Ukuanga okanye ukunganga: xa ukwanga kusisono
Uninzi lwamaKristu azinikeleyo akholelwa ukuba iBhayibhile iyabugatya isondo ngaphambi komtshato, kodwa kuthekani ngezinye iindlela zothando lomzimba ngaphambi komtshato? Ngaba iBhayibhile ithi ukuqhawula sothando sisono ngaphandle kwemida yomtshato? Ukuba kunjalo, phantsi kwaziphi iimeko? Lo mbuzo unokuba yingxaki ngakumbi kulutsha olungamaKristu oluzabalaza ngokulungeleleneyo ngokholo lwalo kunye nemilinganiselo yentlalo kunye nengcinezelo yoontanga.
Njengeengxaki ezininzi namhlanje, akukho mpendulo zimnyama nezimhlophe. Endaweni yoko, icebiso labacebisi abangamaKristu abaninzi kukucela isikhokelo sikaThixo ukubonisa indlela emayilandelwe.
Okokuqala, ezinye iintlobo zokuqabulana zamkelekile kwaye kulindeleke. Ibhayibhile isixelela ukuba uYesu Kristu wabanga abafundi bakhe, umzekelo. Kwaye sanga amalungu osapho lwethu njengendlela eqhelekileyo yokubonisa uthando. Kwiinkcubeko ezininzi kunye namazwe, ukwanga yindlela eqhelekileyo yokubulisa phakathi kwabahlobo. Ngokucacileyo, ukwanga akusoloko kusisono. Ewe kunjalo, njengoko wonke umntu eyaqonda, ezi ndlela zokuncancisa zingumbandela owahlukileyo kunesothando.
Ulutsha nakwamanye amaKristu angatshatanga, umbuzo ngowokuba ukwanga kothando ngaphambi komtshato kufanele kujongwe njengesono.
Uqala nini ukona?
Kwabazinikele kubuKristu, impendulo ixhomekeke kwinto esentliziyweni yakho ngelo xesha. IBhayibhile isixelela ngokucacileyo ukuba inkanuko sisono:
Kuba ngaphakathi, entliziyweni yomntu, iingcinga ezimbi, uhenyuzo, ubusela, ukukrexeza, ukubawa, ukukhohlisa, iinkanuko, iinkanuko, uburheletyo, ikratshi, nobuqhetseba. Zonke ezi zinto zikhohlakeleyo ziphuma ngaphakathi; zizinto ezingcolisayo nina ”(Marko 7: 21-23, NLT).
UmKristu ozinikeleyo kufuneka abuze ukuba inkanuko isentliziyweni xa uqabulana. Ngaba ukwanga kukwenza ufune ukwenza okungakumbi kunye naloo mntu? Ngaba ukukhokelela esilingweni? Ngaba ngandlela ithile isenzo sokunyanzelwa? Ukuba impendulo kuyo nayiphi na yale mibuzo ngu "ewe", ke, ukwanga okunjalo kusenokuba sisono kuwe.
Oku akuthethi ukuba kufuneka siqwalasele zonke izityhakala neqabane lokuthandana okanye nomntu esimthandayo njengesono. Uthando oluphakathi phakathi kwamaqabane anothando aluthathwa njengesono kwinkoliso yamahlelo obuKristu. Kuthetha ukuba, nangona kunjalo, ukuba kufuneka sikulumkele oko kusezintliziyweni zethu kwaye siqiniseke ukuba siyakugcina ukuzeyisa ngexesha lokuncama.
Ukuqabula okanye ukunganga?
Indlela owuphendula ngayo lo mbuzo ixhomekeke kuwe kwaye inokuxhomekeka ekutolikeni kwakho imigaqo yenkolo yakho okanye kwiimfundiso zecawe yakho ethile. Abanye abantu bakhetha ukungazenzi de batshate; bayabona ukuba ukuqhayisa kukhokelela esonweni okanye bakholelwe ukuba ukwanga okuthandanayo sisono. Abanye bacinga ukuba logama nje benakho ukuxhathisa izilingo kunye nokulawula iingcinga nezenzo zabo, ukwanga kwamkelekile. Undoqo kukwenza okulungele wena kunye nokuzukisa uThixo.
Yonke into isemthethweni, kodwa ayizizo zonke izinto eziluncedo.
Yonke into isemthethweni, kodwa ayisiyiyo yonke into eyakhayo. "(NIV)
Ulutsha olungamaKristu kunye neengoma ezingatshatanga ziyacetyiswa ukuba zichithe ixesha emthandazweni kwaye zibonise oko zikwenzayo kwaye zikhumbule ukuba ngenxa yokuba isenzo sivumelekile kwaye siqhelekileyo akuthethi ukuba kuyanceda okanye kuyakha. Unokuba nenkululeko yokwanga, kodwa ukuba kukukhokelela kwinkanuko, ukunyanzela kunye nezinye iindawo zesono, ayisiyindlela eyakhayo yokudlula ixesha.
KumaKristu, umthandazo yeyona ndlela ifanelekileyo yokuvumela uThixo ukuba akukhokelele kwinto eyiyeyona iluncedo ebomini bakho.