"UThixo ukhethe ukusibiza": ibali labazalwana ababini bamisela abefundisi bamaKatolika ngosuku olufanayo

I-Peyton kunye noConnor Plessala ngabantakwabo abavela eMobile, Alabama. Ndihlala iinyanga ezili-18, unyaka wesikolo.

Ngaphandle kokhuphiswano ngamathub 'athile kunye nokuxambulisana okufunyanwa ngabazalwana abaninzi bekhula, bahlala bengabahlobo abalungileyo.

"Sisondele kunabahlobo abasenyongweni," uConnor, 25, uxelele i-CNA.

Njengolutsha, kwisikolo samabanga aphantsi, kwisikolo esiphakamileyo, kwikholeji, uninzi lobomi babo babujolise kwizinto umntu anokuzilindela: abahlohli, ii-eccentrics, izihlobo, amantombazana athandana kunye nemidlalo.

Zininzi iindlela ababenokuthi bazikhethele zona aba bafana babini ubomi babo, kodwa ekugqibeleni, kwinyanga ephelileyo, bafika kwindawo enye: belele ngobuso phambi kwesibingelelo, benikela ngobomi babo kwinkonzo kaThixo kwaye yeCawa yamaKatolika.

Bobabini aba bazalwana bamiselwa ubufundisi ngoMeyi 30 kwiCathhedral Basilica ye-Immaculate Conception e-Mobile, kwindawo yabucala, ngenxa yobhubhane.

“Nokuba kungasiphi na isizathu, uThixo ukhethe ukusibiza kwaye uyenzile. Kwaye sinethamsanqa ngokwaneleyo ukuba sibe neziseko zabazali bethu kunye nokukhuliswa kwethu ukuba simamele kwaye sithi ewe, utshilo uPeyton kwi-CNA.

UPeyton, 27, uthi uchulumance kakhulu ukuqala ukunceda kwizikolo zamaKatolika kunye nemfundo, kunye nokuqala ukuva ukuvuma izono.

“Uchitha ixesha elininzi kwisikolo sabefundisi uzilungiselela ukuba uphumelele ngenye imini. Uchitha ixesha elininzi kwiseminari uthetha ngezicwangciso, amaphupha, amathemba kunye nezinto oya kuthi ngolunye usuku uzenze kolu qikelelo lwekamva… ngoku ilapha. Kwaye ke andinakulinda ukuba ndiqale. "

"Iimpawu zendalo"

Emazantsi eLouisiana, apho abazali babantwana bakaPlessala bakhulela khona, ungumKatolika ngaphandle kokuba uthethe ngenye indlela, utshilo uPeyton.

Bobabini abazali bakaPlessala ngoogqirha. Usapho lwafudukela eAlabama xa uConnor noPeyton babesebancinci.

Nangona usapho lwalusoloko lungamaKatolika-kwaye bakhulisa uPeyton, uConnor, kunye nodade wabo omncinci kunye nomntakwabo elukholweni - abazalwana bathi zange babe "kuthandazwa irosari ejikeleze itafile yasekhitshini" uhlobo losapho.

Ukongeza ekuthatheni usapho kubunzima ngeCawa nganye, abakwaPlessala bafundise abantwana babo into uPeyton ayibiza ngokuba "zizidalwa zendalo" - ukuba ngabantu abalungileyo nabanesidima; ukubaluleka kokukhetha abahlobo ngobulumko; kunye nexabiso lemfundo.

Ukubandakanyeka rhoqo kwabazalwana kwimidlalo yeqela, bekhuthazwe ngabazali babo, kubancedisile nasekubafundiseni kwezo ntsingiselo yendalo.

Ukudlala ibhola ekhatywayo, ibhola yomnyazi, ibhola ekhatywayo kunye nebhola ekhatywayo kule minyaka idlulileyo ibafundise amaxabiso okusebenza nzima, ubuqabane kunye nokwenza umzekelo kwabanye.

“Basifundise ukuba sikhumbule ukuba xa uyokudlala imidlalo kwaye unegama elithi Plessala ngasemva kwehempe yakho, emele usapho luphela,” utshilo uPeyton.

'Ndingayenza'

U-Peyton uxelele i-CNA ukuba nangona wayefunda kwizikolo zama Katolika kwaye efumana le "ntetho yobugcisa" minyaka le, akukho namnye kubo owakha wajonga ubufundisi njengeyona nto banokukhetha ukuyenza ebomini babo.

Oko kukuthi, kude kwangoko ngo-2011, xa abazalwana bathatha uhambo nabo bafunda nabo eklasini baya eWashington, DC ngo-Matshi woBomi, eyona ndibano inkulu yesizwe yonyaka e-United States.

Umphathi weqela labo kwiSikolo samaBanga aPhakamileyo samaKatolika iMcGill-Toolen wayengumfundisi omtsha, owayesandul 'ukuphuma kwisikolo sabefundisi, intshisakalo novuyo lwazo lwabachukumisa abazalwana.

Ubungqina bomphathi wabo kunye nabanye abefundisi abadibana nabo kolo hambo bakhuthaza uConnor ukuba aqale ukucinga ngokujoyina i-seminari esandula ukuphuma kwisikolo samabanga aphakamileyo.

Ekwindla ka-2012, uConnor waqala izifundo zakhe eSt Joseph Seminary College eCovington, Louisiana.

U-Peyton naye weva ubizo lobufundisi kolo hambo, enkosi kumzekelo womphathi wabo-kodwa indlela yakhe eya kwiseminari ibingacacanga njengaleyo yomntakwabo omncinci.

"Ndiqaphele okokuqala," mfondini, ndingayenza le nto. [Lo mfundisi] useluxolweni nesiqu sakhe, wonwabile kwaye wonwabe kakhulu. Ndingayenza. Obu bubomi endinokubuphila ngenene, ”utshilo.

Ngaphandle kwephulo lokuya kwisemina, uPeyton wagqiba kwelokuba alandele isicwangciso sakhe sokuqala sokufunda kwangaphambili kwiLouisiana State University. Wayeya kuchitha iminyaka emithathu xa iyonke, ethandana nentombazana awayehlangana nayo eLSU iminyaka emibini.

Kunyaka wakhe wokugqibela ekholejini, uPeyton wabuyela kwisikolo sakhe samabanga aphakamileyo ukuba ahambe kunye nolohambo lolo nyaka ukuya kuMatshi woBomi, uhambo olufanayo olwaluqale ukutsala ubufundisi kwiminyaka eliqela eyadlulayo.

Ngaxa lithile ebudeni bohambo, ngexesha lokunqula iSakramente Esikelelekileyo, uPeyton weva ilizwi likaThixo: "Uyafuna nyhani ukuba ngugqirha?"

Impendulo, njengokuba kunjalo, nguhayi.

“Kwaye mzuzu ndawuva, intliziyo yam yaziva inoxolo ngakumbi kunangaphambili… Mhlawumbi ebomini bam. Ngelo xesha, ndandingathi, "Ndiya kwisemina," utshilo uPeyton.

Okomzuzwana, bendinenjongo yobomi. Ndineendlela kunye nenjongo. Ndazi nje ukuba ndingubani. "

Oku kucaca kutsha kweza ngexabiso, nangona kunjalo… uPeyton wayesazi ukuba kuya kufuneka ayishiye intombi yakhe. Wenze ntoni.

U-Connor ukhumbula umnxeba kaPeyton, emxelela ukuba uthathe isigqibo sokuza kwisemina.

“Ndothuka. Bendinemincili. Bendonwabe kakhulu kuba besibuye sabuyelana, ”utshilo uConnor.

Ekwindla ka-2014, uPeyton wajoyina umntakwabo omncinci eSt.

"Singathembana"

Nangona uConnor noPeyton babehlala bengabahlobo, ubudlelwane babo batshintsha-baba ngcono-xa uPeyton ejoyina uConnor kwisemina.

Ubuninzi bobomi babo, uPeyton wayekhe wamlandela umkhondo kuContor, emkhuthaza kwaye emnika ingcebiso xa efika kwisikolo samabanga aphakamileyo, emva kokuba uPeyton efunde iintambo apho unyaka.

Ngoku, okwesihlandlo sokuqala, uConnor waziva ngathi "ungumzalwana omkhulu", enamava ngakumbi kubomi bobufundisi.

Kwangelo xesha, nangona ngoku abazalwana bebalandela ikhondo elinye, basondele kubomi besemina ngendlela yabo, ngezimvo zabo bajongana nemiceli mngeni ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo, utshilo.

Amava okwamkela umceli mngeni wokuba ngumfundisi abanceda ubudlelwane babo bukhula

“UPeyton ebehlala esenza into yakhe kuba ebengowokuqala. Wayengoyena mdala. Kwaye ke, wayengenamzekelo wokuwulandela ngelo xesha, ngelixesha ndiwenzileyo, ”utshilo uConnor

"Kwaye ke, umbono wokuqhekeka:" Siya kufana "wawunzima kum, ndiyacinga ... Kodwa ndicinga ukuba, kwiintlungu ezikhulayo zoko, sikwazi ukukhula nokukwanelisa izipho zomnye nomnye ubuthathaka kwaye emva koko sixhomekeke ngakumbi komnye nomnye ... ngoku ndiyazazi izipho zikaPeyton ngcono kakhulu, kwaye uyazazi izipho zam, kwaye ke sinokuxhomekeka komnye nomnye.

Ngenxa yendlela iikhredithi zakhe zekholeji ezathunyelwa zivela kwi-LSU, uConnor noPeyton baphela bekwiklasi efanayo yokumiselwa, ngaphandle kweminyaka emibini uConnor "eyintloko".

"Phumani endleleni kaMoya oyiNgcwele"

Ngoku bebemiselwe, uPeyton uthe abazali babo bahlala behlaselwa ngumbuzo othi, "Nenze ntoni nina nonke ukufumana isiqingatha sabantwana benu kubufundisi?"

KuPeyton, zazimbini izinto ezibalulekileyo ekukhuleni kwabo ezamnceda yena nabantakwabo ukuba bakhule njengamaKatolika azinikeleyo.

Okokuqala, wathi, yena kunye nabantakwabo baya kwizikolo zamaKatolika, izikolo ezinesazisi esomeleleyo sokholo.

Kodwa yayikhona into kubomi bosapho lukaPlessala ethi, kuPeyton, ibaluleke nangakumbi.

"Sisitya busuku ngabunye nosapho, kungajongwanga izinto ezifunekayo ukwenza lo msebenzi usebenze, utshilo.

“Ukuba kufuneka sitye ngentsimbi yesi-16 ngokuhlwa kuba omnye wethu wayenomdlalo ngobo busuku sasihamba sonke, okanye ukuba kwakufuneka sitye ngo-00: 21 ebusuku, kuba ndandibuya kuqeqesho lwebhola ekhatywayo kade esikolweni, nokuba kuyintoni na. Sasisoloko sisenza umzamo wokutya kunye kwaye sithandaze ngaphambi kwesidlo. "

Amava okuhlangana rhoqo ebusuku nosapho, ukuthandaza kunye nokuchitha ixesha kunye kuncede usapho ukuba luhlalisane kwaye luxhase iinzame zelungu ngalinye, batsho abazalwana.

Xa abantakwabo baxelele abazali babo ukuba bangena kwisikolo sasemini, abazali babo babeluncedo kakhulu, nangona abantakwabo babekrokrela ukuba umama wabo angaba lusizi kuba ephela abazukulwana abambalwa.

Inye into uConnor ayivileyo umama wakhe esithi izihlandlo ezininzi xa abantu bebuza into abayenzileyo abazali kukuba "wahamba kude noMoya oyiNgcwele."

Abazalwana bathi banombulelo ongazenzisiyo kuba abazali babo bebesoloko bexhasa umsebenzi wabo. U-Peyton uthe yena noConnor badibana ngamanye amaxesha kumadoda kwisemina abagqiba kwelokuba bahambe kuba abazali babo bengasixhasi isigqibo sabo sokungena.

"Ewe, abazali bazi ngcono, kodwa xa kufikwa kubizo lwabantwana bakho, nguThixo owaziyo, kuba nguThixo obizayo," utshilo uConnor.

"Ukuba ufuna ukufumana impendulo, kuya kufuneka ubuze umbuzo"

Akukho nto uContor noPeyton babelindele ukuba babe ngababingeleli. Kwaye, bathi, ngaba abazali babo okanye abantakwabo balindele okanye baxela kwangaphambili ukuba bangabizwa ngolo hlobo.

Ngamazwi abo, babengabantwana nje "abaqhelekileyo" ababesenza inkolo yabo, befunda kwizikolo zamabanga aphakamileyo, kwaye benomdla kwizinto ezahlukeneyo.

U-Peyton uthe into yokuba bobabini bazive bezisola kokuqala kobubupristi ayisiyonto imangalisayo.

"Ndicinga ukuba wonke umntu olwenza ngokwenyani ukholo lwakhe ukhe wacinga malunga noku okungenani, kuba badibene nomfundisi kwaye umfundisi mhlawumbi wathi, 'Heyi, kufuneka ucinge ngako,' utshilo.

Uninzi lwabahlobo bakaPeyton abazinikeleyo abangama Katolika batshatile ngoku, kwaye wababuza ukuba ngaxa lithile bakhe babukhumbula ububingeleli ngaphambi kokuqonda umtshato. Phantse yonke into, uthe, wathi ewe; Bacinga ngayo iveki okanye ezimbini, kodwa zange babambeke.

Into eyahlukileyo kuye kunye noConnor yayikukuba umbono wobubingeleli awuzange uhambe.

“Wanamathela kum emva koko wahlala nam iminyaka emithathu. Kwaye ekugqibeleni uThixo wathi, “Lixesha, ndoda. Ixesha lokuyenza, utshilo.

"Ndingathanda nje ukukhuthaza abantwana, ukuba ngaba lixesha lokwenyani kwaye liyakuhlasela, ekuphela kwendlela oya kuthi uqonde ukuba iyaya kule semina."

Ukudibana nokwazi ababingeleli, nokubona ukuba bahlala njani kwaye kutheni, kuluncedo kubo bobabini uPeeton noConnor.

"Ubomi bababingeleli zezona zinto ziluncedo kakhulu ukwenza ukuba amanye amadoda acinge ngobubingeleli," utshilo uPeyton.

UConnor uvumile. Kuye, ukuthatha intshontsho lokuya kwisemina xa wayesenokubona yeyona ndlela yokuthatha isigqibo sokuba uThixo umbiza njengombingeleli.

“Ukuba ufuna ukufumana impendulo, kuya kufuneka ubuze umbuzo. Kwaye ekuphela kwendlela yokubuza nokuphendula lo mbuzo wobubingeleli kukuya kwisikolo sabefundisi, ”utshilo.

“Yiya kwisemina. Awuyi kuba mbi ngakumbi ngenxa yoku. Ndiyinyani, uqala ngokuphila ubomi obuzinikele emthandazweni, uqeqesho, ungene ngaphakathi kuwe, ufunde ukuba ungubani, ufunda amandla akho kunye nobuthathaka, ufunda ngakumbi ngokholo. Zonke ezi zinto zilungile. "

Isemina ayisosibophelelo esisigxina. Ukuba umfana uza kwisemina kwaye aqonde ukuba ububingeleli abuyonto yakhe, ayizukubi ngakumbi, utshilo uContor.

"Uqeqeshiwe kwindoda ebhetele, uguqulelo olungcono ngokwakho, uthandaze kakhulu kunokuba ubungayi kuba ubungekho kwisemina."

Njengabantu abaninzi boontanga babo, indlela kaPeyton kunye noConnor ukuya kwabo bokugqibela kubabizi.

"Intlungu enkulu yeminyaka eliwaka ihleli apho kwaye uzama ukucinga malunga nento ofuna ukuyenza ngobomi bakho ixesha elide kangangokuba ubomi bakho budlula," utshilo uPeyton.

Kwaye ke, enye yezinto endizithandayo ukukhuthaza abantu abancinci ukuba bayenze ukuba unoluvo, yenza okuthile ngayo.