Ngaba iingelosi zibagcina njani abantwana?
Abantwana badinga uncedo lweengelosi ezigadayo nangakumbi kunabantu abadala kweli lizwe liwileyo, njengoko abantwana bengekafundi kangako njengabantu abadala malunga nokuzama ukuzikhusela engozini. Abantu abaninzi bakholelwa ukuba uThixo usikelela abantwana ngenkathalo egqithisileyo kwiingelosi. Nantsi indlela iingelosi ezingabalindi ezinokusebenza ngayo ngoku, ukongamela abantwana bakho kunye nabo bonke abanye abantwana ehlabathini:
Abahlobo bokwenene nabangabonakaliyo
Abantwana bayakonwabela ukucinga ngabahlobo abangabonakaliyo ngelixa bedlala. Kodwa eneneni banabahlobo abangabonakaliyo ngohlobo lweengelo lomlondolozi lokwenyani, amakholwa atsho. Ngapha koko, kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba abantwana banike ingxelo ngokwendalo ukubona iingelosi zokugada kwaye bahlule ezo zinto zidibana ngokwenyani kwilizwe labo eliyintsomi, ngelixa bebonakalisa imvakalelo yokumangala kumava abo.
Kwincwadi yakhe ethi The Essential Guide to Catholic Prayer and the Mass, uMary DeTurris Poust ubhala athi: "Abantwana banokuziqonda ngokulula kwaye babambelele kumbono wengelosi engumlondolozi. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, abantwana baqhele ukwenza abahlobo bokucinga. xa befunda ukuba bahlala benomhlobo wokwenene ongabonakaliyo kunye nabo, umntu omsebenzi kukugcina iliso kubo?
Ewe, wonke umntwana uhlala phantsi kweliso elibukhali leengelosi ezingumlondolozi, uYesu Krestu ucacisa xa exelela abantwana bakhe abafundi kuMateyu 18:10 weBhayibhile: “Lumkani, ningadeli namnye waba bancinane; ukuba iingelosi zabo ezulwini zihlala zibubona ubuso bukaBawo osemazulwini “.
Unxibelelwano lwendalo
Ukuvuleleka kwendalo okholweni ukuba abantwana banokubonakala kwenza ukuba kube lula kubo kunabantu abadala ukuba babone ubukho beengelosi ezigada. Iingelosi zabagadi kunye nabantwana babelana ngonxibelelwano lwendalo, amakholwa athi, okwenza abantwana babe nochuku ngakumbi xa kuqatshelwa ziingelosi ezigciniweyo.
Kwincwadi yakhe ethi A Knowing: Living with Psychic Children, uChristina A. Pierson ubhala athi: “Abantwana bam bahlala bethetha kwaye benxibelelana neengelosi zabo ezingabalindi bengakhange babhekise okanye bacele igama. "Oku kubonakala ngathi yinto eqhelekileyo njengoko abantu abadala befuna amagama ukuba bachonge kwaye bachaze zonke izinto nezinto. Abantwana bayaziqonda iingelosi zabo ngokwesiseko sezinye, izikhombisi ezichaziweyo, ezifana nokuziva, ukungcangcazela, umbala. umbala, isandi kunye nokubona. "
Uyolo kwaye ugcwele ithemba
Abantwana abadibana neengelosi ezingabalindi bahlala bevela kumava aphawulwe lulonwabo kunye nethemba, utsho umphandi uRaymond A. Moody. Kwincwadi yakhe ethi The Light Beyond, uMoody uxoxa ngodliwanondlebe awayelwenza nabantwana ababenamava okusondela ekufeni kwaye bahlala bechaza ukubona iingelosi ezingabalondolozi zibathuthuzela kwaye zibakhokela kula mava. UMoody ubhala ukuba "kwinqanaba leklinikhi, eyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu kwii-NDE zobuntwana kukuqonda" ubomi obungaphaya "abakufumanayo nokuba kubachaphazela njani ubomi babo bonke: abo bonwabile kwaye banethemba ngakumbi kunabanye. rhangqa. "
Fundisa abantwana ukuba banxibelelane neengelosi ezigada
Kulungile ukuba abazali bafundise abantwana babo indlela yokunxibelelana neengelosi abagcinayo abanokudibana nazo, amakholwa umzekelo, ngakumbi xa abantwana bejamelene neengxaki kwaye banokusebenzisa ukhuthazo olongezelelekileyo okanye isikhokelo kwiingelosi zabo. "Singabafundisa abantwana bethu - ngomthandazo wangokuhlwa, umzekelo wemihla ngemihla kunye nencoko ngamaxesha athile - ukubuyela kwingelosi yabo xa boyika okanye befuna ukukhokelwa. Asiceli ingelosi ukuba iphendule umthandazo wethu kodwa siye Thixo ngomthandazo wethu kwaye usirhangqe ngothando “.
Ufundisa ukuqonda kwabantwana
Ngelixa uninzi lweengelo ezingelogada zinobuhlobo kwaye zinezinto ezintle abantwana abanomdla kuzo, abazali kufuneka baqonde ukuba ayizizo zonke iingelosi ezithembekileyo kwaye zifundisa abantwana babo ukuba baqonde xa benokunxibelelana nengelozi liwile, abanye bathi amakholwa.
Kwincwadi yakhe ethi A Knowing: Living with Psychic Children, uPierson ubhala ukuba abantwana "bangaziculela [iingelosi ezingumlondolozi wabo] ngokuzenzekelayo. Abantwana banokukhuthazwa ukuba benze njalo, kodwa qiniseka ukuba uchaza ukuba ilizwi, okanye ulwazi oluzayo kubo, kufuneka bahlale benothando kwaye benobubele kwaye bangabi krwada okanye babaphathe gadalala: ukuba umntwana uza kwabelana ngento leyo ebonisa ukungakhathali, kuya kufuneka acetyiswe ukuba angalihoyi okanye alithintele elo ziko kwaye acele uncedo nokhuselo kwelinye icala. ".
Chaza ukuba iingelosi azingomlingo
Kwakhona abazali kufuneka bancede abantwana babo ukuba bacinge ngokugcina iingelosi ezingabakhuseli kwimbonakalo eyiyo endaweni yokujonga umlingo, amakholwa atsho, ke ukuze babe nako ukulawula izinto ezilindelekileyo kwiingelosi zabo.
UPoust ubhala athi kwi-Essential Guide to Catholic Prayer and Mass. “Le yimeko enzima nakubantu abadala, eyona ndlela siyisebenzisayo kukukhumbuza abantwana bethu ukuba iingelosi aziyomlingo, zikhona ukuze zibe nathi, kodwa azinakusenzela thina okanye zenzele abanye, njalo njalo. Ngamanye amaxesha umsebenzi wengelosi yethu kukusithuthuzela xa kukho into embi eyenzekayo. "
Yiza nezinto ezikhathazayo zabantwana bakho kwiingelosi ezigcinayo
Umbhali uDoreen Virtue, ebhala kwincwadi yakhe ethi The Care and Feeding of Indigo Children, ukhuthaza abazali abaxhalabileyo ngabantwana babo ukuba bathethe ngezinto ezibaxhalabisayo kwiingelosi ezingabalindi babantwana babo, bebacela ukuba bancede nakweyiphi na imeko enxunguphalisayo. "Ungayenza ngengqondo, ngokuthethela phezulu okanye ngokubhala ileta ende," kubhala uVirtue. “Xelela iingelosi zonke izinto ocinga ngazo, kubandakanya neemvakalelo ongaqhayisi ngazo. Ngokunyaniseka kwiingelosi, zingcono ukukunceda. … Sukuba nexhala lokuba uThixo okanye iingelosi ziyakukugweba okanye bohlwaye xa uthetha imvakalelo yakho enyanisekileyo kubo: Izulu lihlala liyazi into esivakalelwa ngayo, kodwa azinako ukusinceda ukuba asizivuli ngokwenene iintliziyo zethu.
Funda kubantwana
Iindlela ezintle abantwana abanxibelelana ngazo neengelosi ezingabalondolozi zinokukhuthaza abantu abadala ukuba bafunde kumzekelo wabo, njengamakholwa. "... Isikhokelo esibalulekileyo kuMthandazo wamaKatolika kunye neMisa.