Umtshato ngokutsho kwebhayibhile
Umtshato ngumba obalulekileyo kubomi bobuKristu. Iincwadi ezininzi, iimagazini kunye nezixhobo zokucebisa ngomtshato zinikezelwe kumxholo wokulungiselela umtshato kunye nokuphuculwa komtshato. Ebhayibhelini, kukho ngaphezulu kwama-500 ekubhekiswa kuwo kwiTestamente eNdala neNtsha kumagama athi "umtshato", "otshatileyo", "umyeni" kunye "nenkosikazi".
Umtshato wamaKristu kunye noqhawulo mtshato namhlanje
Ngokutsho kohlalutyo lwamanani olwenziwe kumaqela ahlukeneyo abantu, umtshato oqala namhlanje umalunga neepesenti ezingama-41-43 kusenokwenzeka ukuba uphele kuqhawulo mtshato. Uphando oluqulunqwe nguGlenn T. Stanton, Umlawuli we-Global Insight wokuvuselela inkcubeko kunye nosapho kunye nohlalutyo oluphezulu lomtshato kunye nezesondo kwi-Focus on the Family, ityhila ukuba abavangeli abangamaKristu abaya rhoqo ecaweni kuqhawulo-mtshato ngezinga eliphantsi I-35% ithelekiswa nezibini ezitshatileyo. Imikhwa efanayo iyafumaneka kuqheliselo lwamaKatolika namaProtestanti asebenza ngaphambili. Ngokwahlukileyo koko, abo bazibiza ngokuba ngamaKristu, abafane bangayi ecaweni, banenqanaba eliphezulu loqhawulo-mtshato kunezibini zehlabathi.
UStanton, okwangumbhali we Kutheni Imicimbi Yomtshato: Izizathu Zokukholelwa Emtshatweni kwiPostmodern Society, unika ingxelo: "Ukuzibophelela ngokwenkolo, endaweni yokuzibandakanya kwezenkolo nje, kunegalelo kumanqanaba amakhulu empumelelo yomtshato."
Ukuba ukuzibophelela kokwenyani kwinkolo yakho yobuKristu kuya kukhokelela kumtshato owomeleleyo, mhlawumbi iBhayibhile inento ebalulekileyo ekufuneka iyithethile ngalo mbandela.
Umtshato wenzelwe ubuhlobo kunye nokusondelelana
INkosi uThixo yathi, 'Akulungile ukuba umntu abe yedwa. Ndizomenzela uncedo olufanelekileyo '… kwaye ngelixa elele, wathatha olunye lweembambo zale ndoda wayivala indawo ngenyama leyo.
UYehova uThixo walwakha ubambo abeluthabathe kuAdam, lwaba ngumfazi; wamzisa kuAdam. Wathi uAdam, Eli ke ngoku lithambo lasemathanjeni am, yinyama yasenyameni yam; uya kubizwa ngokuba ngumfazi, kususela oko wathatyathwa endodeni. Ngenxa yesi sizathu indoda iya kumshiya uyise nonina, inamathele emfazini wayo, baze babe nyama-nye. IGenesis 2:18, 21-24, NIV)
Apha sibona umanyano lokuqala phakathi kwendoda nomfazi: umtshato wokuqala. Kule ngxelo kwiGenesis sinokugqiba ukuba umtshato yingcinga kaThixo, eyilwe kwaye yasungulwa nguMdali. Sifumanisa ukuba embindini wecebo likaThixo lomtshato kukudibana kunye nokusondelelana.
Iindima zamadoda nabafazi emtshatweni
Ngenxa yokuba indoda yintloko yomfazi wayo njengokuba noKristu eyintloko yomzimba wakhe, ibandla; wanikela ngobomi bakhe ukuba abe nguMsindisi. Njengoko ibandla lithobela kuKristu, ngokunjalo abafazi mabathobele awabo amadoda ezintweni zonke.
Kwaye nina nina madoda, bathandeni abafazi benu, njengoko uthando awalubonisayo uKristu ebandleni. Wanikela ngobomi bakhe ukuze abenze bube ngcwele kwaye buhlambuluke, buhlanjwe ngobhaptizo kunye nelizwi likaThixo.Ukwenzile oko ukuba azise kuye njengecawe ezukileyo ngaphandle kwamabala, imibimbi okanye ezinye iimpazamo. Endaweni yoko, uya kuba ngcwele kwaye abe msulwa. Ngokukwanjalo, amadoda afanele abathande abafazi bawo njengoko ezithanda nemizimba yawo. Kuba indoda iyazithanda kakhulu xa ithanda umfazi wayo. Akukho mntu uthiyile umzimba wakhe kodwa uwukhathalela ngothando, njengokuba noKristu enyamekela owakhe umzimba, eli ke ibandla. Kwaye ke singumzimba wakhe.
Njengokuba * iziBhalo zitshoyo ukuthi: “Indoda iya kumshiya uyise nonina, inamathele emfazini wayo, baze abo babini babe nyama-nye. Oku kuyimfihlakalo enkulu, kodwa ngumzekeliso wendlela uKristu nebandla abanye ngayo. Kwabase-Efese 5: 23-32, NLT)
Lo mfanekiso womtshato e-Efese uyanda ube yinto ebanzi ngakumbi kunenkampani kunye nokusondelelana. Ubudlelwane bomtshato bubonisa ubudlelwane phakathi kukaYesu Krestu nebandla. Amadoda ayamenywa ukuba ashiye ubomi bawo kuthando lokuzincama kunye nokukhuselwa kwabafazi. Ekuthandeni okuqinisekileyo nangokuthandekayo kwendoda enothando, nguwuphi umfazi ongavumiyo ukuthobela ukhokelo lwakhe?
Indoda nomfazi bahlukile kodwa bayalingana
Ngokukwanjalo, nina bafazi kufuneka nilamkele igunya labayeni benu, kwanabo bangavumiyo ukuzamkela iindaba ezilungileyo. Ubomi bakho bobuThixo buya kuthetha kubo ngcono kunalo naliphi na igama. Baya koyiswa ngokujonga isimilo sakho esinyulu nesinyulu.
Sukuba nexhala ngobuhle bangaphandle… Kufuneka waziwe ngobuhle obuvela ngaphakathi, ubuhle obungenakunqandwa bomoya opholileyo nozolileyo, oxabiseke kakhulu kuThixo. Ngokunjalo ke nani madoda kufuneka nibabeke abafazi benu. Mphathe ngokuqonda njengoko nihlala kunye. Unokuba buthathaka kunawe, kodwa uliqabane lakho elilinganayo kwisipho sikaThixo sobomi obutsha. Ukuba awumphathi ngokufanelekileyo, imithandazo yakho ayiyi kuphendulwa. (1 Petros 3: 1-5, 7, NLT)
Abanye abafundi bazakuyeka apha. Ukuxelela abayeni ukuba bathathe inxaxheba egunyazisiweyo emtshatweni kunye nabafazi ukuba baveze ayisosikhokelo namhlanje. Nangona kunjalo, eli lungiselelo emtshatweni libonisa ubudlelwane phakathi kukaYesu Krestu nomtshakazi wakhe, ibandla.
Le ndinyana kweyoku-1 kaPetros yongeza ukhuthazo ngakumbi kubafazi ukuba bazithobe kubayeni babo, kwanakwabo bangamaziyo uKrestu. Nangona lo mceli mngeni unzima, le ndinyana ithembisa ukuba ubuntu bumfazi kunye nobuhle bangaphakathi buyoyisa umyeni ngempumelelo kunamazwi akhe. Amadoda kufuneka ahlonele abafazi bawo, abe nobubele, abe nobubele nokuqonda.
Ukuba asilumkanga, nangona kunjalo, siya kuphoswa kukuba iBhayibhile ithi amadoda nabafazi ngamaqabane alinganayo kwisipho sikaThixo sobomi obutsha. Nangona umyeni esebenzisa indima yegunya nomyalelo kwaye umfazi esenza umsebenzi wokuzithoba, bobabini ziindlalifa ezilinganayo ebukumkanini bukaThixo. Iindima zabo zahlukile kodwa zibalulekile.
Injongo yomtshato kukukhula kunye kubungcwele
1 kwabaseKorinte 7: 1-2
… Kulungile ukuba indoda ingatshati. Kodwa ke, ngenxa yoomibulo, elowo makabe nowakhe umfazi, athi elowo abe neyakhe indoda. (NIV)
Le ndinyana icebisa ukuba kungcono ungatshati. Abo bakwimitshato enzima baya kuvuma kungekudala. Kuyo yonke imbali, bekukholelwa ukuba ukuzibophelela okunzulu kwizinto zokomoya kunokufezekiswa ngobomi bokuzinikela ekungatshatini.
Le vesi ibhekisa ekuziphatheni okubi ngokwesondo. Ngamanye amazwi, kungcono ukutshata kunokuziphatha kakubi ngokwesini. Kodwa ukuba siyayicacisa intsingiselo yokubandakanya zonke iindlela zokuziphatha gwenxa, sinokubandakanya ukuzicingela, ukubawa, ukufuna ukulawula, inzondo nayo yonke imiba evela xa singena kubudlelwane obusondeleyo.
Ngaba kunokwenzeka ukuba enye yeenjongo ezinzulu zomtshato (ngaphandle kokuzala, ukusondelelana kunye nobudlelwane) kukusinyanzela ukuba sijongane neempazamo zethu? Cinga ngokuziphatha kunye nezimo zengqondo esingasoze saze sizibone ngaphandle kobudlelwane obusondeleyo. Ukuba sivumela imiceli mngeni yomtshato ukuba isinyanzele kwiziqu zethu, sisebenzisa uqeqesho oluxabisekileyo lokomoya.
Kwincwadi yakhe, Umtshato oNgcwele, uGary Thomas ubuza lo mbuzo: "Ungathini ukuba uThixo ebecebe umtshato ukusenza sibe ngcwele ngaphezu kokusonwabisa?" Ngaba kunokwenzeka ukuba kukho into enzulu ngakumbi entliziyweni kaThixo kunokusenza sonwabe?
Ngaphandle kwamathandabuzo, umtshato ophilileyo unokuba ngumthombo wolonwabo olukhulu nolwaneliseko, kodwa uThomas ucebisa ngento ebhetele nangakumbi, into engunaphakade- ukuba umtshato sisixhobo sikaThixo sokwenza ukuba sifane noYesu Krestu.
Kwicebo likaThixo, sibizelwe ukuba sisekele iinjongo zethu zokuthanda nokusebenzela amaqabane ethu. Ngomtshato sifunda ngothando, intlonipho, imbeko nendlela yokuxolela nokuxolelwa. Siyazibona iimpazamo zethu kwaye siyakhula kuloo mbono. Sikhulisa intliziyo yesicaka kwaye sisondela kuThixo.Ngenxa yoko, sifumana ulonwabo lwenene lomphefumlo.