Ungabanceda njani abanye ngexesha lentlekele yokholo
Ngamanye amaxesha eyona ndlela yokucebisa abathandabuzayo kukuba uthethe endaweni yamava.
Xa uLisa Marie, ngoku owayekwiminyaka yama-XNUMX ubudala, wayekwishumi elivisayo, waqalisa ukuthandabuza ngoThixo.Ukukhula kwintsapho ethembekileyo yamaKatolika ecaweni kwaye efunda kwisikolo samabanga aphakamileyo samaKatolika, uLisa Marie wafumana la mathandabuzo. Uthi: “Bendiqinisekile ukuba yonke into endiyifunda ngoThixo iyinyani. Ndacela ke uThixo ukuba andiphe ukholo olulingana nokhozo lwemostade. Ngokunyanisekileyo ndathandaza ukuba uThixo andinike ukholo endingenalo. "
Isiphumo, utsho uLisa Marie, saba ngamava anzulu okuguquka. Waqala ukubuva ubukho bukaThixo njengoko wayengazange enze ngaphambili. Ubomi bakhe bokuthandaza bathatha intsingiselo entsha kwaye bagxila. Ngoku utshatile kunye nomama kaJosh oneminyaka eli-13 no-Eliana oneminyaka esi-7 ubudala, uLisa Marie usebenzisa amava akhe aziva ethandabuza xa ethetha nabanye ngemicimbi yokholo. “Ndiziva ndinomdla omkhulu wokuba yonke into ekufuneka uyenzile ukuba ufuna ukholo yicele - uvuleleke kuyo. UThixo uzakwenza okunye, ”utshilo.
Uninzi lwethu lusenokuziva lungakufanelekeli ukucebisa umntu ngokholo lwalo. Kusisihloko esilula ukusiphepha: abo banamathandabuzo basenokungafuni ukuyivuma imibuzo yabo. Abantu abanokholo olomeleleyo banokoyika ukuba nekratshi ngokomoya xa bethetha nomntu osokolayo.
UMaureen, umama wabantwana abahlanu, ufumanise ukuba eyona ndlela yokucebisa abathandabuzayo kukuba uthethe endaweni yamava. Xa umhlobo omkhulu kaMaureen osweleyo kwishishini elincinci elinengeniso wayejamelene nokuphelelwa yimali, umhlobo wakhe waziva ephulukene nenkqubo yokugcwalisa kunye nexabiso awayelifumana emtshatweni wakhe.
“Umhlobo wam wandibiza elila wathi, uziva ngathi uThixo umlahlile, akabuva tu ubukho bakhe. Nangona ukungabinamali kwakungeyompazamo kum, wayeneentloni, ”utshilo uMaureen. UMaureen waphefumlela phezulu kwaye waqala ukuthetha nomhlobo wakhe. "Ndizamile ukumqinisekisa ukuba yinto eqhelekileyo ukuba 'nomlingo' kubomi bethu bokholo apho siphulukana khona noThixo kwaye sithembele kwizixhobo zethu kunokuba simthembe kwizinto zonke, utshilo. "Ndiyakholelwa ukuba uThixo uyasivumela la maxesha kuba, njengoko sisebenza ngawo, siyathandaza ngawo, ukholo lwethu luyomelela kwelinye icala."
Ngamanye amaxesha ukucebisa abahlobo ngokuthandabuza kunokuba lula kunokuba bathethe nabantwana bethu ngemibuzo yabo yokholo. Abantwana banokoyika ukuphoxa abazali kwaye bafihle ukuthandabuza kwabo, nokuba baya ecaweni nosapho okanye bathathe inxaxheba kwimfundo yezenkolo.
Ingozi apha kukuba abantwana banokuziqhelanisa nokunxibelelanisa inkolo namava eenkolelo zobuxoki. Endaweni yokubeka emngciphekweni wokuntywila ngokunzulu kwaye ubuze abazali imibuzo malunga nokholo, aba bantwana bakhetha ukukhukuliseka kumphezulu wenkolo ecwangcisiweyo kwaye bahlala bemka ecaweni xa sele bebadala.
“Xa unyana wam wamazibulo wayeneminyaka eli-14, ndandingalindelanga ukuba angangabaza. Ndacinga ukuba unamathandabuzo, kuba nguwuphi kuthi ongazange? ”Utshilo uFrancis, utata wabantwana abane. Ndithathe incoko apho ndambuza ukuba ukholelwa entwenini, yintoni angayikholelwayo kunye nento afuna ukuyikholelwa kodwa angaqinisekanga ngayo. Ndimamele kwaye ndizama ukumenza akhuseleke ukuze aveze ukungathandabuzeki kwakhe. Ndabelana ngamava am omabini amathandabuzo kunye nokholo olomeleleyo ngokwenene. "
UFrancis uthe unyana wakhe ukonwabele ukuva umzabalazo wokholo kaFrancis. UFrancis uthe akazange azame ukuxelela unyana wakhe ukuba kutheni kufanele akholelwe into, kodwa endaweni yoko wambulela ngokungafihlisi ngemibuzo yakhe.
Uye wathi wagxila nakokholo ngokwalo, endaweni yento eyenziwe ngunyana wakhe okanye angayithandiyo malunga namava okuya kwimisa. ukholo lwakhula, wayekulungele ngakumbi ukumamela, kuba ndandikhe ndathetha naye nangamaxesha apho ndandiziva ndibhidekile kwaye ndikude nokholo.