Iingcebiso ezi-7 zebhayibhile zokuhlakulela abahlobo bokwenene

Ubuhlobo buvela kubuqabane obulula xa amaqabane amabini nangaphezulu efumanisa ukuba banombono ofanayo okanye umdla okanye incasa abanye abangabelaniyo ngayo, ukuza kuthi ga ngelo xesha, wonke umntu wayekholelwa ukuba bubutyebi bakhe (okanye umthwalo) ). Ukubonakaliswa kokuvulwa kobuhlobo kuya kuba yinto enje, 'Yintoni? Nawe? Bendicinga ndim ndedwa. '”- CS Lewis, Abane Abathandayo

Kuyamangalisa ukufumana iqabane elabelana ngento efanayo nathi kuthi emva koko ibe bubuhlobo bokwenene. Nangona kunjalo, kukho amaxesha apho ukwenza kunye nokugcina ubuhlobo obuhlala ixesha elide kungelulanga.

Kubantu abadala, ubomi bunokuxakeka ngokulinganisa uxanduva olwahlukeneyo emsebenzini, ekhaya, kubomi bosapho nakwezinye izinto. Ukufumana ixesha lokondla ubuhlobo kunokuba nzima, kwaye kuya kuhlala kukho abo sisokola ukunxibelelana nabo. Ukudala ubuhlobo bokwenene kufuna ixesha nomgudu. Ngaba siyibeka kwindawo yokuqala? Ngaba zikhona izinto esinokuzenza ukuqala kunye nokuqhubeka nobuhlobo?

Inyaniso kaThixo eseBhayibhileni inokusinceda ngamaxesha apho kunzima ukufumana, ukwenza kunye nokugcina ubuhlobo.

Buyintoni ubuhlobo?
"Nabani na ongathembekanga kubahlobo bakhe uphela sele esonakala, kodwa kukho umhlobo ohleli kufutshane nomzalwana" (IMizekeliso 18:24).

Umanyano phakathi kukaThixo uYise, uNyana kunye noMoya oyiNgcwele lutyhila ukusondela kunye nobudlelwane esinqwenela sonke, kwaye uThixo usimema ukuba sibe yinxalenye yawo. Abantu benzelwa ubuqabane njengabaphathi bomfanekiso kaThixo ongubathathu emnye kwaye kwabhengezwa ukuba akulungile ukuba umntu abe yedwa (iGenesis 2:18).

UThixo wadala uEva ukuba ancede uAdam kwaye wahamba nabo kwiGadi yase-Eden ngaphambi kokuwa. Wayenobudlelwane kunye nabo kwaye babenobudlelwane kunye naye. Nangemva kokuba uAdam noEva bonile, yayiyiNkosi eyaqala yabamkela yaza yatyhila icebo layo lokuhlangula ongendawo (Genesis 3:15).

Ubuhlobo bubonakaliswe ngokucacileyo ebomini nasekufeni kuka Yesu wathi, “Akukho namnye unothando olukhulu kunolu, owancama ubomi bakhe ngenxa yabahlobo bakhe. Nizizihlobo zam nina, ukuba nithi nikwenze konke endinimisela khona mna. Andisatsho ukuthi ningabakhonzi; ngokuba umkhonzi akalazi ishishini lenkosi yakhe. Endaweni yokuba ndinibize abahlobo, kuba zonke izinto endizifundileyo kuBawo ndinazisile "(Yohane 15: 13-15).

UYesu wazityhila kuthi kwaye akazange abambe nto, nditsho nobomi bakhe. Xa simlandela kwaye simthobela, sibizwa ngokuba ngabahlobo bakhe. Bubuzuko bobuqaqawuli bukaThixo kunye nembonakalo yobume baKhe (Hebhere 1: 3). Sinokumazi uThixo kuba waba yinyama kwaye wazazisa kuthi. Wanikela ngobomi bakhe ngenxa yethu. Ukwaziwa nokuthandwa nguThixo nokubizwa ngokuba singabahlobo baKhe kufanele kusikhuthaze ukuba sibe ngabahlobo nabanye ngenxa yothando nokuthobela uYesu. Singabathanda abanye kuba wasithanda kuqala (1 Yohane 4:19).

Iindlela ezi-7 zokwenza ubuhlobo
1. Thandazela umhlobo osondeleyo okanye ababini
Ngaba simcelile uThixo ukuba enze abahlobo? Uyasikhathalela kwaye uyazi yonke into esiyifunayo. Isenokungaze ibe yinto esicinga ukuba siyithandazela.

Kweyoku-1 kaYohane 5: 14-15 ithi: “Kuko oku ukuthembela kuye, ukuba sithi sicele into ngokokuthanda kwakhe, uyasiva. Kwaye ukuba siyazi ukuba uyasiva kuyo nantoni na esiyicelayo kuye, siyazi ukuba sizifumene izinto esizicelileyo kuye.

Ngokholo, singamcela ukuba eze nomnye umntu ebomini bethu ukuze asikhuthaze, asicelomngeni, kwaye aqhubeke nokusikhomba kuYesu. Silindele ukuba uThixo enze ngokungathethekiyo ngaphezu kokuba sinokucela okanye sicinge ngamandla akhe asebenzayo kuthi (kwabase-Efese 3:20).

2. Khangela iBhayibhile ukuze ufumane ubulumko ngobuhlobo
Ibhayibhile izele bubulumko, kwaye incwadi yeMizekeliso inezinto ezininzi ezithethayo ngobuhlobo, kubandakanya ukukhetha abahlobo ngobulumko nokuba ngumhlobo. Yabelana ngengcebiso elungileyo evela kumhlobo: "Amafutha nesiqhumiso siyayivuyisa intliziyo, nobumnandi bomhlobo buvela kwiingcebiso zabo ezinyanisekileyo" (IMizekeliso 27: 9).

Ikwalumkisa nxamnye nabo bangabuphelisa ubuhlobo: "Umntu okhohlakeleyo uxhokonxa ingxabano nokuhleba okwahlula abahlobo abasenyongweni" (IMizekeliso 16: 28) kwaye "Nabani na okhuthaza uthando uyafihla isiphoso, kodwa nabani na ophindayo. Ukwahlula izihlobo ngokusondeleyo "(IMizekeliso 17: 9).

KwiTestamente eNtsha, uYesu ungowona mzekelo wethu ubalulekileyo wokuba kuthetha ntoni ukuba ngumhlobo. Uthi, "Akukho bani unothando olukhulu kunolu, lokuba ubomi bakhe abuncamele izihlobo zakhe" (Yohane 15:13). Ukususela kwiGenesis ukuya kwiSityhilelo sibona ibali lothando lukaThixo kunye nobuhlobo bakhe nabantu. Wayesoloko esileqa. Ngaba siya kulandela abanye ngothando olufanayo nolukaKristu kuthi?

3. Yiba ngumhlobo
Ayisiyiyo malunga nokwakhiwa kwethu kuphela kunye nento esinokuyiphumeza ngobuhlobo. KwabaseFilipi 2: 4 bathi, "Elowo makangakhathaleli eyakhe kuphela, kodwa ajonge nakwabanye" kwaye eyoku-1 kwabaseTesalonika 5: 11 ithi, "Kungoko ndithi, Thuthuzelanani, nakhane, kwanjengokuba nisenza njalo."

Baninzi abodwa, nabasenkathazweni; Ngubani esinokusikelela simkhuthaze? Ngaba ukho umntu esimele simazi? Asingabo bonke abantu esibaziyo okanye abantu esibancedayo abaya kuba ngabahlobo abasondeleyo. Nangona kunjalo, sibizelwe ukuba sithande abamelwane bethu kunye neentshaba zethu, kwaye sisebenzele abo sihlangana nabo kwaye sibathande njengoYesu.

Kunjengokuba eyabaseRoma 12:10 isithi: “Thandanani njengabazalwana. Yenzani imbeko omnye komnye. "

4. Thabatha inyathelo lokuqala
Ukuthatha inyathelo ngokholo kunokuba nzima kakhulu. Ukucela umntu ukuba adibane nekofu, mema umntu eze ekhayeni lethu okanye enze into esinethemba lokuba iya kunceda umntu othile ukuba athathe isibindi. Kunokubakho zonke iintlobo zezithintelo. Mhlawumbi woyisa iintloni okanye uloyiko. Mhlawumbi kukho udonga lwenkcubeko okanye lwentlalo ekufuneka ludiliziwe, umkhethe ofuna ukucelwa umngeni okanye kufuneka nje sithembele ukuba uYesu uya kuba nathi kuko konke ukuhlangana.

Kunganzima kwaye ukulandela uYesu akukho lula, kodwa ayikho enye indlela engcono yokuphila. Kufuneka sizimisele kwaye sivule iintliziyo zethu kunye namakhaya kwabo basingqongileyo, sibonisa ububele kunye nobubele kwaye sibathande njengokuba uKristu esithanda. YayinguYesu owaqala intlawulelo ngokuthulula ubabalo lwakhe kuthi sisezintshaba naboni kuThixo (KwabaseRoma 5: 6-10). Ukuba uThixo unokusinika ubabalo olungaqhelekanga kuthi, sinokunika olo lubabalo kwabanye.

5. Phila ngokuzincama
UYesu wayesoloko esihla esiya kwenye indawo, edibana nabantu ngaphandle kwesihlwele kwaye ehlangabezana neemfuno zabo ngokwasemzimbeni nangokomoya. Nangona kunjalo, wayeqhubeka nokufumana ixesha lokuchitha kunye noYise emthandazweni kunye nabafundi baKhe. Ekugqibeleni, uYesu waphila ubomi bokuzincama xa wamthobela uYise wasibeka ubomi bakhe emnqamlezweni ngenxa yethu.

Ngoku sinokuba ngabahlobo bakaThixo kuba wasifela isono sethu, sizixolelanisa nobudlelwane obulungileyo kunye naye.Sifanele ukwenza njalo kwaye siphile ubomi obuncinci ngathi, ngakumbi ngoYesu kwaye ungazingci kwabanye. Ngokuguqulwa luthando lokuzincama lukaMsindisi, siyakwazi ukuthanda abanye ngokungagungqiyo kwaye sigalele imali ebantwini njengoYesu.

6. Yima nabahlobo kumahla ndinyuka
Umhlobo wenene unyanisekile kwaye uyakuhlala ekho ngamaxesha eengxaki kunye neentlungu, kunye nangamaxesha okonwaba nawokubhiyozela. Abahlobo babelana bobabini ubungqina kunye neziphumo kwaye babonakala ekuhleni kwaye benyanisekile. Ubuhlobo obusondeleyo phakathi kukaDavid noJonathan ku-1 Samuweli 18: 1 bubonisa oku: "Kwathi, akugqiba ukuthetha kuSawule, umphefumlo kaJonatan wamanywa nomphefumlo kaDavide; uYonatan wamthanda njengomphefumlo wakhe." UJonathan wabonisa ububele kuDavide xa utata wakhe, uKumkani uSawule, wayefuna ubomi bukaDavide. UDavide wamthemba uJonathan ukuba ancede acenge utata wakhe ukuba anikezele, kodwa kananjalo amlumkise ukuba uSawule wayesemva kobomi bakhe (1 Samuweli 20). Emva kokubulawa kukaJonathan edabini, uDavide waba buhlungu, nto leyo ebonisa ubunzulu bobudlelwane babo (2 Samuweli 1: 25-27).

7. Khumbula ukuba uYesu ngumhlobo wokugqibela
Kungaba nzima ukwenza ubuhlobo bokwenyani nobuhlala buhleli, kodwa ngenxa yokuba siyithemba iNkosi ukuba isincede koku, kufuneka sikhumbule ukuba uYesu ngumhlobo wethu wokugqibela. Ubiza amakholwa ngokuba ngabahlobo bakhe kuba uvulelekile kubo kwaye akazange afihle nto (Yohane 15:15). Wasifela, wasithanda kuqala (1 Yohane 4: 19), wasikhetha (Yohane 15:16), sathi sisekude noThixo wasisondeza ngegazi lakhe, elaphalazelwa thina emnqamlezweni 2:13).

Ungumhlobo waboni kwaye uthembisa ukuba soze abashiye okanye abalahle abo bathembela kuye.Isiseko sobuhlobo bokwenene nonyanisekileyo iya kuba yile nto isishukumisela ukuba silandele uYesu kubo bonke ubomi bethu, sinqwenela ukulugqiba ugqatso olungunaphakade.