UJelena waseMedjugorje: Ndikuxelela indlela obaluleke ngayo umtshato
Nge-24 ka-Agasti, uJelena Vasilj wajoyina umtshato noMassimiliano Valente kwicawa yaseSan Giacomo eMedjugorje. Ngokwenene yayingumtshato ogcwele uvuyo nomthandazo! Umbono uMarija Pavlovic-Lunetti wayengomnye wamangqina. Kuyinto enqabileyo ukubona amaqabane amatsha emhle kangaka kwaye eqaqambile! Kwiveki ngaphambi komtshato, beza kusityelela kwaye sancokola ixesha elide malunga nokubaluleka kwesi sibini singamaKristu. Khumbula ukuba, ukutyhubela iminyaka, uJelena wafumana iimfundiso kuMadonna ngokusebenzisa indawo yangaphakathi, encediswa nguTata uTomislav Vlasic, nokokuba wakhethwa yiNtombi ukuba akhokele iqela lomthandazo, ade ayokufunda eMelika. Umanyano, ngo-1991.
Nazi ezinye zeempendulo zikaJelena kwimibuzo endimbuze yona:
Umr: Ummeli: Jelena, ndiyazi ukuba uvulelekile ngokupheleleyo ekuthandweni nguThixo ebomini bakho. Uqonde njani ukuba indlela yakho yayingeye yomtshato hayi enye?
UJelena: Ndisabubona ubuhle bazo zombini izigqibo zobomi! Kwaye ngendlela, ndatsala umdla kubomi benkolo. Ubomi benkolo bubomi obuhle kakhulu kwaye ndiyitsho ngokukhululekileyo phambi kukaMaxim. Ndongeze, ukuba ndiziva ndibuhlungu ndicinga ukuba andizukuphila ubomi obufanelekileyo benkolo! Kodwa ndiyabona ukuba ngokunxibelelana nomnye umntu, ndiyaceba. IMassimiliano iyandinceda ukuba ndibengaphezulu koko ndikuko ukuba ngumntu ongumntu. Ewe kunjalo, nam bendinethuba lokukhula ngokomoya ngaphambili, kodwa olu lwalamano lukaMassimiliano lundinceda kakhulu ukukhula njengomntu kunye nokuphuhlisa ezinye iimpawu. Kuyandinceda ukuba ndibe nokholo oluqinileyo. Ngaphambili, bendihlala ndibanjwa ngamava angaqhelekanga kwaye bendihlala ngohlobo lokonwaba ngokomoya. Ngoku, ukunxibelelana nomnye umntu ongumntu, ndibizelwe emnqamlezweni kwaye ndiyabona ukuba ubomi bam buyakhula.
Sr. Em: Uthetha ukuthini ngokuthi "ubizelwe emnqamlezweni"?
Jelena: Kufuneka ufe kancinci xa utshata! Ngaphandle koko, omnye uhlala ezithanda kakhulu ekufuneni kwakhe omnye, ngomngcipheko wokuphoxeka; ngakumbi xa sinethemba lokuba omnye angasusa uloyiko lwethu okanye asombulule iingxaki zethu. Ndicinga ukuba, ekuqaleni, ndiye ngakwelinye icala ngokungathi yindawo yokuzimela. Kodwa, ngethamsanqa, uMassimiliano akazange afune ukuba yile ndawo ndizimela kuyo. Ndiyacinga, umntu wangaphakathi kuthi singabafazi unemvakalelo kwaye sijonge indoda enokondla iimvakalelo zethu ngandlela thile. Kodwa, ukuba esi simo sengqondo sinokuhlala sihlala, singamantombazana amancinci kwaye singaze sikhule.
Sr.Em. Uyikhethe njani iMassimiliano?
UJelena: Sidibene kwiminyaka emithathu eyadlulayo. Sobabini sasingabafundi "bembali yeCawe" eRoma. Ukungena ebudlelwaneni kunye naye kwakundishukumisela ukuba ndohlule kwaye kwandenza ndakhula ngokwenyani. UMassimiliano uyazi ukuba unononophelo kakhulu kwaye uhlala ehleli kwindlela yakhe. Ihlala ingqineke iyinyani kwaye inzulu kwizigqibo zakhe ngelixa ndingatshintsha lula ingqondo yam. Ineempawu ezintle! Eyona nto yanditsalelayo kuye yayingaphezu kwalo lonke uthando lwakhe ngobumsulwa. Ndiva ngakumbi kwaye ndimhlonela ngakumbi kwaye bendisoloko ndifumanisa ukuba ukhetha into elungileyo kum. Ndiyakholelwa ukuba kumfazi, ukuhlonipha indoda kunokuba yimpiliso yokwenyani, kuba kuhlala kuthathelwa ingqalelo kwaye kujongwa njengento!
Umqeshi: Sisiphi isimo sengqondo onokuthi ucebise ngaso kubathandi abancinci abacinga ngomtshato?
UJelena: ubudlelwane buqala ngohlobo olunomtsalane, olungafanele lungahoywa. Kodwa kufuneka sihambe ngaphezulu. Ukuba awuzifi ngokwakho, amandla omzimba okanye amachiza anyamalala ngokulula. Ke, akukho nto iseleyo. Kulungile ukuba eli xesha "lokuthatheka" liphela ngokukhawuleza, kuba inyani yokuziva unomdla omnye komnye ikuthintela ekuboneni ubuhle benye, nokuba iyamkhanga. Mhlawumbi, ukuba uThixo wayengasinikanga esi sipho, amadoda nabafazi ngekhe batshata! Ke le nto iyinyani. Kimi, ubumsulwa sisipho esivumela isibini ukuba sifunde ukuthanda ngokwenene, kuba ubumsulwa bufikelela kuyo yonke into enxulumene nobomi besibini. Ukuba anifundanga ukuhloniphana, ubudlelwane buye bona buchithe. Xa sizingcwalisa kwisakramente somtshato, sithi: "Ndiyakuthembisa ukukuthanda ndikuhlonele". Imbeko ayinakuze ihlukaniswe luthando.