Ngaba ukuhamba nenja kunokuphucula ubomi bakho bomthandazo?
Umthandazo wenziwa lula kunye nekholwa elineenyawo ezinemilenze emine.
"Ukuhamba kwakho kubonakala ngathi kukukhula kwesibini, xa ubaleka ehlathini uphethe izinja kwaye ungowabantu ngendlela ongenakukwazi ngayo ukuba nabantu." -Rachel Lyons, ukuba abe yinja
Inja yam kwaye sivuka ntsasa nganye phambi kwelanga, kuba 4:30 ekuseni ukuba ngqo. Ndabeka izihlangu zam ngokuzolileyo ukuze ndingavuki usapho kwaye ndibambe intamo entanyeni yam, ndimcela ukuba ahlale phantsi kancinci ngelixa ndiyenza. Ndicinezela ngokukhawuleza ukuqala embizeni yekofu kwaye ndiphume.
Ukuhamba kuyafana ntsasa nganye. Sihla ngamanqanaba kwaye sihamba ngeentloko kwikona ukuze siqale ukhenketho lwethu olude lweekhilomitha ngeenxa zonke eselumelwaneni. Kusemva kwexesha - akukho mntu uphaphile ngaphandle komvundla onesithukuthezi otsiba ethe cwaka njengoko sidlula - kodwa yindlela endiyithanda ngayo.
Kuthatha kuphela ixesha ekuzeni kokusa, iinyawo zethu ezi-XNUMX zibethe ecaleni kwendlela ngesantya esomeleleyo, ukuze umzimba wam uphumle kwaye nengqondo yam ihambe kancinci. Apha ekuseni kakhulu, inja yam kunye nam, uJack, sikunye kunye nomhlaba. Kukule nxu lumano, phakathi komntu kunye nesilwanyana kunye nendalo, endikubona kwaye ukunxibelelana ngokucacileyo noThixo.
Umthandazo awusoloko ulula okanye ucacile. Kum yayingumsebenzi ongenambulelo ixesha elide. Engqondweni yam, umthandazo wawusoloko usisithethe emadolweni akho, izandla zakho zidibene kunye, intloko yakho ithotyelwe ekuhloneleni iNkosi. Khange ndibone mithandazeli idluliswa kwikhawuntari, ndiye ndazivumela ukuba ndibaleke ebomini. Kutsha nje, kwenye yezi ndlela ehamba noJack, ndiye ndaqonda ukuba bendithandaza qho xa siphuma.
Isingqengqelo senja yam sizolile kukuma kancinci ukuba ndikuxabise konke ukulunga kukaThixo.Ungcwele uFrancis, othelekisa uJobe 12: 7 wathi: "Buza amarhamncwa kwaye aya kukufundisa ubuhle beli lizwe". Ukujonga uJack enxibelelana nayo yonke indalo kuyinto ebonakalayo. Kuthatha naphi na emhlabeni. Kodwa imvo yakhe engapheliyo yokuhoya ayenzi into yokuphelisa ukucamngca kwethu. Endaweni yoko, yinxalenye yokuziqhelanisa nayo ngokwayo. Nuka, hlwulu, yima kwaye uzixabise iintyatyambo eziqhakazayo, imithi emikhulu edumileyo ebumelwaneni bam eChicago.
Yibize ukuba ufuna ntoni - ukungenelela kobuThixo, ifuthe elingcwele lesilwanyana, okanye ukujongwa kuphela - kodwa ekuhambeni kwexesha ndiye ndaqonda ukuba mandingene emthandazweni xa uhamba kusasa. Kubonakala kuyindalo kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu.
Ukuhamba noJack yinguqulelo yam yokuthandazela i-Liturgy of the Hours, ethi udade wase-Benedictine u-Anita Louise Lowe uthi "singaphuma sinexhala thina kuphela. . . kwaye [unxibelelanise] nathi ngecawe iphela kunye nehlabathi liphela. Ukuhamba uJack kundenza ndikwazi ukunxibelelana. Nditsalelwa ingqalelo yam yemihla ngemihla kwiimfuno zam kwaye ndifuna ukujonga endaweni yesinye isidalwa esiphilayo. Ndivuka ekukhanyiseni kokuqala kungekuko kuba ndiyathanda ukuvuka ngaphambi kokuba ilanga libe nethuba lokuphuma kodwa ngenxa yokuba uJack efuna umthambo. Ubukho bakhe bundizisa kulwalamano olunzulu nokholo lwam. Nokuba kusebusuku kakhulu xa ndidiniwe kakhulu, ndisazifumana ndigxile emthandazweni kwangoko iinyawo zam zibethe phantsi. Ekuzinikezeleni kwam kwesi silwanyana, ndiyazinikezela kuThixo, kuba uJack kukuphiliswa emzimbeni kukulunga kukaThixo.
Udade waseDominican uRhonda Miska uchaza iofisi yemihla ngemihla njenge "hinges ekuqaleni nasekupheleni kosuku". Yile nto kanye ekujolise kuyo. Uhambo ngalunye yincwadana yemihla ngemihla.
Uhambo lwasekuseni luvula iingqondo zam kunye nentliziyo kwaye indinika ithuba lokugxila kumhla omtsha. Ndiyambulela uThixo ngobomi bam ngeentsikelelo zakhe ezininzi, ephawula utshintsho elumelwaneni kwaye ndizonwabela kwiindawo eziqhelekileyo. Akukho mntu ujikeleze kwaye ilanga liphuma ngokuthe ngcembe, kulula kakhulu ukuphulukana nobuhle obujikeleze kum. Akukho ziphazamiso zentsasa, ngaphandle kokugcwala komoya omtsha ngelixa mna noJack sihamba nobunzima. Lo ngumthandazo wethu wokuvula, uJack kunye nam endibancoma ndedwa, equka ukuntywila kunye nokuthula kunokuba iindumiso neengoma.
Olunye u-bookend lomhla luhambo lwethu lwangokuhlwa, iivasla zethu. Ukuhamba kwahlukile kodwa kwaye akuguquki. Siphambukele kwicala elahlukileyo lohambo lwethu lwangaphambili, sonwabela iivisas ezintsha kunye - nekaJack - amavumba lawo angakhange ahlolwe xa kuphuma ilanga. Ngelixa iSan Benedetto ithethayo ukuba i-vesvet kufuneka yenzeke ngaphambi kokuba kufuneke ukukhanya kwesibane, isibane sethu sixhomekeke kwixesha lonyaka. Kumaxesha ebusika anqabileyo sigqubuthele ebumnyameni ngelixa ehlotyeni ilanga liqala ngokuhlwa. Endaweni yokuba ndijonge kusuku olulandelayo, ndizinika ixesha lokujonga kwakhona kwiminyhadala yemini edluleyo. Ndenza uluhlu lweengqondo zam ngamava am afanelekileyo kwiiyure ezili-12 ezidlulileyo, ukuphawula endinombulelo ngako noko ndinokusebenza ukuphucula.
Ngamaxesha athule wokubonakalisa ndifumana lula ukugxila ngaphakathi. Kuba ndingumntu oxhalabeleyo ngokubanzi, ingqondo yam ayifane icothe. Ndisoloko ndilala kakubi, kuba ndikufumanisa kunzima ukuzolisa iingcinga zam. Kodwa njengokuba ndihamba noJack ndiyayiqonda into ethethwa nguSanta Ignatius xa ebhala esithi: "Kungenxa yokungazi kakhulu, kodwa ukuqonda nokugcina izinto ngaphakathi, okwanelisa kwaye kwanelisa umphefumlo".
UJack undibonisa ubukho bukaThixo kwindalo. Iimfuno zakhe zadala ubomi bomthandazo endingaswele nto kwaye ndandiwudinga kakhulu. Ngohambo lwethu kunye ndigxile ngakumbi kwaye andikhathazeki kakhulu ngeengxaki ezincinci. Ekugqibeleni ndiziva ndinxulumene nokholo lwam.
Abanye banokufumanisa ukuba ubomi babo bomthandazo bufezekisiwe phantsi kophahla oluqaqambileyo lwekati endala, abanye banokuyifumana becula kwaye bedanisa okanye becamngca bethe cwaka kwigumbi elimnyama. Kum, nangona kunjalo, iya kuhlala ihamba kamnandi kwiiyure ezincinci kakhulu kusasa kunye noJack kunye nabadubuli bendlela ngokuhlwa, uphefumla umoya omtsha kwaye uhambe njengobunye.
Ungathi ubomi bam bomthandazo buye ezinjeni, kodwa ngekhe ndifune ukuyenza ngenye indlela.