Iingcebiso ezithile ezisebenzayo zokuqalisa isikolo somthandazo

Iingcebiso ezithile ezisebenzayo zokuqalisa isikolo somthandazo

ukuqala kwesikolo somthandazo:

• Nabani na onqwenela ukufumana isikolo esincinci somthandazo kufuneka aqale azibophelele ekubeni yindoda okanye ibhinqa lomthandazo. Ukufundisa ukuthandaza akuniki imibono malunga nomthandazo, iincwadi zanele ukwenza oku. Zininzi. Ukufundisa ukuthandaza yenye into, kukuhambisa ubomi. Kuphela ngabo bathandazayo ngokuzithoba nangokuzingisileyo abakwenzayo.

• Kubalulekile ukucebisa abantu abancinci imithetho elula nesebenzayo kwaye ubacele ukuba bavavanye nabo. Ukuba awubenzi ukuba bathandaze kakhulu kwaye rhoqo-uyachitha ixesha, ngekhe ufundise ukuthandaza.

• Kubalulekile ukuqala kwiqela, hayi uninzi, kuba indlela yomthandazo idiniwe. Ukuba uhamba ngentambo, xa omnye eyeka enye, kwaye imatshi ayiyeki. Amandla enye yokulungisa ubuthathaka bomnye kunye nokumelana.

• Kubalulekile ukuba iqela lizibekele iinjongo ezithile: ikota yeyure yokuthandaza mihla le, emva koko isiqingatha seyure, kunye neyure. Iinjongo ezichanekileyo ezithathiweyo kunye zenza inkqubela phambili kwaye zikhonza wonke umntu, abomeleleyo kunye nababuthathaka.

Ukuqinisekiswa kweqela (okanye uphononongo lobomi) kuyafuneka kwindlela eya phambili. Yabelana ngobunzima kwaye ufumane izisombululo kunye. Iluncedo kwezi ziinkqubo zokujonga (qho emva kweeveki ezimbini, ukuzama ukujongana nantoni na ngaphandle komthandazo.

• Kubalulekile ukunika indawo imibuzo malunga nomthandazo. Akwanelanga ukuyalela indlela yokuthandaza, abantu abancinci kufuneka bakwazi ukubonakalisa ubunzima babo kwaye umntu ophetheyo uzama ukuphendula ngokubetha kwabo. Ukuba ikho le nto, kukho isikolo somthandazo wokwenyani, ngenxa yokuba kukho ukutshintshiselana kwaye kukho ukuqonda

• Umthandazo sisipho soMoya: Nabani na oqala isikolo somthandazo kufuneka aphathe ulutsha ngamnye kwaye kufuneka abongoze uMoya oyiNgcwele ngokunyaniseka okukhulu.

Umthombo: Indlela Yomthandazo-P. De Foucauld Iziko Lobuvangeli-Cuneo 1982