Nazi izizathu ezili-18 zokungathandazi
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Siyayifuna okanye ayifuni, sonke siyabona (ukuya kuthi ga ngokubaninzi okanye nangaphantsi) kuboniswe kwezi zizathu zingama-18. Sinethemba lokuba into esiya kuyithetha iluncedo ukuze ukwazi ukucacisela abahlobo bakho ukuba kutheni bengonelanga kwaye kutheni ungayenza nzulu indlela obaluleke ngayo umthandazo ebomini bethu.
1 Ndiza kuthandaza xa ndinexesha elingakumbi, ngoku ndixakekileyo
IMPENDULO: Uyayazi into endiyifumeneyo ebomini? Ukuba elona xesha lililo nelifanelekileyo lokuthandaza alikho! Uhlala unento yokwenza, into engxamisekileyo ekufuneka uyisombulule, umntu ekulindile, usuku olunzima phambi kwakho, uxanduva oluninzi… Endaweni yoko, ukuba ngenye imini ufumanisa ukuba unalo ixesha eliseleyo, khathazeka! Awenzi nto ilungileyo. Elona xesha lilungileyo lokuthandaza namhlanje!
2 Ndithandaza kuphela xa ndisiva, kuba ukuyenza ngaphandle kokuva yinto enobuzenzisi kakhulu
IMPENDULO: Ngokwahlukileyo! Ukuthandaza xa uziva ngathi kulula kakhulu, nabani na uyayenza, kodwa uthandaze xa ungaziva, xa ungakhuthazekanga, eli ligorha! Kukwanomdla ngakumbi, kuba uziphumelele, kufuneka ulwe. Luphawu lokuba into ekushukumisayo ayisiyontando yakho kuphela, kodwa kukuthanda uThixo.
3 Ndingathanda… kodwa andazi ukuba ndithini
IMPENDULO: Ndiyakholelwa ukuba uThixo ebelindele, kuba ebesazi ukuba le nto izakwenzeka kuthi kwaye wasishiya sinesicelo esivakalayo: Iindumiso (eziyinxalenye yebhayibhile). Yimithandazo eqanjwe nguThixo uqobo, kuba liLizwi likaThixo, kwaye xa siphinda iindumiso sifunda ukuthandaza ngala mazwi kaThixo.Funda ukumcela ngokweemfuno zethu, ukumnika umbulelo, ukumdumisa, ukumbonisa ukuguquka, bonisa uvuyo lwethu kuye. Thandaza kunye nezibhalo ezingcwele kwaye uThixo ubeke amazwi emlonyeni.
4 Namhlanje ndidiniwe kukuthandaza
IMPENDULO: Ewe, oko kuthetha ukuba ubunosuku apho wazinika khona, wazama kakhulu. Ngokuqinisekileyo kufuneka uphumle! Phumla emthandazweni. Xa uthandaza kwaye udibana noThixo, uphinde uzidibanise nawe, uThixo ukunika uxolo olungenakuba nalo ngomhla oxakekileyo. Kuyanceda ukuba ubone oko ufumene kona emini kodwa ngendlela eyahlukileyo. Iyakuhlaziya. Umthandazo awukutyhafisi, kodwa yile nto kanye ehlaziya amandla akho angaphakathi!
5 Xa ndithandaza andiziva "kwanto"
IMPENDULO: Kusenokwenzeka, kodwa kukho into ongenakukuthandabuza. Nokuba awuva nto, umthandazo uyakutshintsha, uyenza ngcono kwaye ungcono, kuba ukudibana noThixo kuyasiguqula. Xa udibana nomntu olunge kakhulu kwaye ubamamele okwethutyana, into entle ngabo ihlala kuwe, kungasathethwa ke malunga noThixo!
6 Ndona kakhulu ukuba ndithandaze
IMPENDULO: Ugqibelele, wamkelekile kwiklabhu! Ngokwenyani sonke singaboni. Yiyo kanye le nto kufuneka umthandazo. Umthandazo awulungelanga ogqibeleleyo, kodwa aboni. Ayenzelwe abo sele benayo yonke into, kodwa kwabo bafumanise ukuba baswele.
7 Ndiyakholelwa ukuba xa ndithandaza ndisebenzisa ixesha lam, kwaye ndikhetha ukunceda abanye
IMPENDULO: Ndicebisa into kuwe: sukuphikisana nezi zinto zimbini, zenze zozibini, kwaye uya kubona ukuba xa uthandazela amandla akho okuthanda nokunceda abanye bakhule kakhulu, kuba xa sidibana noThixo eyona nto iphambili kuthi iyaphuma!
8 Ndithandazela ntoni ukuba uThixo akaze andiphendule? Akandiniki into endimbuza yona
IMPENDULO: Xa umntwana ebuza abazali bakhe ngalo lonke ixesha iilekese neelekese okanye yonke imidlalo esevenkileni, abazali abamniki yonke into ayifunayo, kuba ukufundisa umntu kufuneka afundise ukulinda. Ngamanye amaxesha uThixo akasiniki yonke into esiyicelayo kuye kuba uyazi okusilungeleyo. Kwaye ngamanye amaxesha ukungabinayo yonke into, ukuziva sidinga okuthile, ukunyamezela ukubandezeleka kusinceda ukuba sishiye ezinye zentuthuzelo esihlala kuyo kwaye sivule amehlo ethu kwizinto ezifunekayo. UThixo uyazi ukuba usinika ntoni.
9 UThixo sele eyazi into endiyifunayo
IMPENDULO: Kuyinyani, kodwa uya kubona ukuba kuyakwenza into entle. Ukufunda ukubuza kusenza kube lula entliziyweni.
Eli bali lokuphindaphinda imithandazo ibonakala ngathi ayikho ngqi kum
IMPENDULO: Xa umntu umthanda, ukhe wazibuza ukuba mangaphi amaxesha omxelela ukuba uyamthanda? Xa unomhlobo olungileyo, mangaphi amaxesha ubabiza ukuba bancokole kwaye baphume kunye? Kukangaphi umama ephindaphinda isenzo sokubonisa ukumanga nokumanga? Kukho izinto ebomini esiziphindayo rhoqo kwaye azidinwa okanye zidikwe, kuba zivela kuthando! Kwaye izimbo zothando zihlala zizisa into entsha kubo.
11 Andiva isidingo sokukwenza
IMPENDULO: Kwenzeka ngenxa yezizathu ezininzi, kodwa eyona nto ixhaphakileyo namhlanje kukuba silibale ukondla imimoya yethu kubomi bemihla ngemihla. I-Facebook, imisebenzi, amakhwenkwe, isikolo, izinto zokuzonwabisa… sigcwele zizinto, kodwa akukho nanye kuzo esincedayo ukuba sithi cwaka ngaphakathi kwethu sizibuze imibuzo esisiseko: ngoobani? Ndonwabile? Ndifuna ntoni ebomini bam? Ndiyakholelwa ukuba xa siphila ngokuhambelana nale mibuzo indlala kaThixo ibonakala ngokwendalo… Ungathini xa ingabonakali? Yicele, thandaza ucele kuThixo isipho sokuziva ulambile ngothando lwaKhe.
12 Ndithandaza ngcono xa ndinomngxunya "ngemini."
IMPENDULO: Ungamniki uThixo okuseleyo kunexesha lakho! Musa ukumshiya eneentsimbi zobomi bakho! Mnike okona kulungileyo kuwe, lelona xesha lifanelekileyo lobomi bakho, xa uphumelele ngakumbi kwaye uphaphile! Nika uThixo okona kubomi bakho, ingenguye oseleyo.
Ukundithandazela kakhulu, kufanele ukuba kube mnandi kakhulu
IMPENDULO: Yenza imathematics yakho kwaye uya kubona ukuba enyanisweni ezona zinto zibalulekileyo ebomini azihlekisi, kodwa kubaluleke kangakanani kwaye ziyimfuneko! Hayi indlela esiyifunayo ngayo! Mhlawumbi ukuthandaza akukuphathi kakubi, kodwa hayi indlela ekuzalisa ngayo intliziyo yakho! Ukhetha ntoni?
14 Andithandazi kuba andazi ukuba nguThixo ondiphendulayo okanye ndinguye ondinika iimpendulo
IMPENDULO: Xa uthandaza kunye neZibhalo eziNgcwele, ucamngca ngeLizwi likaThixo, unokuqiniseka kakhulu. Le nto uyivayo ayingawo amazwi akho, kodwa lelona Lizwi likaThixo lithetha entliziyweni yakho. Akukho mathandabuzo. NguThixo othetha nawe.
15 UThixo akayifuni imithandazo yam
IMPENDULO: Kuyinyani, kodwa hayi indlela awonwaba ngayo xa ebona ukuba unyana wakhe uyamkhumbula! Kwaye ungalibali ukuba enyanisweni oyifunayo kakhulu nguwe!
16 Kutheni le nto ndithandaza ukuba sele ndinayo yonke into endiyifunayo?
IMPENDULO: UPopu Benedict XVI wathi ukuba uMkristu ongathandaziyo ungumKristu osengozini, kwaye kuyinyani. Abo bangathandazi basengozini yokuba baphulukane nokholo lwabo, kwaye eyona nto ibaxekileyo kukuba kuyakwenzeka kancinci, ungakuqondi. Qaphela ukuba, ukucinga ukuba unayo yonke into, awuhlali ngaphandle kweyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu, oko kukuthi, uThixo ebomini bakho.
17 Sele bebaninzi abantu abathandazayo
IMPENDULO: Kumnandi kanjani ukuba unabantu abaninzi abakuthandayo nabakhathaleleyo. Ndiyakholelwa ke ukuba unezizathu ezininzi zokuthandaza nawe, ukuqala ngabo bonke abasele bekuthandazela. Ngenxa yokuba uthando luhlawulwa ngothando oluninzi!
Akukho lula ukuthi… kodwa andinayo icawe kufutshane
IMPENDULO: Kulungile ukuthandaza ecaweni, kodwa akukho sidingo sokuya ecaweni uyokuthandaza. Unamathuba aliwaka: thandaza egumbini lakho okanye kwindawo ethe cwaka endlwini (ndiyakhumbula ukuba bendihlala ndisiya eluphahleni lwesakhiwo sam kuba bekuthulekile kwaye umoya undixelela ngobukho bukaThixo), yiya ehlathini okanye uthethe irosari yakho ebhasini oko kukuthatha uye emsebenzini okanye kwikholeji. Ukuba ungaya ecaweni, kodwa uyabona? Zininzi ezinye iindawo ezilungileyo zokuthandaza 😉