NgeLent, uyeka umsindo kwaye afune ukuxolelwa

UShannon, iqabane lenkampani yezomthetho yaseChicago, wayenomthengi owanikwa ithuba lokusombulula ityala nomntu okhuphisana naye kwezorhwebo nge- $ 70.000 kunye nokuvalwa kweshishini okhuphisana nalo.

"Ndilumkise ndaphindaphinda umthengi wam ukuba ukumsa enkundleni okhuphisana naye kuya kuphumela kumvuzo omncinci," utsho uShannon. Kodwa qho xa ndiyicacisa, undixelela ukuba akakhathali. Wayenzakele kwaye wayefuna ukuchitha usuku lwakhe enkundleni. Wayezimisele ukwenzakalisa okhuphisana naye ngakumbi, nokuba oko kuya kuza nendleko kuye. Xa ityala laya enkundleni, uShannon waphumelela, kodwa njengoko bekulindelekile, ijaji yanikezela umthengi wakhe nje i-50.000 yeedola kwaye yavumela okhuphisana naye ukuba aqhubeke neshishini. "Umxhasi wam ushiye inkundla ekrakra kwaye enomsindo, nangona ephumelele," utshilo.

UShannon uthi eli tyala aliqhelekanga. “Abantu ngokomgaqo. Benza impazamo yokukholelwa ekubeni ukuba banokumenzakalisa umntu obonile, ukuba banokubenza bahlawule kuphela, baya kuziva bhetele. Kodwa ukuqaphela kwam kukuba abaziva bengcono, nokuba bayaphumelela bahlala bezisa ingqumbo efanayo, kwaye ngoku bachithe ixesha nemali. "

UShannon uqaphele ukuba akacebisi ukuba aboni abanakubekwa tyala. Andithethi ngeemeko ezibengezelayo ezifuna isenzo esinentsingiselo, utshilo. "Ndiyathetha xa umntu evumela isithunzi sesigqibo esibi somnye umntu ukuba sibugqibe ubomi babo." UShannon uthi xa oku kusenzeka, ngakumbi ukuba yinto yosapho, ubona uxolelo kwaye aqhubele phambili njengexabiso elikhulu kumthengi kunokuwina ngokomgaqo.

“Umfazi usandula ukuza kum kuba akholelwa ukuba udadewabo umkhohlisile ngesabelo sakhe selifa kutata wabo. Unyanisile lo mfazi, kodwa imali ihambile kwaye ngoku yena nodadewabo bathathe umhlalaphantsi, utshilo uShannon. “Eli bhinqa lalisele lichithe amashumi amawaka eedola ukumangalela udadewabo. Undixelele ukuba akangekhe avume ukuba udadewabo abaleke nomzekelo azowubeka kunyana wakhe osele ekhulile. Ndicebise ukuba ukusukela kungabikho ndlela yokubuyisa imali, mhlawumbi kungabaluleka kakhulu kunyana ukubukela umama wakhe exolela umakazi wakhe, ukumbona ezama ukuqala ubudlelwane kwakhona emva kokophula ukuthembana. "

Iingcali ezinomsebenzi wokusebenza nabantu njengoko behamba kwezona meko zinzima ebomini zinokusifundisa okuninzi malunga nefuthe elibi lokubamba iintlungu nomsindo oza nazo. Banikezela ngemibono malunga nendlela yokuqhubela phambili phakathi kwemiceli mngeni yeemeko ezixakekileyo.

Umsindo uncangathi
U-Andrea, unontlalontle osebenza kwiinkonzo zokukhusela abantwana, uphawula ukuba abantu ababanjwa benomsindo bahlala bengazi ukuba bayabanjwa. Uthi: "Umgangatho onamathelayo wentsalela yeemvakalelo usenokusibambezela," utshilo. "Inyathelo lokuqala kukwamkela ukuba ubandakanyekile kule quagmire yeemvakalelo ezinokuchaphazela zonke iinkalo zobomi bakho ukusuka ekugcwaliseni i-pantry yakho ukuya kwenza umsebenzi."

UAndrea ubona umsonto oqhelekileyo phakathi kwabantu abadlulayo ngomsindo kunye nokwenzakala ekunyangeni nasekuphumeleleni. “Abantu abakwaziyo ukoyisa ubunzima baye bakhulisa amandla okujonga nzulu iimeko zabo zobomi kwaye baqonde ukuba kwenzeka ntoni kubo ngaphambili ayilotyala labo. Ke, ukukuqonda oku, bathabatha inyathelo elilandelayo lokuqonda ukuba ukuba banomsindo, abayi kuba nakho ukufumana uxolo. Bafundile ukuba akukho ndlela yoxolo ngomsindo. "

UAndrea uthi olunye uphawu lwabantu abomeleleyo kukukwazi kwabo ukungavumeli imizabalazo yabo yangaphambili, nokuba ibalulekile, ibachaze. "Umthengi owayenengxaki yokugula ngengqondo kunye nokulutha wathi impumelelo yafika xa umcebisi emnceda ukuba aqonde ukuba kwindawo yobomi bakhe, ukuba likhoboka lakhe kunye nokugula ngengqondo kwakufana nomnwe omncinci," utshilo. “Ewe, bebekhona kwaye beyinxalenye yakhe, kodwa bekukho okungakumbi kuye kunale miba mibini. Xa wamkela le ngcamango, wakwazi ukutshintsha ubomi bakhe. "

UAndrea uthi okufanayo kuya kubantu abazifumana bekwimeko ezingaginyisi mathe kunabaxumi bakhe. “Xa kufikwa kumsindo, akunamsebenzi ukuba umntu ujongana neemeko ezinzima endizibonayo okanye enye into kubomi bemihla ngemihla. Kungaba sempilweni ukuba nomsindo kwimeko, uthathe inyathelo, kwaye uqhubeke. Into engaphilanga kukuba imeko ikutye, ”utshilo.

UAndrea uphawula ukuba umthandazo kunye nokucamngca kunokwenza kube lula ukuba nemfesane kwabanye efunekayo ukoyisa umsindo. "Umthandazo kunye nokucamngca kungasinceda ukuba siqwalasele ngcono ubomi bethu kwaye kunokusinceda ukuba singabinakho ukuzicingela kwaye sibambeke kwiimvakalelo xa kukho into engahambi kakuhle."

Musa ukulinda de kube sekufeni
ULisa Marie, unontlalontle obamba iindwendwe, uhlala nabantu abaninzi abafayo nyaka ngamnye kunye neentsapho azikhonzayo. Fumana inyani kwisiseko sencwadi ka-Ira Byock yokufa, Izinto ezine ezibaluleke kakhulu (Iincwadi zeAtria). "Xa abantu besweleka, kufuneka bazive bethandwa, bazive ukuba ubomi babo bebunenjongo, banike kwaye bafumane uxolelo kwaye bakwazi nokuvalelisa," utshilo.

ULisa Marie ubalisa ibali lesigulana ebesishiyene nodadewabo iminyaka engaphezu kwama-20: “Lo dade weza kumbona; Kwakukudala engamboni ukuba ajonge isacholo sasesibhedlele ukuqinisekisa ukuba ngenene ngumntakwabo. Kodwa wavalelisa wamxelela ukuba uyamthanda. ULisa Marie uthi le ndoda yasweleka ngoxolo kwiiyure ezimbini kamva.

Ukholelwa ekubeni isidingo esifanayo sothando, intsingiselo, ukuxolelwa kunye nokuvalelisa siyimfuneko ebomini. “Njengomzali, umzekelo, ukuba uchitha usuku olubi nomntwana kwaye unengxaki yokuxolela, unokuba nesisu esibuhlungu. Ungangakwazi ukulala, ”utsho uLisa Marie. "Kwi-hospice, siyayiqonda ingqondo, umzimba, unxibelelwano ngokomoya kwaye siyibona ngalo lonke ixesha."

Ubuntununtunu bukaLisa Marie kumsindo oqinileyo kunye nenzondo inokuba yamazisa indlela yakhe ngaphaya kwebhedi yezigulana zakhe.

"Ukuba ungene kwigumbi kwaye wabona umntu ebukhobokeni- umntu owayebotshelelwe emzimbeni-unokwenza nantoni na ukuyikhulula," utshilo. “Xa ndihlangana nomntu obotshelelwe ngumsindo nengqumbo, ndiyabona ukuba nabo babotshiwe njengamntu odibene nomzimba. Rhoqo xa ndibona oku kunethuba lokuthetha into ngobunono, ukunceda umntu anyibilike. "

KuLisa Marie, la maxesha amalunga nokunxibelelana ngokwaneleyo noMoya oyiNgcwele ukuze wazi ukuba lixesha lokuba uthethe. “Mhlawumbi ndimile ebaleni nabanye abazali; mhlawumbi ndilapha evenkileni. Xa sizama ukuphila ubomi uThixo asenzele bona, siliqonda ngakumbi ithuba lokusetyenziswa njengezandla neenyawo zikaThixo ”.