Iindlela ezi-7 zokucamngca ezinokusindisa ubomi bakho
Kutheni bebaninzi abantu abasela utywala kunabantu abacamngca? Kutheni abantu abaninzi besitya ukutya okukhawulezayo kunokuzilolonga? Ukutshaya ngoyena nobangela wokufa e-United States, njengoko kukutya nje okungekho mgaqweni kunye notywala, kutheni le nto sithanda yonke into engendawo kuthi kwaye siphephe izinto ezilungele thina?
Ngokuqinisekileyo kungenxa yokuba asithandani kakhulu. Nje ukuba umjikelo wokuzikhusela uqale, kuthatha isixa esikhulu sokuzimisela kunye nokuzibophelela ekwenzeni iinguqu. Kwaye ingqondo isisicaka esigqibeleleyo, njengoko iya kwenza yonke into ethethwayo, kodwa iyinkosi eyoyikekayo kuba ayisincedi ukuba sizincede.
Oku kunokuba nzima nangakumbi xa iingqondo zethu zifana nenkawu ephazamisekileyo, sixhuma kwingcinga enye okanye umdlalo weqonga ukuya kwenye, singaze sizinike ixesha lokuthi cwaka, sibe noxolo kwaye sizole.
Kodwa ukucamngca kunokusindisa ubomi bethu! Oku kunokuvakala kukude kakhulu, kodwa ukucamngca yindlela ethe ngqo yokungena engqondweni yengqondo yeenkawu ngokwenza rhoqo ukuzithethelela kunye nokuxhasa i-neurosis yethu. Ngaba kubalulekile. Nangona kunjalo abantu abaninzi bahlawula ingqalelo encinci. Ukusela utywala kunokubulala kwaye ukucamngca kungonga, kodwa baninzi abantu abaselayo.
Ukucamngca ngeendlela ezisixhenxe kungasindisa ubomi bakho
Ukuphelisa uxinzelelo kuyaziwa ukuba unoxanduva lwe-70-90 pesenti yezifo kwaye nexesha lokuthula lolona nyango lusebenzayo kwingqondo exakekileyo, esebenza kakhulu. Kwimeko yoxinzelelo, kulula ukuphulukana nokunxibelelana noxolo lwangaphakathi, ububele kunye nobubele; Kwimeko ekhululekileyo, ingqondo iyaqaqamba kwaye sinxibelelana nembono enzulu yeenjongo kunye nokungazithembi. Umphefumlo wakho ngumhlobo wakho osenyongweni. Nanini na xa uziva uxinzelelo lunyuka, ukuvalwa kwentliziyo, ingqondo isaphula, ugxila kuphela ekuphefumleni kwakho kwaye uphinde uphinde ngokuthe ngcembe: ukuphefumla, hlisa umzimba nengqondo yakho; Ukuphefumla, ndiyancuma.
Ukukhupha Umsindo Noloyiko Umsindo unokubangela intiyo nogonyamelo. Ukuba asizamkeli iimvakalelo zethu ezingalunganga, kunokwenzeka ukuba sizicinezele okanye sizilahle kwaye, ukuba siyaliwe, zinokubangela iintloni, uxinzelelo kunye nomsindo. Ukucamngca kusivumela ukuba sibone indlela ukuzingca, ukungavumi kunye nokungazi okwenza iidrama ezingapheliyo kunye noloyiko. Isenokungabi lunyango kubo bonke abantu, ayizukubenza bonke ubunzima bethu inyamalale okanye ngequbuliso iguqule ubuthathaka bethu bube ngamandla, kodwa iyasivumela ukuba sikhulule isimo sengqondo sokuzingca nesomsindo kwaye sivelise ulonwabo lwangaphakathi olunzulu. Oku kungakhulula kakhulu.
Ukwenza uxabiso Ukusilela koxabiso kukhokelela ekuphathweni gadalala nasekuxhatshazweni. Ke, qala ngokuthatha umzuzwana ukuxabisa isitulo ohleli kuso. Cinga ngendlela isitulo esenziwe ngayo: iinkuni, umqhaphu, uboya okanye ezinye iintsinga, imithi nezityalo ezazisetyenziswa, umhlaba owenza imithi ikhule, ilanga nemvula, izilwanyana ekusenokwenzeka ukuba zazinika ubomi , abantu abalungisa izinto zokwakha, umzi-mveliso ekwakhiwe kuwo isitulo, umyili, umchweli kunye nomthungi, ivenkile eyayithengisa- konke oku kukuze uhlale apha ngoku. Yandisa olu xabiso kuyo yonke indawo yakho, emva koko kuye wonke umntu nayo yonke into ebomini bakho. Ndiyabulela ngale nto.
Phuhlisa ububele nemfesane Nanini na xa usiva okanye uziva iintlungu, ngaphakathi kuwe okanye kwenye, ngalo lonke ixesha usenza impazamo okanye uthethe into esisiyatha kwaye sele uza kubeka phantsi, ngalo lonke ixesha ucinga ngomntu onengxaki ngayo, ngalo lonke ixesha ubona umntu esokola, ecaphuka okanye ecaphuka, yeka nje kwaye uzise ububele obunenceba nobubele. Phefumla ngononophelo, uphinda uthe cwaka: Wanga ungaphila, ngamana ungonwaba, wanga ungazaliswa bububele bothando.
Kukho indawo yokugcina yokulunga kubo bonke abantu, kodwa sihlala siphulukana nokunxibelelana nolu luvo lwendalo lokhathalelo kunye nobuhlobo. Xa sicamngca, sisuka ekuboneni indalo yethu enesidima kunye nesibophelelayo ekuqondeni ukuba siyinxalenye ebalulekileyo enkulu, kwaye xa intliziyo ivula singazisa uvelwano kukona kwethu nakubuntu. Ukucamngca sesona sipho sinovelwano esinokuzinika sona.
Ukuziqhelanisa nobubi ngokulula ngenjongo yokubangela iintlungu ezingaphantsi kunokubangela isidima kwihlabathi lethu, ukuze ingozi ithatyathelwe indawo kukungabi nabungozi kunye nentlonipho ngentlonipho. Ukungahoyi iimvakalelo zomntu, ukungqina ukuphelelwa lithemba, ukungayithandi inkangeleko yethu, okanye ukuzibona njengabantu abangafanelekiyo okanye abangafanelekiyo konke kusenzakalisa. Ingakanani ingqumbo, ityala okanye iintloni esizibambayo, oko kuqhubela phambili obu bubi? Ukucamngca kusivumela ukuba sikuguqule ngokuqonda ukulunga kwethu kunye nokuxabiseka kwabo bonke ubomi.
Ukwabelana kunye nokhathalelo Ngaphandle kokwabelana nokukhathala, sihlala kwilizwe elizimeleyo, elinqanyuliweyo nelililolo. Sithatha ukucamngca "emqamlezweni" kwaye sikwenze oko njengoko sisiba nolwazi olunzulu ngonxibelelwano lwethu nabantu bonke. Ukusuka ekuzingceni ngesiqu sakho, siba sesinye isigxina, sixhalabele impilo-ntle yomntu wonke. Kungoko, ukufikelela ngaphaya kwethu iba yindlela yokubonakalisa ububele bokwenyani obonwa kumandla ethu okushiya ungquzulwano okanye ukuxolela iimpazamo, okanye kwiminqweno yethu yokunceda abasweleyo. Asisodwa apha, sonke sihamba emhlabeni omnye kwaye siphefumla umoya omnye; Okukhona sithatha inxaxheba, kokukhona siqhagamshelene ngakumbi kwaye sizalisekisiwe.
Ukuba kunye nokuba yintoni kanye kanye le nto indalo yobomi ibandakanya utshintsho, umnqweno ongazalisekanga kunye nomnqweno wezinto ezahlukileyo kunaleyo, konke oku kukhokelela kukungoneliseki kunye nokungoneliseki. Phantse yonke into esiyenzayo kukufumana into: ukuba siyayenza, siza kuyifumana; ukuba siyakwenza oko, kuya kwenzeka. Kodwa xa sicamngca sikwenza nje. Ayikho enye injongo ngaphandle kokuba lapha, kumzuzu wangoku, ngaphandle kokuzama ukuya naphi na okanye ukufezekisa nantoni na. Akukho sigwebo, akukho nto ilungileyo okanye ingalunganga, yazi nje.
Ukucamngca kusenza sikwazi ukubona ngokucacileyo, ukungqina iingcinga zethu kunye nokuziphatha, kunye nokunciphisa ukubandakanyeka kwethu. Ngaphandle kwento enjalo yokuzibonakalisa akukho ndlela yokuthintela iimfuno ze-ego. Ukushiya ingqondo yengqondo, nangona kunjalo, oko akuthethi ukungena kwinto okanye nantoni na; oko akuthethi ukuba akukho nxu lumano nenyaniso yehlabathi. Endaweni yoko, iyahamba isempilweni kwaye, okona kubaluleke ngakumbi, kunxibelelwano olukhulu ngakumbi. Ke akusafuneki ukuba sizonzakalise kwakhona!