ndemka ndaya emsebenzini esibhedlela, ndisoyika kodwa ndomelela ngokomoya. Ndaye ndaya kuthetha nezigulana malunga neenkxalabo ezithile. Ndithe xa ndiphuma, kwangena indoda ehleli kwisitulo esinamavili ecaleni komnyango yandibiza. Ndaye ndaya kuye ndilinde yena ukuba abenesikhalazo ngasesibhedlela. Wandixelela ukuba uThixo umnike umyalezo wokuba ndiza kuba nengozi yemoto! Uthe umntu ongamameliyo uza kundibetha. Ndothuka kangangokuba ndaphantse ndaphuma. Uye wathi uzondithandazela kwaye uyandithanda. Ndaziva ndibuthathaka emadolweni am ngokuphuma kwam esibhedlela. Ndayiqhuba ngathi ngumfazi osekhulile ngelixa ndibukele yonke indawo, yima umqondiso kwaye ume ukukhanya. Ukufika kwam ekhaya, ndafowunela umama kunye nosisi wabaxelela ukuba ndilungile.
Ubudlelwane obasindisiweyo bunokubaluleka njengobomi obusindisiweyo. Umfundi ogama linguSmigenk uxela indlela "ummangaliso" omncinci onokuthi awusindise ngayo umtshato wakhe onengxaki. Kwiminyaka embalwa edlulileyo, wayesenza zonke iinzame zokulungisa ulwalamano lwamatye kunye nomyeni wakhe kwaye aququzelele impelaveki ende yothando eBermuda. Emva koko izinto zaqala ukungahambi kakuhle kwaye kwabonakala ngathi izicwangciso zakhe zonakalisiwe ... de kwangenelela "ukuphela":
Umyeni wam wavuma ngokungakhathali ukuhamba, kodwa wayekhathazekile malunga nexesha elincinci phakathi kweenqwelo moya, "utshilo uSmigenk. “Besicinga ukuba izinto zizokuhamba kakuhle ePhiladelphia, kodwa kukho imozulu embi kwaye iindiza zixhaswe; ke ngoko, safakwa kumfuziselo wokutywina kwaye safika kanye njengoko indiza yethu yokudibanisa eBermuda yayibangelwa yibhodi. Sakhwela kwisikhululo seenqwelomoya, saya kuphela kwikhawuntari yokungena ngelixa umnyango wesango uvaliweyo. Ndandixakiwe kwaye umyeni wam wayengekho kwimeko entle.
Sibuze iinqwelomoya ezintsha kodwa saxelelwa ukuba kuya kuthatha ezinye iinqwelomoya kunye neeyure ezili-10 ukufika. Umyeni wam wathi, "Ndikho. Andisakwazi ukuyithatha kwakhona ”kwaye ndaqala ukumka kuloo ndawo kwaye- ndiyayazi - ngaphandle komtshato. Ndandixheleke ngokwenene. Ukuhamba komyeni wam, umabhalana wabona iphakheji kwikhawuntari (kwaye ndiyafunga ukuba wayengekho apho kwindawo yokutshekisha). Kuyacaca ukuba wayecaphukile ukuba usekhona. Yajika yaba yiphakheji yamaxwebhu okubambisa ekufuneka umqhubi ayibambe kwelinye ilizwe kwelinye ilizwe. Wabiza ngokukhawuleza indiza ukuba ibuye. Inqwelomoya yayikumgaqo weenqwelo-mafutha ilungele ukuqala ukubasa iinjini. Ubuyele esangweni kumaxwebhu kwaye basivumela (nabanye) ukuba benyuka.
Ixesha lethu eBermuda belingummangaliso kwaye sithathe isigqibo sokusebenza kwiingxaki zethu. Umtshato wethu uhambe ngexesha elinzima nangakumbi, kodwa sobabini zange siyilibale loo ngozi kwisikhululo seenqwelomoya xa ndaziva ngathi umhlaba wam uwile kwaye sinikwe ummangaliso osincedileyo ukugcina umtshato kunye nomtshato kunye. usapho ".
Kuyamangalisa ukuba mangaphi amabali ezingelosi ezivela kumava esibhedlele. Mhlawumbi akukho nzima ukuyiqonda xa siqonda ukuba ziindawo ezinemvakalelo egxile kakhulu, imithandazo kunye namathemba. Umfundi we-DBayLorBaby wangena esibhedlele ngo-1994 eneentlungu eziqatha ezivela "kwisisu se-fibroid esilingana negrapefruit" kwisibeleko sakhe. Utyando lwaluphumelele kodwa lwalunzima ngakumbi kunokuba belulindelekile kwaye neengxaki zakhe bezingapheli:
UDBayLorBaby uyakhumbula: "bendibuhlungu. “Ugqirha undinike idrip ye-morphine ye-IV, kodwa ndafumanisa ukuba andiphili kakuhle kwimorphine. Andibachaphazeleki kakuhle, kwaye ngenxa yoko bahlukile kwamanye amayeza. Ndothuka! Ndisandokwenza utyando olukhulu, ndafunda ukuba andinakukwazi ukuba nabantwana kwixesha elizayo kwaye ndinesifo nje esibuhlungu, ngobo busuku bandinika enye indlela yokunciphisa iintlungu ndaza ndalala kamnandi iiyure ezimbalwa.
Ndavuka ezinzulwini zobusuku. Ngokwewotshi yodonga, yayiye-2: 45. Ndivile umntu othethayo kwaye ndiyaqonda ukuba kukho umntu ebelala ecaleni kwam. Wayelibhinqa eliselula elineenwele ezimfutshane ezimdaka kunye neyunifomu emhlophe evela kubasebenzi basesibhedlele. Wayehleli kwaye efunda ngokuvakalayo eBhayibhileni. Ndathi, 'Ndiphilile'? Kutheni ulapha nam?
Uyekile ukufunda kodwa wajika wandijonga. Uvele wathi, 'Sendithunyelwe apha ukuba ndiqiniseke ukuba ulungile. Uqhuba kakuhle. Ngoku kufuneka uphumle kwaye ubuye kulala. Uqale ukufunda kwakhona ndaphinda ndalala. Ngemini elandelayo, bendijongana noGqirha wam kwaye ndamcacisela ngokwenzekile phezolo. Uye wandijonga edidekile kwaye wakhangela iingxelo zam kunye neenqaku zokwenza umsebenzi. Undixelele ukuba abekho abongikazi okanye ogqirha ababeme kum ukuba bahlale nam ngobusuku obudlulileyo. Ndababuza bonke abongikazi ababendikhathalela; wonke umntu wathetha ngokufanayo, ukuba akukho manesi okanye ugqirha owayehambele igumbi lam ngobo busuku ngaphandle kokujonga amalungu am abalulekileyo. Ukuza kuthi ga ngoku, ndiyakholelwa ukuba bendindwendwele ngelosi yam endigada ngayo ngobo busuku. Wayethunyelwe ukuba azondithuthuzela kwaye endiqinisekisa ukuba ndiza kuphila.
Mhlawumbi ibuhlungu ngaphezu kwako konke ukwenzakala okanye isifo kukuziva uphelelwe lithemba - ukuphelelwa lithemba komphefumlo okhokelela kwiingcamango zokuzibulala. UDean S. wayifumana le ntlungu njengoko wayesele eza kuqhawula umtshato eneminyaka engama-26. Ingcinga yokwahlukaniswa neentombi zakhe ezimbini, eneminyaka emithathu ubudala enye, yayiphantse yangaphezu kokuba yayinokuthwala. Kodwa kubusuku obunesaqhwithi, uDean wanikwa ithemba elivuselelweyo:
UDean uthi: "bendisebenza kwi-rig efana nenqama kwaye bendicinga ngokuzibulala ngelixa bendijonge ezantsi kwindawo ende apho ndisebenza khona," utshilo uDean. “Usapho lwam kunye nam sikholelwa ngokuqinileyo kuYesu, kodwa kwakunzima ukuba singakucingi ngokuzibulala. Esona saqhwithi sikhulu ndakhe ndabona, ndakhwela inqaba ndithathe isikhundla sam sokukhupha ityhubhu kumngxunya esasiqhuba kuwo.
Oogxa bam bathi, “Akunyanzelekanga ukuba uye phezulu. Singathanda ukuthatha ixesha lamahhala kunokulahlekelwa yindoda phaya. Ndizisule ndakhwela nyhani. Umbane undijikelezile, nditsho neendudumo. Ndakhwaza kuThixo ukuba andithathe. Ukuba ngendingenakuba nosapho lwam, ngendingazange ndifune ukuhlala ... kodwa ngekhe ndikwazi ukuzibulala. UThixo undisindisile. Andazi ukuba ndasinda njani ngobo busuku, kodwa ndiyenzile.
Kwiiveki ezimbalwa kamva, ndathenga iBhayibhile encinci ndaya kwiReail Hills, apho usapho lwam luhlala khona ixesha elide. Ndihleli kwenye yeenduli eziluhlaza ndaqala ukufunda. Ndaba nemvakalelo efudumeleyo yokungena kum njengoko ilanga lavuleka ngamafu kwaye lakhanya kum. Kwakusina imvula ijikeleze mna, kodwa bendomile kwaye kushushu kwindawo yam encinci phezu kwenduli.
Ngoku ndiqhubele phambili kubomi obungcono, ndidibene nentombazana yamaphupha am kunye nothando lobomi bam, kwaye sinosapho oluhle kunye neentombi zam ezimbini. Enkosi, Nkosi Yesu kunye neengelosi ozithumileyo ngala mini ukuba zichukumise umphefumlo wam! "