Impumelelo kwezemfundo okanye ukusilela kwabazali (nguTata uGiulio Scozzaro)

Ndikhumbula uSt John Bosco, utitshala omkhulu wabantu abatsha, kanye kula maxesha okuwohloka ngokwasemoyeni kunye nokuphelelwa lithemba kwabantu abatsha. Siva iingxelo ezingakumbi nangakumbi zabantu abatsha abaswelekileyo bexhonywe kwiziyobisi okanye kwiingxabano ezinomsindo phakathi kwabo. Ipesenti yabantu abatsha abangathandaziyo okanye abangamazi uYesu iphezulu, ngaphezulu kwama-95%. Bacinga ntoni abazali?
ISan Giovanni Bosco ibingaqhelekanga ngabantwana, abantu abancinci, amawaka abantwana abalahliweyo kwisitalato esixekweni saseTurin, kwaye ngokuzinikela okukhulu wazinikezela ekusindisweni kwabo. Wabachola esitalatweni, uninzi lwabo beliziinkedama, abanye belahliwe ngabazali ngenxa yendlala nokungakhathali.
I-oratory njengoko uSan Giovanni Bosco ekhulelwe yindawo egcina abantu abaninzi abancinci kubuvuvu obunobungozi, ukusuka kubuvila obukhoyo kwaye oku kungoneliseki kukhokelela kumnqweno okhulayo wokubhenela kwiziyobisi, utywala kunye nokwabelana ngesondo okungcolileyo.
Ingxaki yokwenyani namhlanje kukungabikho kolwakhiwo lwenkolo, abanalo ulwazi oluchanekileyo lwamaxabiso oluntu kwaye bahlala belahlekile kwaye benxunguphele.
Iimpazamo ikakhulu zezabazali. Izizukulwana ezibini zokugqibela zibonisa ukuba abazali baxhalabele kuphela ukukholisa abantwana babo kuyo yonke into, bebashiya bekhululekile ukuba babuyele ekhaya ngalo naliphi na ilixa lobusuku, bevumela into engekho mthethweni nengafanelekanga nakubantu.
Bayazikhohlisa ngokuba babe nabona bantwana babalaseleyo ekuboneni bonwabile kodwa oku kuza ngokubanika yonke into abayicelayo.
Ngaphandle kwabambalwa, bonke abanye abazali abazazi izicwangciso kunye nobuxoki babantwana babo, benza ntoni xa bephuma, bayaphi kwaye benza ntoni. Abazazi iimpazamo zabantwana babo kwaye bayabancoma ngokungathi babengenasimilo kwaye baziphatha ngokuchanekileyo naxa bekude nekhaya ...
Abazali abazaziyo iimpazamo ezinzulu kakhulu zabantwana babo kwaye bavale amehlo kuyo yonke into, bayazihoya okanye bade bazichaze iimpazamo kunye nenyaniso ngokuqina okungathethekiyo, ngenxa yothando lwabo olubi kwaye bashiye abantwana beqinisekile ukuba bavunyelwe ukwenza yonke into.
Abazali kufuneka bahlale bebathanda abantwana babo, kodwa kufuneka bafikelele kulwazi olupheleleyo ngezithintelo neentsilelo zabantwana babo ukubanceda kwaye, ukuba kukho imfuneko, ukubangxolisa rhoqo. Olu luthando lwenene, kufuneka basoloko bebonisa into echanekileyo yokwenza, izibonelelo zomphefumlo, isazela.
NGAPHANDLE KOKULUNGISA, NGAPHANDLE KOKUQHUBA NGOKHUSELEKILEYO, ABANTU ABASELULA BAKHULA NGAPHANDLE, BAPHUMELELE KWINtLOKO, NGOXA IINTSHOMBI, ZIBONAKALISILE ZIBONELELE ENDLWINI.
XA UMNTWANA EBETHA INGQONDO YOKUTHULA, UTHATHA WONKE UMNTU UKUFUMANA OKUTHANDAYO, NAKUBA ANGAKUVAKALISI IXESHA LAKHE NOKUBI KAKHULU KAKHULU AKWENZA NEZIHLOBO ZAKHE!
Inkqubo kunye nabantwana kubudala bophuhliso kufuneka ibe nothando, rhoqo kunye nokwakha, kubenze bathethe kakhulu ukubalungisa. Uninzi lwabazali luzifumana luphakamile ebantwaneni xa bephuma nabahlobo, okanye iziyobisi, okanye bengamakhoboka amanyala angathethekiyo babuyele emakhayeni abo benobuso obufana neengelosi ezincinci ... Baphi abazali?
Ngaphandle kwabambalwa, bonke abanye abazali abayikhathalelanga imfundo yenkolo yabantwana babo, mhlawumbi bayoneliseka xa besiya eMthendelekweni kodwa eli linyathelo lokuqala. Abantwana kufuneka benziwe ngokuthetha kakhulu nabo sele bengabantwana ukuze bazi imikhwa kunye nobuthathaka, nkqu notyekelo oluthe cwaka ukuze ungabonakalisi ubuthathaka babo.
Abantwana kufuneka bamamele, bathobele kwaye balandele iingcebiso zabazali kumava abo obomi nakwiminyaka yobudala kwaye oku kufanele ukuba kubonise ukulungelelana, kodwa oko akusoloko kusenzeka ngenxa yokudideka kwengqondo kunye nobuthathaka behlabathi babazali.
Umzali ubathanda ngenene abantwana bakhe xa ejonge imiphefumlo yabo, kuphela baya kuphila ngonaphakade, ngelixa umzimba uya kubola. Kodwa ayingobazali kuphela abazixhalabisayo ngemiphefumlo, ikwabalulekile nakwimpilo yabantwana babo, nesondlo esifanelekileyo kunye nento efunekayo kubomi obunesidima.
Uthando lokomoya nolukhulileyo lwabazali ngabantwana babo lukhona xa behambisa imfundo yenkolo ngokungqinelana neVangeli.
Inani elingaqhelekanga likaSt. John Bosco ngumzekelo wabo bonke abazali, yena "onendlela yothintelo" ukwazile ukuthambisa iingcungcu ezisencinci njengezilo, ezinikele ekuziphatheni okubi, ubusela nakulo lonke uhlobo lokreqo.
Kuyenzeka ukuba uphinde ubuyele kulutsha olulahlekileyo, kuthatha uthando olukhulu, ukusondelelana, ukuqiniseka kunye nokuhlala ukhokelwa, ubathandazela rhoqo.
Kwimfundo yokuziphatha neyoluntu yabantwana nabantu abancinci, kubalulekile ukubalumkisa ngeziphumo zokuziphatha kwabo krwada kwaye zihlala zinobundlobongela, kubanika umba wokuba bangalimi kangako kuba abanankathalo kwaye khumbula izilumkiso zabazali babo.
Ngaphandle kwezi zikhumbuzi kunye nokusilela emva kweentsuku ezimbalwa zento abantwana babo abayithandayo, abazali ababancedi abantwana nabantwana abancinci.
Sisenzo sokwenyani sothando kubo ukubabuyisela emva ngokuqina kunye nothando olukhulu, ngaphandle koko bathatha indawo kwaye yonke into ifanelekile.
Abantwana (abantwana okanye abantu abancinci) akufuneki banikwe yonke into abathi ayibalulekanga, ukuba babuthathaka kule nto kwaye bazimisela ngokusemthethweni, sele bephumelele.
Yindlela elungileyo yokwenza ukuba "bayifumane" ngokuhlonipha amalungu osapho, isimilo esingenakugwetywa ngaphakathi nangaphandle, ngokuzalisekiswa kwemisebenzi, yezinto zabo, ezinje ngomthandazo, ukuzibophelela ekufundeni, ukuhlonipha wonke umntu, ukuhlela yegumbi kwaye uncede ukunikezela malunga nendlu.
Imfundo yezoluntu inika isiseko semfundo kwizizukulwana ezizayo, abantu abaya kuthatha isikhundla, kwaye isazela kufuneka senziwe ngabazali.
Kude kube bakhuleliswe ngobubi, abantu abancinci bamsulwa, yinto ekufuneka ibunjiwe kwaye bayilwa yimizekelo abayifumanayo. Ayisiyiyo kuphela imeko ethandekayo nengaguquguqukiyo yabazali, ukunyaniseka kwengqondo kootitshala, okumisela impumelelo kwezemfundo ngumxholo.
Indlela, okusingqongileyo, impilo, amathuba alinganayo kunye nemfundo esemthethweni "ayisoloko ichaza iziphumo zokufunda kunye nokuguqulwa kokuziphatha kwabahlali, akwenzeki ngenxa yenkcubeko yolwaphulo-mthetho nobundlobongela, abayifumana kwiwebhu nakwithelevishini, iimvumi ezingenazimpawu zokuziphatha kwaye zihlala zingabalimi.
Namhlanje phantse bonke abantu abatsha bakhula ngaphandle kwemiyalelo ekhuselekileyo nechanekileyo evela kubazali babo.
Isimo sengqondo esifakwa namhlanje ngamajelo osasazo sinika abantu abancinci i-swagger ethi kumashumi ambalwa eminyaka eyadlulayo ibingacingeki, kwaye oku kukwabonisa ubuthathaka babazali abaphosakeleyo ngokulunga, ububele, isisa. Endaweni yoko kukungqinelana neendlela ezingezozemfundo, ukungakwazi ukuncokola nabantwana, ubuthathaka xa abantwana bephakamisa amazwi abo okanye bekhala!
KUKUSILELA NGOKUPHELELEYO KWENDIMA YABAZALI NEZEMFUNDO.
E-Itali kukho imeko engxamisekileyo ekhulayo yemfundo kunye nokungabikho kwemfundiso yokuziphatha ecwangcisiweyo kunye negxekayo yemithetho yobomi boluntu, kubandakanya isimilo esihle kunye nokuziphatha okuhle.
Ndiyabakhusela abancinci kwaye ndiyabachasa abazali uxanduva lwendima engenakuphinda ibekho ngokwenkolo nangokokuziphatha. Kumele kuthiwe kwanabantu abatsha abafundileyo namhlanje balahlekiswa ngokulula lolunye ulutsha olunganyanisekanga, olungamakhoboka okuziphatha okubi noluswele imfundo.
Ukuba ngumzali kunzima, ke ngaphandle komthandazo, ngaphandle koncedo lukaYesu, awunakho ukujongana nabantu abancinci kwaye kusilele ngokwenene.
KwiVangeli, uYesu uvusa intombazana, ke bonke abazali kufuneka bacele eNkosini ukuba ikhulisele abantwana babo kubomi obungenanjongo, ubundlobongela kunye nokufa, kuzo zonke iindlela zokuziphatha ezichasene nokuziphatha kobuKristu.
Abazali kufuneka bancede abantwana babo kakhulu besebancinci, ayilulo ulonwabo lwenene xa bebakholisa kuyo yonke into, kodwa xa bekhula ngendlela uYesu afuna ngayo.
Xa umfana ebonakala elahlekile kwaye simthandazela kakhulu, ukuguquka kwakhe, ukuvuswa kwakhe ngokomoya kuyacelwa, uYesu uhlala emamele kwaye angenelele kwakamsinya nje akufumana ukuvulwa kwentliziyo yomfana. UYesu uyabathanda bonke abantu abatsha kwaye ufuna ukusindisa wonke umntu ekugwetyweni okungunaphakade, nina bazali ninomsebenzi wokufundisa abantwana benu ukuthandaza.
Abantu abancinci abavalelekileyo kwaye ngaphandle kokholo kuThixo banokutshintsha babe ngamaKristu alungileyo, aqwalasele isimilo, ngemithandazo yabazali babo!