Nditsho neentsapho ezahluleleneyo zihlala kwisisa sikaThixo
Umfundisi otyeleleyo wathetha kamnandi ngentsapho yakhe ngokukhula kwakhe. Emva koko wathi, "Asinalo na ithamsanqa elaneleyo lokuba neentsapho ezinkulu kangaka, ezinothando?" Mna nomyeni wam satshintshiselana ngenkangeleko yokubuza. Inkonzo yethu yobundlobongela basekhaya ikhula ngokuzinzileyo; Iqela loqhawulo mtshato liya lisomelela, nanjengoko intlanganiso yamakhoboka otywala ingaziwa.
Oku kusenza sifane nayo nayiphi na iperishi. Uninzi lwabaphathiswa ngokungathandabuzekiyo luye lwacinga, "Ndonwabile ngawe, bawo, kodwa ayisiyiyo eyamava am."
Ndiyazi abantu abangenakubalwa abakhuliswe ngamakhoboka otywala, abanye babo njengabantwana abangazange bazise abahlobo babo emakhaya ngenxa yento embi enokwenzeka. Abantu abanabantakwabo nootata abasentolongweni. Amagqwetha aphumeleleyo ooyise abangazange babanike nelizwi lokuvunywa. Ndinetshomi enomakhulu katata wakhe owayemcaphukela kangangokuba waxelela umhlobo wam, emva koko wayekwishumi elivisayo, kungekudala emva komngcwabo katata wakhe, "Utatakho akazange akuthande." Ndiyabazi abantu abathi oomama babo babaphindaphinde babasike ngamazwi anomsindo nangenxa yokuba babebancinci abantwana.
Ukuphathwa gadalala ngokwasemzimbeni, ukuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo, ukuzibulala: akufuneki ukuba uye kude ukuyifumana. Kungcono singenzi ngathi ayikho.
UJohn Patrick Shanley, umbhali weefilimu iMonstruck kunye noDoubt, ubhala kwiNew York Times ukuba ahambe notata wakhe eIreland, apho adibana khona nomalume wakhe, umakazi kunye nomza wakhe, bonke abathethi. Umzala wakhe umthatha amse engcwabeni utat'omkhulu, ebengayazi, kwaye ucebisa ukuba baguqe emvuleni bayothandaza.
"Ndive unxibelelwano nento eyoyikekayo nenkulu," utshilo, "kwaye bendinoluvo: aba ngabantu bam. "
Xa uShanley ebuza amabali malunga notatomkhulu notatomkhulu wakhe, nangona kunjalo, amazwi aphuma ngesiquphe ayoma: “[Malume] uTony angabonakala engacacanga. Utata ngekhe athule. "
Ekugqibeleni ufunda ukuba utatomkhulu nomakhulu wakhe "babesoyikisa," ukuyibeka kakuhle. Utat'omkhulu wayevana kunye nabani na: "Nkqu nezilwanyana zaziya kumsaba." Umakhulu wakhe oxabanayo, xa waziswa ngomzukulwana wakhe wokuqala, "wakrazula ibhonethi entle umntwana awayeyinxibile entlokweni yakhe, esithi:" Kuhle kakhulu kuye! "
Ukuhlala kwale ntsapho kubonakalisa ukuthandabuza kwabaIreland ukuba bathethe kakubi ngabafi.
Ngelixa le isenokuba yinjongo ebekekileyo, ngokuqinisekileyo sinokuzivuma iingxaki zosapho ngovelwano kuwo wonke umntu obandakanyekayo. Ikhowudi yokukhanyela kunye nokuthula edluliselwe ngaphandle kwamagama kwiintsapho ezininzi ihlala ishiya abantwana bayazi ukuba kukho into engalunganga kodwa abanamazwi okanye mvume yokuthetha ngayo. (Kwaye ekubeni iipesenti ezingama-90 zonxibelelwano ayizizo ezomlomo, oko ukuthula kuyazithetha.)
Ayisiyohlazo kuphela, kodwa iziganeko ezibuhlungu- ukusweleka, umzekelo-zinokufanela ukuphathwa cwaka. Ndizazile iintsapho apho abantu bebonke-oomalume, nkqu nabantakwabo-bacinyiwe kwimemori yosapho ngokuthula. Ngaba sisoyika kangaka iinyembezi? Namhlanje, into esiyaziyo ngamabango empilo yengqondo atyhila iinyaniso zosapho ngexesha elifanelekileyo kubantwana. Asingobalandeli bendoda yaseGalili, eyathi, "Inyaniso izakunikhulula"?
UBruce Feiler ubhale kwiNew York Times ngophando olutsha olutyhila ukuba abantwana bajongana ngcono nemiceli mngeni xa besazi lukhulu malunga neentsapho zabo kwaye baqonde ukuba bangabento enkulu kunabo. Amabali osapho asempilweni aquka amaqhuma asendleleni: sikhumbula umalume wakhe owabanjwa kunye nomama othandwa ngumntu wonke. Kwaye, uthi, uhlala egxininisa ukuba "nantoni na eyenzekileyo, besisoloko simanyene silusapho".
AmaKatolika ayibiza ngokuba isekelwe kubabalo lukaThixo.Ayinguye onke amabali osapho aphela onwabile, kodwa siyazi ukuba uThixo ume eqinile ecaleni kwethu. Ngokugqibela kukaJohn Patrick Shanley, "Ubomi buphethe imimangaliso yayo, ugqabhuko olulungileyo oluvela ebumnyameni yinkokeli yabo"